bitchiness about our yard

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hay guys im new, but unfortunatly have joined under sad cercumstances! i was informed by sumone who used to be at my current yard, that sumone was sayin rather nasty things about it! (posting them online in this forum!!) i have been at this yard for just over 3 years! i love it there and couldnt dream of being anywhere else! the girl in queston has only just arived and i feel that it is wrong to say these things! i however i havnt read these posts and havnt been able to find them! but she is definetly a reliable source with no reason to lie! i will not name this girl as i feel that that is the wrong thing to do as she will know who she is!! if she feels that the GIRLS up there are v bitchy! then she is talking about me and the other girl up there sarah! sarah wouldnt harm a fly she is one of the nicest people i have ever met in the horsy world! she would do any thing for you or your horse no matter how much it would inconvenence her! and im loud but would never talk about sumone behind their back (this is an exception as i hope she will read this)! we have a close nit comunity there as half of us have been there for at least a year and have been through ruff times together bringing us closer! we welcome other people and find this girl lovely!!! she has a very lovely horse who she loving rescued and doats on him daily!

as to the quiry about the school if u look in the book u will clearly see a patren in when it is booked! if this is a problem sorry but u have the same rites to book it out! and if its not booked and someones in there then you are more then welcome to join them/us!!

i would also like to say that i hope this puts a stop to it as the farmers who own it dont know anthing about horses! but would be mortified to find out that someone wasnt happy out at the farm!!!

if you feel that u want to speek to me about this please feel free to aproach me up at the yard or on here!! im not angry, just ofended! im sure that there has been a big understanding and hope to get along with you in the future! i would be happy to ask you for any advice on my horse and would hoope that you feel that you could ask me! <font color="pink"> </font>

if any one feel s that they could help me with this siuation plaese im open for ideas! was this the write thing to do?
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I think the best thing to do would have been to ignore it. Every single yard has its bitches, and everyones entitled to an opinion.
You sound nice and pleasant but some things are better left alone i think! xx
 
Sorry to hear this...I have to say this is why I no longer keep my horses at yards...people would interfere with my horses, feed them when I was not about and even use my tack and cause problems...also lots of backstapping would happen.
I do agree with Welshrarebit that it is better to ignore it and if you like the yard then it is the girls lose...just enjoy what you have and dont listen to anyone else.
 
thanks, i no i came from a yard full of children and there was always that sence of rivalry! but this yard really is a nice place and think that it is wrong of her to say these things! this girl ahs only just arived and i dont think that she should have made those decisions about so soon! and if we did make her feel like that, then she shouldnt start elling people on the internet!! i hope that she knows this is about her so that she can respond!!
 
Why didnt you pm her? or speak to her in person?? Have you seen this post or are you going by hearsay?

You have every right to be angry, but really this isnt the place to vent this....
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She's hardly likely to respond and get into an online argumant with you is she? And even if she did, is that really fair on the rest of the forum??? Please don't clog up the forum with this kind of personal nonsense.
 
IMO it is a little unfair to come on here in this way, it comes across to me as almost accusatory to this girl, whoever it is, and may make things worse. Everyone has problems at their yards, and being the new girl at an already close knit yard can make you feel an outsider and you may be sensitive to these things.

I havent read her post, but a lot of people on here will use it to just let their feelings out rather than keep it bottled up, it's almost like a group of friends. I doubt very much she used it to 'blacklist' the yard

If I'm wrong, I apologise, I just think it should have been left alone
 
she is on holiday at the moment (getting back today!) i feel that speeking to her person wouldnt work as she is still very quiet up at the yard! no i havent seen them but have seen other things to do with our yard and it not being a nice one! i dont intend to start an argument! but she seems to spend alot of time on here and feel that this is the only way to reach her! i simply wondereed if anyone else has been in this situation! and what advice they had!!
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i see where your coming from and i know all about being the new girl!! when i arived i was the person my age (13) the closest to that being 21! also not long ago a very nasty thing was spread about us! we are in failand, near bristol and this rumor got all the way out to bath! we are very protective but im just venting my feelings aswell!
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i wonder if this will only alienate her more though? why don't you pm and introduce yourself and ask if there is anything you can do to help her settle in better. she may be greatful for a friendly chat about the yard.
 
That does kind of assume that the OP knows the username of who has apparently said stuff about the yard.

I can see both sides to this, in one respect if a regular poster sounds off about their yard (and there are planty of these), and gets lots of sympathy..then it only fair for somebody else from the same yard to respond.

I think it is a shame when people can't just communicate, but if somebody posted something negative about my yard I would be very defensive too.
 
Deadpan, Maybe you should be careful what you type on the internet, its a much smaller place than you might think!

Having read your previous posts I don't think you meant any harm, but some of what you have typed could be and has obviously been taken the wrong way.

Take the time to chat to people, life is too short to be shy..
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