BITCHES

Am not bitchy
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Try extremely hard to be nice to everyone....that is until they say something about me. Then they get it.
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I love my yard, 3 of us - the one I see the most of is 20 years old and a breath of fresh air, she can bitch for England but I just tell her she is the worlds youngest cynic (sp!)!!!!!
 
I have not been on a yard for years, however when I was on a big yard I think the bitching was dependent on how involved you got with certain people.

My humble opinion is that people with horses all have different knowledge and views on how things should be done. It gets quite conflicting on this forum and I have read a few little fights over the months - and thats stangers!!!

I think that these conflicts can only start by what comes out of people's mouths and then leads to all sorts. It is a shame that this can cause unhappiness and I personally would keep myself to myself and perhaps have just a couple of trusted people who I open up to.
 
The bitching out here not only extends to yards but the ENTIRE coast. I get really fed up of it, hence I asked my dad to build me stables at home, so the only person that can and does bitch is me - to myself - about me!!!
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What is the point of it? I thought we all had horses cos we love them, not to compete with other people about who knows best about something!
 
I steer well clear of livery yards because I know it will bring out the worse in me which I am well aware of. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who THINK they know better when actually there are just different ways of doing things and every body thinks they are doing the 'right' thing.
If you think about it there are sooo many different bits, saddles, feeds.bedding.clothing,rugs........to choose from that whatever you get, somebody will disaprove of ( usually out of jealousy imo)
All horses are individuals and so are people and there are plenty of different ways of doing the same thing.
It does sometimes become quite noticeable on this forum from some remarks that have been made to others.
Insecurity and lack of knowledge about why someone is or isnt doing something causes bitching to let rot set in to any stable yard
 
Argh! I don't want to have to go back to a livery yard!

Yes there is one on every yard. I was on a large livery yard once and one girl's nastiness ended up with my horse overnight it hospital and a few hundred pounds of bills.

There will always be bitching, and at some point you'll be the target of it. I do think it's jealously and insecurity.
 
It was. I posted about it but the gist of it was she waited until I'd left the yard, moved my horse to another field where he couldn't see any other horses. (So her best friend could share a field with her) He panicked, tried to jump a fence, clipped the top of it and ended up with a large gash and then an infection.

She didn't even tell me what had happened, just left him like that until I got there in the morning.
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What a cow!!

Someone did that to me at a competition, there are 1500 boxes on this complex and I got one next to my friend so we were in the same place for the trainer. We went for lunch and came back and there was another horse in my box, mine had been put around the corner with no one to see, no food, water or bed.
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Just so they could have theirs all in a row!
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What would ahve happened if I hadn't come back!!!
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I know!! it did result in a rather large multi lingual fight which in the end got their horse moved and I got the lovely big bed they had put down!!!
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Funnily enough, we are actually friends with the people now!
 
I am yet to meet someone who can be plesant 24/7, and I dont think its possible as there are so many things happening that you migh not know about. Like sometimes I get to the yard and just cannot be bothered talking to anyone as I have had to deal with completely useless people all day who try my patience, and so I do have a gripe, and I even gripe to myself - like last night for instance when I was mucking out I was mumbling as another horse had clearly been in the stable beau is in as there was haylege on the floor and the bed was all whisked up, and there were 2 different kinds of poo (I know my horses poo!). And I was pissed off as I was a) late because of work b)freexing and c) in a hurry plus I was feeling bad as he had been out the night before all night as I couldnt get up to muck himout. I had been deep littering him, but the bed was beyond saving so had to take it up so it took twice a long.

And all the while I was muttering under my breath, but decided to take neddie in and let him at least eat hay whilst I did it. But where was I going to put him.........why in another persons empty stable.....and when I saw the padlock on the door my brain kinda kicked me and went "god your a moany hypocritical biatch".
But I know I owuldnt have been upset if there hadnt been other factors involved, but I do also know that I tidy up if I have to use/borrow someones stuff (I had to learn with my wee sis as she could tell when ANYTHING was touched).

But I would NEVER move someones horse without telling weither them or the Yard owner, and never without good reason or against their safety.

But you can see people going around in their wee packs some times - yes I am in one to but its cos my horse loves her horse and we are in the same barn and moved from the same stables - and when they stand and watch you it can be sooo imtimidating!! especially when u see them all talk, then look at you, then talk again! I do watch a few of the people at the yard ride, but thats the ones I could learn something off of.

Its usually Jealousy and lack of (maybe sometimes over confidence in) their own abilities. I have it at work, home and the stables!! Ther eis no escaping.............except when I'm with my OH on our bikes up the top of a big hill with no one else around for miles..............................................ok, now im off to daydream
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Sorry for that randomness
 
My yard isn't at all bitchy. My last yard which was a big livery/riding school was awful, so many rumours and bitching but I always kept out of it to be honest. My closest friend (who moved her horse to the new yard with me) is a model and all the girls where so bitchy to her for no reason just because she is slim and pretty. I kept hearing rumours she was anorexic which I would always have to defend as I often had pigging-out sessions with her and she was just naturally slim! I can't understand why girls can be so mean, she's such a lovely person who just happens to be pretty! Our new yard is fantastic, a small friendly yard and everyone is honestly lovely! It's a little piece of horsey paradise!
 
im bitchy if someone gives me a need to be. if someone is doing /saying something out of order i will comment on it.
our yard, as are 99% of yards, can be bitchy but its generally a nice place to be.

all things in life are bitchy, school work yards all get a few bitches or every so often you need to have a good bitch.

i cant stand people that say Im not bitchy! and gasp at the very prospect. 9 times out 10 they are either lying or kidding themselves!!
 
I've been around horses and yards for over 20years and have never fallen out with a soul. If theres a group of people you'll generally get bitching of sorts but I don't think horsey people are any worse than anyone else!
 
I run a livery yard and work really hard to keep an exellent atmosphere I control the tea room we all sit and talk everyone is treated the same when i choose the clients it is with respect to the clients already there they are a smashing bunch. Running a yard is VERY demanding sometimes i feel more like Marg Proops than a dressage queen!!! The other thing is that I am a professional i eat sleep and breath this profession high end high quality is what i offer you have to be stong and have clear guidelines and good well trained staff all of which i am proud to say i have. Consequently my yard is a happy place and we all get on. I dont have D.I.Y because this is where comunication breakdown can occur and the EXPERT will give their pennies worth in. I also ask people to leave if i feel they are fragmenting the yard and they are no longer satisfied with the system. the whole yard is based on what i experienced on the continent , where i spent five years. Its sad when the enjoyment is spoilt when everyone works hard to keep their horses that bad attitude on a yard will spoil it for others. It does come down to good management practice and a blooomin good sense of humour.
 
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