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Why is it that so many mums have to brag and big up their daughters?? Both daughters are ok riders but nothing spectaular, same as most of us really (:rolleyes:) but to hear them going on you'd think they were doing the Olympics next year!!! One of them is 6 and the other is 9 so don't think they stand much chance of that :) Anyway I'll stop ranting and thank you for letting me get that off my chest :D
 
I think it could be abit more rose tinted glasses, a parent always thinks their children are great. I'd say its more out of love for her daugthers doing something that makes them happy than bragging
 
It annoys me too!
But i think its the kind of person they are.
They were probably "better" than everyone else when they were younger, now its transfered to their children.
I bet the are the best parents in the world too!
 
I agree that it could be just because they are proud but I have to hear about it everyday! I love hearing about other people's success but on a daily basis it does get a tad tedious. :)
 
crazyhorse4727 said:
I think it could be abit more rose tinted glasses, a parent always thinks their children are great. I'd say its more out of love for her daugthers doing something that makes them happy than bragging
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^^^^ This

As a parent of 2 girls, I am biased towards them and will always encourage them.

They're not doing anyone any harm and it's up to us as parents to give confidence to our children.
 
I would guess it would get more than annoying, but mayb this mum is also not working and all and is living life through and for her daugthers, so their sucessess are her sucessess. It might be one of them things you have to filter then let off steam at a safe distance when it gets to much! :)
 
I am a proud mummy of a 10 yr old and 4 yr old, I am often the first person to say ohhhhhhh B did her first canter today, shes got such a natural seat etc, but I think there is a big difference from being proud of your children than bragging, thats something different, If I was to say, B cantered today and she is so brilliant at it, and her seat is so natural she will be a famous jockey one day....

theres a big difference I think the OP is referring to the latter, and yep would agitate me too!! haha xx
 
I'm sorry if I have upset some people! Not my intention at all. I encourage my daughter all the time! It's 2 mums and I am doing my best to smile and be polite but as I have said it does get a bit boring! Maybe I'm being hormonal this morning. Or maybe I'm jealous, I don't know anway sorry again to anyone that thinks I'm being a b**ch! Not my intention was just letting off a bit of steam :)
 
Devonshire dumpling said:
I am a proud mummy of a 10 yr old and 4 yr old, I am often the first person to say ohhhhhhh B did her first canter today, shes got such a natural seat etc, but I think there is a big difference from being proud of your children than bragging, thats something different, If I was to say, B cantered today and she is so brilliant at it, and her seat is so natural she will be a famous jockey one day....

theres a big difference I think the OP is referring to the latter, and yep would agitate me too!! haha xx
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This is exactly what they are like! Thanks for understanding
 
Ithink until you have kids you dont realise just how much they amaze you.

Oh and i were discussing this in a traffic jam, the boy was pointing and mooing at cows and clicking at horses the way i do, and we were so proud of him and both said how to anyone else thats completely mundane, but to us because he is ours its brilliant.

If you dont encourage them then where will they get the drive to achieve?
 
Similar to a mum a couple of years ago. Used to go on about how good her daughter was and such a natural etc. Said daughter shared a pony with another loaner and it was the other loaner's fault the pony didn't canter/kicked in stable/wouldn't move etc etc. Yet this child then loaned another pony by herself and the pony dragged her everywhere and loaner took it back as it was getting dangerous.

But of course, it wasn't possibly anything to do with the way the child handled it.
There is a difference as said regarding giving child confidence and being happy when they do something, or constantly bragging about them.
 
fidleyspromise said:
Similar to a mum a couple of years ago. Used to go on about how good her daughter was and such a natural etc. Said daughter shared a pony with another loaner and it was the other loaner's fault the pony didn't canter/kicked in stable/wouldn't move etc etc. Yet this child then loaned another pony by herself and the pony dragged her everywhere and loaner took it back as it was getting dangerous.

But of course, it wasn't possibly anything to do with the way the child handled it.
There is a difference as said regarding giving child confidence and being happy when they do something, or constantly bragging about them.
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Quite right too! ^^
 
I can see where you’re coming from but also on the other hand I’d love to have some children I could brag/talk/be proud off.
 
Once again sorry if I've upset anyone!
As a teacher I know all about encouraging each and every child, raising self esteem and confidence. It's been my job for many years! I was just having a bit of a moment this morning and didn't mean to offend/upset anyone!
 
As a parent of 4, no offence taken!!! Honest :)

Ah, ignore 'em! So many people (adult and children alike) big themselves up in their equestrian abilities. It's irritating but nothing new!!! :p
 
consar said:
Once again sorry if I've upset anyone!
As a teacher I know all about encouraging each and every child, raising self esteem and confidence. It's been my job for many years! I was just having a bit of a moment this morning and didn't mean to offend/upset anyone!
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Don't worry, you didn't offend :)
 
consar said:
Once again sorry if I've upset anyone!
As a teacher I know all about encouraging each and every child, raising self esteem and confidence. It's been my job for many years! I was just having a bit of a moment this morning and didn't mean to offend/upset anyone!
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Not offended :) just explaining things from one parents perspective.
 
Well my mum reckons I can ride almost anything, and have an electric bum which is like glue- but she ADORES remembering the one little sod I could never sit to when he decided to hump ;)

I do remember other mums though, one in particular who rode all her child's ponies, so the girl just sat pretty on them, and she thought she was a brill rider?

And then I saw a 10yo (approx) at a show the other day, and she rode absolutely beautifully, and it's likely she really will go far :)

Anyway- not really much point to my post!!! Just 3 examples I could think of :D
 
I think most pushy mums are just trying to live their dreams through their daughters. They are just sad and don't have a life! Just ignore them! :)
 
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