Bitchy I know!!

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I know I'm being a bitch but had a real feel good moment today! I've got a member of my family who has always had to get what I have but better, I'm sure we all have them!! When I had my first horse 10 years ago I had to buy him myself cause we didnt have much money so got a cheapie from the race yard I was working at to save them putting him down. About a month later she got brought an eventer (having never ridden or had lessons!!!) because she wanted to give it a try!!

After a few envious years she got fed up and sold him, I by now had a mare in foal, produced lovely slate grey colt, absolutely stunning!! Nothing more was said until I had him broken this year when she said she wanted to start up again, so being nice I said she could come ride my old lad (who wasnt good enough when she had wonder horse!!), she came up, had a lovely few rides over a week then she called to say she couldnt make it again, she'd only gone out and had another horse brought for her!!!

I was a bit p****d off at this, I've been working so hard to get my lad right when she goes and gets the package ready done!!! Heard nothing all week except reports from the family that 'it a wonder horse, going to win this and tht, blah blah blah!!!' I'm now a the point of screaming so thought I'd pay a visit today!

I was so glad I did!!! Not a nice thing to say I know but what a waste of money!!!!!!!!!!!

I know I shouldnt feel so good about her buying something that I dont think will do any good but after so many years of having her tell me how great she's doing and how much she's winning I feel that the tables will be turned!!

I wouldnt swap either of my two lads for her, totally unsuitable for the job!!!

Feel better for telling you all that, I know I sound like a bitch but you dont realise how happy it makes me!!!! Cant wait to compete against her!! Ha Ha!!!!
 
Sorry but you're right - it does.

I never really understand this thought-process; surely if your horses are so wonderful, so marvellous, then why would you be interested in what your family member is doing? Gosh if anything, I would be thinking how nice it was to have helped her get back into horse riding again......
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she spent last weekend telling me that she didnt have time for a horse and didnt want the responsibility but the second I mentioned competing him I felt it was a battle again! she is actually very lovely, its the parent pushing that has got my back up, her daughter has to do better than me attitude, feel bad that i thought like that but would just be nice to have something she didnt have to do better than me!
 
25! i could understand kids being competitive but i feel that i am always under her! i feel awful now but cant moan to my family about it cause of the situation!! i love her to bits and suppose i should take it as a compliment she wants to do the same things i do but it still gets to me!!!
 
Well personally i think this family member is really anoying!
And Tia she never said her horses were wonderful and marverlous! she said this family member thught hers was!!
You are quite opinionated!
 
Bit strange she is still being pushed by her parents at 25 !
I wouldn't worry just do your own thing, she probably give up again soon
 
actually, that would p**s me off too!! last thing you wanna hear (after spending all your time getting your horse going well) is that she has bought a horse that already does it all! I mean fair enough, the family tell you about it an that, but you dont want it rammed down your neck!

But do you know what??!! - you can take great pide in knowing that whatever your horse is capable of is down to you. You havent bought a push button horse, you've worked hard and have a lovely horse to how for it (well 2 actually!)

I hate nothing more than when your at a show and you hear the mothers saying 'well done darling, blah blah blah' and them look around to gloat when their child wins everything. they only win cos they're on a push button pony!!!! Dont get me wrong, im all for kids getting confidence and learning to ride on them, but it annoys me when the parents gloat to everyonee else that their child wins, cos they can afford the thousands needed to buy a push button.

Sorry to go off on one, rant over! But it is a similar ssituation to you and i wanted a rant too!! lol
 
by the way, my horse was a cheapie - £1500 8 years ago, but i wouldn't swap him for the world!!! i wouldn want an expensive showjumper or eventer or whatever, me and william are happy hackers and he's fab! We should all be lucky to have horses. I sometims think people look down on my horse ccos he doesnt jump very well, but i dont like jumping so i dont care! Be proud of what you've achieved!!
 
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Yes you're right I am opinionated. Sour grapes, envy and jealousy are something which I can never understand people being proud of - you obviously do, fine; I don't; I think it is something which should be curbed - those are not healthy emotions to have in my opinion......particularly when it is a member of your own family. Very sad.
 
thank you all so much for hearing me out, glad to know i'm not the only one who'd be upset!! i'll go back to my family now be all smiles!! haha!!! totally agree with not wanting the expensive show jumpers and such, my old lad wind sucks all the fences down and cant school to save his life unless he's in a rare easy mood but i'd never swap him and never sell him!! i had a real bad fall a few years ago and he helped me so much he's worth his weight in carrots!!
 
yeah yeah yeah whatever!! maybe we dont all have perfectly easy lives like you and need to vent years of pent up frustration but hey, there's always little angel you who obviously doesnt have the problems us normal people encounter, think i can see a bright light form here, maybe its you guardian angel shining over you!!! hahahahaha!!!
 
i dont think it is sour grapes, more like getting you down. When you do something and someone else boasts of being bigger and better than you, after a while it gets you down.
I would feel like gemma does.
 
