being asked to sell?

the likely thing is that A has been complimentary about your horse, the YO sees this and wonders if you might sell given that you are getting A to ride anyway, they have set up the conversation to ask in a casual way rather than straigh tout - I would be complimented but also saying that he is never for sale in an equally causal manner :)
 
I think Shavings took it personally because she's had such a bad run with Levi, cut head resulting in staples, strangles, ulcers, then an abscess, then a bruised sole then this SI injury (all since December). YM was also well aware of how heartbroken she was that he may never be sound again or return to work (rehab going well so good prognosis) so it seemed very insensative to me to set up the conversation..
 
Personally, I would probably have been furious if this happened to me, and told the YM to eff off. Absolutely NONE of their business what type of horse you have, unless you ask specifically for their opinion.
I guess it is also complimentary that someone likes your horse enough to want to buy him. Perhaps YM has misinterpreted the situation and thinks that you no longer feel happy riding him yourself rather than just following vet orders with the lightweight rider.
 
I really wouldn't worry, or be offended!
I have a lottery list of friends horses I would want if I won the lottery!! They are not offended, think they would be more upset if their horse didn't make my ever expanding list!!!
Not necessarily in your case, but I do think some people take offence a little too easily, lots of times people just say things without thinking anything of it, the person it's been said to can take it to heart, fester on it and the person who said it may not even remember what they said!! If I had a penny for everytime this has genuinely happened I think I'd be rather rich! ( not all from things I've said I'll add).
People think differently, I'd take someone wanting to buy a horse of mine as a compliment, better than than saying they wouldn't want to touch it with a barge pole!!! :)
Really op I wouldn't worry, in the words of Elsa 'let it go'!! :)
 
Shavings, just be a bit careful with this one - from your previous posts I worked out where you are.

You know what it can be like !! :-)
 
I would just say 'I love him. He isn't going anywhere. But yes, he is perfectly lovely isn't he?' Take it as a compliment to your lovely horse and don't worry about it. Just be pleased he is yours.
 
Complete overreaction by OP, and a few on this thread. Horse may never be up to someone OP's weight riding again, OP damaged by previous horse, current horse getting on well with smaller rider. YM suggests more suitable (albeit OP leg issue aside) pairings. In jest /casually/ seriously... Whatever .So what?
 
I wouldn't worry about it. I have had similar happen over the years and while it is annoying sometimes I dont think people think about what they are saying sometimes! On example: I used to have a lovely horse when I was younger, well schooled and jumped great. One day I come back in the yard and yo was there with a lad thst used to ride their cobs and says ' oh if you want him jumping anytime, L will do it for you' Well, im rarely lost for words so said ' Why would I want someone else to ride him? Im perfectly more than capable of jumping my own horse thanks!'

The thing is ive competed tonnes when I was younger and was quite successful, the only reason I didnt then is because of money/time constraints. Plus no offence to the boy, because he was a nice lad, but he had only been riding a little bit and only really just hacking out.It does annoy me massively when people just assume because you dont do something then you are not capable!

So I would just say if it happens again - ' well if I ever think if selling him and your still interested I'll let you know'

And smile sweetly :-D
 
Illusion100 said:
Correct me if I'm wrong and although I fully undertand why, it appears this comment from the YO has been taken personally by you. I would take it personally too and I think your YO was a bit out of line, however my advice is don't let it get to you.

Put it out of your mind and carry on with your precious lad doing what you feel is best for him. Everyone has an opinion but that doesn't mean you have to take notice of it. :)

Good luck with the ongoing rehab and looking forward to future updates. :)
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Agree with this! Personally feel it was quite a rude comment made by your YM. However don't let it get to you. Just keep enjoying your boy and to hell with what everyone else thinks.
If any further comments are made by A or YM simply smile and say "he is not for sale and nor is he ever likely to be" and leave it at that
 
SatansLittleHelper said:
Sorry but I'd be fuming...YM has no right to make comments like that 😠
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I think that's really silly a YMer can say anything they want their not a mother superior in a closed order .
It's flattering if someone would like to buy your Horse it's not something to get into a tat about .
 
If I was you I wouldn't be letting A ride him anymore to be honest. Get it out of their head that they can have him quickly. I sometimes have other people school my horse for me either due to time issues or i want him to have some different schooling (usually jumping) but everyone knows I won't sell him so they don't ask.

I have been told to sell him in the past by my instructor but he has seen that he was wrong and has admitted that. He is now just going to help me through the tantrum stages with the horse whenever he is finally sound again. You need better people like him around you so I would be tempted to move if you can.
 
ThursdayNext said:
Complete overreaction by OP, and a few on this thread. Horse may never be up to someone OP's weight riding again, OP damaged by previous horse, current horse getting on well with smaller rider. YM suggests more suitable (albeit OP leg issue aside) pairings. In jest /casually/ seriously... Whatever .So what?
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Well, you're charm personified, aren't you? Might help if you RTWT, especially the part where her vet says she's under the top weight for her horse by 4 stones and that it was recommended using a very light rider purely during the rehab process.

Shavings, a young lad is learning to ride on my boy currently and would love to own him, but it's just a dream for him. He loves the horse and is happy just grooming him. I like that he loves my horse so much.

I think your yo was very rude to phrase what was said in that way and I would have tackled her on the spot.
 
Maybe I'm just thick-skinned but I'd have taken it as a compliment for my lovely horse :) People in the equine world say all sorts of things but you just let it wash over you if you don't like it and carry on doing whatever you want. I had someone being very persistent with me at a show, making offers for my mare and I had to hide from her in the end but I was flattered that she liked my pony so much :D
 
I think I would be more annoyed over the YO's actions/words than the fact that rider A wishes to buy your horse. Anyone asking if your horse for sale is a complement so I always take it as such so don't get offended by the girl asking but I would find the time for a quiet word with your YO when no other ears are about.
 
I agree that you should have answered the yo on the spot in the moment if you felt it was out of line (in my opinion it was rude) however i would really let it go now. Things can easily blow up and become a bigger problem than they need to be, you don't want this passing comment to turn into an argument or fester into tension between yourself and the yo or even the rider. Enjoy your horse, he's your horse and no one elses business on what you do for him. I think it's beautiful the way you love him and are offering a forever home, your horse is lucky to have you. So let the comments go, pretend you never heard them, and continue loving and enjoying your forever companion :) x
 
I would be livid if this was said to me. I would not take it as a complement, and i tell you why, because the YM said hes not the horse for you. There is a difference between saying you should buy him hes a nice horse etc which can be taken as a complement, but when the YM says hes not the one for you thats overstepping the line; its personal. What right does she have to firstly make that assumption and secondly voice it to the owner. Its a hurtful and spiteful comment.

Secondly, from what OP has said about A and the competing at the yard and from what this horse has been through medically i dont think doing all that Jazz with him would be good for him. So why would A be the right owner for him. Sounds like you care alot for this horse OP and hes lucky to have you.

If you OP never wanted to ride him again but just wanted to love and care for him as you evidently do, thats perfectly fine and dosent make A a better or more suitable owner than you.
 
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