Bitchiness in Yards

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Are your yards bitchy? My yard seems to be getting more and more bitchy. I go to the yard to chill out and enjoy myself, but someone has always got something bad to say about someone else.

What are your yards like?
 
I used to think mine was nice and everyone got on but lately theres been a few bitching sessions, mainly over use of trailers etc and not paying for petrol and some turnout issues

on a whole everyone gets on well
 
Have my own stables now but used to hate the arguments at my last yard. Always trying to avoid people etc. I used to live near Esher by the way
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I think most yards seem to start off really nice and friendly then over time the niggling starts and the back biting etc kicks off.
I think that this is the problem as most yards have a lot of women on and lots of women plus horses seems to attract bitchiness. A lot of it is jealousy.

I rarely see the other liveries on my yard as they all have kids so normally come up after school etc where I come before work (5am) then after work (7pm) so I hardly see them. I might see them at a weekend but they come up later than me - they get there about 9.30.

Personally there is nothing better than your own place - but you could fall out with yourself if your in one of those moods
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Well as I am the Yard Owner, I have control somewhat of what goes on within my yard. I have to say that my yards have not been bitchy in the slightest, although admittedly some people in the past have tried to - I generally knock this on the head very quickly.

What I found worked a treat was this; I had a new person arrive many years ago on my already very established yard. Most of my liveries had been with me for years and for some reason they just didn't click with the new lady.......however I knew that if they got to know her a bit better then they would all get along really well. SOOO what I did, was start to organise evenings once every few weeks where they all came round to my house and we got take-out chinese, a movie and had loads of "spa-treatment" type things......good old girlie night. Worked like a charm! I also used to arrange trips to Badminton etc.

Over here it isn't really bitchy as hardly any of them know each other because they all turn up at totally different times. I do have to say that in all the years I've done horse boarding, the main culprits of trying to talk about others, has come from the men boarding their horses with me.
 
I have only been one one yard where there was a real problem, but that was a woman who was a real stirrer and seemed to thrive in an atmosphere of gossip, distrust and threats. I decided it was easier to simply move to another yard as I didn't want her to spoil my enjoyment of my time with the horses. I have never had a problem anythere else
 
My yard i'm at atm is lovely, has had some bitchiness lately but that was hit on the head by YM very quickly and is now back to being lovely. There are of course the odd comments made but this is very very rare and tends to be ignored (and tends to come from the older members on the yard).

Yard i was at before this one was awful, really really nasty and was the reason my YM left (and in turn why i left, because she did).
One before that was bitchy too but not towards me, i was never involved in the bitchiness it was always other people.

Have to say (hope i dont get shot down for this) but the bitchiest yards i've been on have been where there are gay men involved!!
 
no bitchiness at my new yard and my yo and i talked about how pleasant and chilled it was last night and he knows who is who in the area and wont have anyone with a rep. in fact its all going so swimmingly well we are having drinks and nibbles in my garden tonight and i cant wait
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move if someone makes you unhappy thats what i say, unless theyre going to move, ive been to bitchy yards and yes as you say you go there to chill and relax. my oh cant drag me away cos she cant get a word in edgeways when we are all gassing and having a laugh. have agreat sat night everyone.
 
My yard is really nice now, we did have a "yard witch" who was obnoxious, loud, crude, filthy and just a total troll. She used to F$%8 & blind all the time loudly and have all the horses stressed out of their minds with her carry on. She used to pee in other folks stables (no toilet at yard and didn't want to get her stables dirty!), use and abuse other peoples property (jumps etc). She thought she knew it all (despite being a novice) and used to hand out "advice" to people that resulted in lame horses ...the list is endless. Anyway she left the start of the year and it's been bliss ever since! Nice, quiet & chilled yard with happy horses and people.

I've heard through the grape vine how hated she is at her new yard but thankfully our YO has said he wouldn't take her back - whew!

I know what you are saying though, people like her and b'tching really spoil it. I used to time it so I wouldn't be there the same time as her, just sucked the joy out of everything.
 
Not at all! Thats due to the fact that Im usually the only one here and the owners come to visit maybe once a month (all at dif times and days). Ive been on a few bitchy yards but always minded my own business so it didnt effect me. Italian yards are the worst in the world, although PF may argue with me regarding the Argentinian yards
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PF, where are you?
 
Shiraz, I was on a yard with somebody just like that..after I left she actually punched one of the other liveries - amazing how just one person can ruin a whole yard if the YO doesn't get a grip of them early on
 
There are 20 of us at our yard, and we all get along ok, a few of us socialise together outside of horses too. I think we are all very easy going and I couldn't say a bad word about any of them.
 
My yard is lovely although there are a few certain people who you don't say certain things too, cos you just get bitched about. Most of the time though the yard is fine and everyone gets on well
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it's the best yard i've been on in terms of bitchiness!
 
Yes, our yard is very small but somehow manages to attract bitchiness. I hate being there as the atmosphere is terrible and the yard owner refuses to do anything - she just ignores it then bitches herself.

If you get a good yard then they're heaven, you get a bad one and it's a nightmare.
 
My yard used to be bitchy, but that was down to the fact that there wasnt enough turnout, and certain liveries had designated a field as their own and no one else could use it, but luckily people have left now and everybody has turn out, also stuff used to go missing before person left.
 
Well as i dont tend to see & mix all that much with alot of them i couldnt be 100% sure. there are certainly some lovely people on my yard, i keep myself to myself alot of the time, alot of them dont go up at quite the same ungodly hour i do in the mornings either! i do suspect it goes on but thankfully i keep well out of it
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I think it can get bitchy, and a little snobby at times, but you'd get that in any aspect, particularly where a lot of female reside.

At the end of the day, you go there for a reason and shouldn't have to feel intimidated by a small group of madams.
 
At a previous yard it was very bitchy
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Everyone always seemed to have an opinion on what you were doing with your horse which normally was that you should'nt be doing it
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They also had a rota and if you happened not to do your barn sweeping, drain unblocking etc you were put on the WALL OF SHAME
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Now we're on a very small yard 7 stables and me and my friend take up 4 (5 if you include the Shettie
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) I could never go bakc on a big yard now
 
I was on a smalll yard in Winwick were the YO has a serious case of permanent PMT, stresses everyone and the horses.

Boy! was I pleaed to see the back of that place.
 
I won't do yards. I have always had small stable blocks and not let anyone other than my family share. We had our own DIY livery yard a few years ago and it reminded me why I don't like sharing anywhere outside family!

The block we have now is on a large farm with five other blocks, two of my neighbours are lovely and we all help each other out the other place is a dealer but they are ok, we know them from years ago but don't see them around much as they go up at different times. I tend only to talk to my closest neighbours.
 
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