Can i ask you one thing?

Is it the fact that she's had a horse bought for her and you had to work for yours that annoys you?

There are plenty of people in this world who can afford ready made horses, and will shove it down your throat 24/7. But you know what? let em get on with it, it's their choice.
 
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Yes you're right I am opinionated. Sour grapes, envy and jealousy are something which I can never understand people being proud of - you obviously do, fine; I don't; I think it is something which should be curbed - those are not healthy emotions to have in my opinion......particularly when it is a member of your own family. Very sad.

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Well people can feel that way about your family! if your mom and dad split up and your dad cheats on your mom i dont think you would like your dad that much!
 
You know nothing about my life. And if you did then you'd realise I am by no means "little". I'm guessing you are just a teenager, so I guess that gives you an excuse as to why you may feel inferior to your relative. When you get a little older you'll realise what is important and what is not.

Enjoy your ponies and don't feel bad going back to your family as a two-faced person. Hopefully for you, your relative will not have any idea that you have bitched to the whole world about her on an Open forum.
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Hmm if that is the case then it begs the question; why the entitle the post "Bitchy I know!!?
 
To be honest, I understand how upset you get by this, but I would forget about her. You have something to be proud of and something you have worked for, to be extra proud. Your sister has an 'item' you have friends in your horses.

I would shut your ears, she will probably sell it again come winter.
 
What my Mum and Dad do in their life is up to them I'm afraid. It wouldn't have any bearing on my life and no of course it wouldn't change what I felt about either of them as they are not doing any injustice to me.
 
well i personally would be very upset and annoyed if that happened to me! I think that saying is all mouth. i would like to think i would be just like that...but i know in the circumstances i wouldnt at all!
 
Aww zigzag, don't, LOL!! I have to go out in a short while so it won't be long lasting
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I can completely understand how you feel.

I love my lad to bits, hes a 14 year old ex racer and he only has one good leg lol (the others have athritus) and my cousin who has numerous ponies and has only been riding a year or two found out about my TB went out and imported two danish wbs lol.

Im not jelous of her in the slightest as i have my boy and in my eyes hes more precious to me than any other horse could ever be but i feel that sometimes she makes rash decisions.

I know shes struggling with these two wbs as although shes a good rider shes only just come off ponies, shes a relative novice and doesnt really have the time to give to these two beautiful horses.

Oh well some people are just lucky i guess
 
yeah its the fact that i've had to wait for him to mature and spent so much time and effort having a real battle with him because i'd never be able to afford to go out and buy a horse that was ready done, its more the fact that my family who dont have much money, which is in no way a put down hears every day how the other side of the family are doing this and that then she feels bad that she cant provide us with the same! i know it gets her down and it really hurts but what can you say!! family is family!!!

to the reply from tia, you will find i'm not a teenager, i'm actually nearly 30 so maybe i know more about life than you think and have more pent up frustration than you do shi**y comebacks!!

at the end of the day i'm happy with what i have just sometimes things get you down and you need to vent!! if this offends anyone dont bother to read, for those of you who hear what i am saying thank you for hearing me out!!
 
you should feel proud that you have hadto put the work into yours and how well behaved and experienced yours is now, instead of buying a ready made horse!

And dont listen to the people bitching on this forum, They need to get there heads checked, Its only a forum!
 
Yes because you are young and you likely still live at home? I haven't lived with my parents for decades LOL!! Added to the fact that they live 3,500 miles away, nope couldn't care less what they do independantly of one another; I'd still see them and get on with them as much as I ever did.

As I said to gemma, once you are older, you find out what is important in life, and what isn't. What should be important to gemma is that she should be proud of what she has done with her ponies......not being jealous about what someone else has or hasn't done with theirs.
 
Excuse me? At what point did I bitch? Can you read? If so then please re-read the title of this post.

Gemma asked if she was being bitchy - I agreed ...... sheesh!
 
Hmm perhaps. I don't have any pent up anything I'm afraid. Working with young horses for most of my life is not productive if one has pent-up frustrations. Calm, rational and happy is how I prefer to be.
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