Bitchy yards

[Paint it Lucky]

I am needing to move my coloured chap soon as the lady who owns the field I currently keep him at has decided to buy another pony so there won't be room for him

I have been to look at a few places and there are some i like however I spoke to a friend today who used to be at one of the yards and she tells me it is really bitcy there. Should this put me off? Otherwise the place looks quite nice and has everything I need. But after reading various posts on here I'm not sure I want to go onto a yard full of bitchy women! I am normally quite good at ignoring people but am not the most confident. The stable that's free is right on the main yard so it's not like i can escape very easily! What do you think, should I avoid it or go and try to avoid anyone who looks like a troublemaker?

 

[junglediva]

Yes go there if u like it. Just make sure u make a good impression the first time. And dont get involved with the bitching.

 

[Twizzel]

I think even if you try to avoid people you still become stuck in the middle of people bitching about eachother, and at the end of the day it makes it very hard for you to actually enjoy yourself in a place where you're meant to have fun

People constantly bitching about eachother has gotten to me before even when I've tried to keep out of things and keep my head down/stayed neutral with everyone.

If the facilities were fantastic I may be swayed but if they are nothing special I'd probably find another yard.

 

[Charmaine18]

I would say look at the other ones first, and only consider the bitchy one as a last resort. The people that made it bitchy could have moved on since your friend was there - it often only takes one person to leave for the whole place to have a much nicer atmosphere! (I don't mean your friend, I mean whoever the main bitch was!)

 

[Mavis Cluttergusset]

I would try the yard you like and see for yourself whether the atmosphere is bitchy. Im always wary of other peoples' ideas of what is bitchy - even friends opinions - and would rather draw my own conclusions. It only takes one person to take a dislike to another for the yard to be labelled bitchy.

I can speak from experience re: the bitching - my yard is lovely but there are two women there who are very friendly to the detriment of everyone else, to the point where I was being openly blanked for no reason; I put up with so much then told one of them to F off when she said something nasty about an injury that her friends horse had caused. She has been as nice as pie since, as has her friend. I try not to get involved in any 'discussions' with other liveries about other liveries so then I cant be accused of bitching.

 

[Coffee_Bean]

hhhhm, I've only been at 3 yards- first was lovely but no facilities and shared it with 1 other friend, it worked really well until i needed more facilities and fencing was really bad. Then moved to another yard with my friend and that was quite nice, but it had a few faults and was quite bitchy. It wasn't really nasty bitching, just irritating really. There was some really lovely people and some...er...not so nice. I'm now at such a nice yard, no bitching at all and all the liveries are lovely

Its so much nicer!!

If its a lovely yard in other ways give it a try... if nothing special keep looking imo.

 

[eoe]

Most people slag their previous yards off, most of it is just sour grapes because they probably weren't allowed to abuse the rules and do exactly what they wanted when they wanted. My yard bitch has just left and all my liveries cheered with delight. So we are now a happy yard. If you like someone don't be put off by someone else's sour grapes, you will more than likely find it is totally unfounded. Good luck.

 

[Janetterose]

The trouble is yard bitches can make your life hell and you have a horse to enjoy. I was at one yard where the owners were gorjus but there were a couple of liveries who were determind to make my life a misery. they had me in tears on Xmas and Boxing day and maybe that makes me a wuss but heyho. I left and have 2 stables in a field by myself and I'm in heaven. Just dont go there!

 

[ecrozier]

I'd be wary. We moved in the autumn from a yard where bitchyness was one of many problems that just all added up to the point where I hated even going there - which is rubbish as we have our horses for FUN! 5 of us moved together and are very happy now....well I am anyway, one person has gone back because she has moved into a house where she can climb the garden fence into the field her horses are in....but everyone else is happy and the nicest thing is that everyone gets on, no one feels the need to write bitchy notes or make comments etc.... So much more enjoyable.
TBH I think it speaks volumes that the two yards are less than 2 miles apart with similar facilities.....the old one has 12 horses on a yard aiming for 25, and current one has 20 horses on a yard probably designed for 15 and a waiting list....so reputations are usually earnt! But equally don't always believe one person's opinion, maybe see if you can speak to anyone else who has been there/is there now?