lynseylou1
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Another Americanism that never fails to shut up is "thank you for sharing that with me".[/QUOTE]
this is brillaint .. im sooooo using this ;-)
this is brillaint .. im sooooo using this ;-)
:( bleugh...novelty of being on a livery yard starting to wear off..
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fjordhorsefan
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She sounds like she has a problem of flapping gums and too much air in her gob. I'm mad just reading all this, I would have knocked her out by now. Tell her to leave your stuff alone unless she wants to pay for damages (if she sits on anything again). Also, what the heck is she doing cleaning tack on your hay? Does she not know that saddle soap is rank to taste?! You could also start trying out her stuff and poking her horse, and ask her how it feels. I'm afraid I have used this tactic before, and it really works. None of my stuff is touched now.
The ignoring her thing is good too - if she keeps trying to speak to you, ask her why she bothers when all she does is say nasty things. This will either keep her away from you, or she may explain why she is such a baggage and it might improve her behaviour.
Hope she leaves!!
The ignoring her thing is good too - if she keeps trying to speak to you, ask her why she bothers when all she does is say nasty things. This will either keep her away from you, or she may explain why she is such a baggage and it might improve her behaviour.
Hope she leaves!!
Mrs Pe
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God how awful and what a nasty person she is!! Ipod, Ipod, Ipod all the way - my usual advice is to kill with kindness but treat this with the contempt it deserves - urgh awful, feel your pain.... and counting my blessing I am not on your yard . xx
Trish C
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You've got some good advice here. I think you're doing exactly the right thing in ignoring it all - you'll be driving her mad 
Try your absolute best not to let her get to you, I know well that snide comments are awful and, whilst it may be easy to smile sweetly and pretend it doesn't effect you in front of the offending person, when in private it's equally easy to feel the sting of them.
I have a very sharp tongue (very long fuse but when it does go, it's fairly spectacular) and have in the past been all too quick to cut someone in reply to a snide remark. Recently, though, I've taken to just smiling, saying "that's nice", carrying on with whatever I was doing and ignoring them. Have also, from experience, noticed that it drives tormentors mad to see you smiling/laughing with someone else after they pass a comment. I don't mean laughing at/talking about them with someone else, but rather talking about something completely unrelated that you can have a joke about. Just to remind them that you have people more important than them to be with, that you're well liked by plenty of people, that you have a good sense of humour and - finally and most importantly - that they and their ridiculously ill-formed opinions do not effect your happiness one single little tiny jot
And failing all of that, I will absolutely without question come over and beat her up.
(Massive congrats on your acheivements with Ronniecob (who is so utterly gorgeous I'm positive that useless womble at your yard is just jealous) by the way. Great progress, well done
)
Try your absolute best not to let her get to you, I know well that snide comments are awful and, whilst it may be easy to smile sweetly and pretend it doesn't effect you in front of the offending person, when in private it's equally easy to feel the sting of them.I have a very sharp tongue (very long fuse but when it does go, it's fairly spectacular
) and have in the past been all too quick to cut someone in reply to a snide remark. Recently, though, I've taken to just smiling, saying "that's nice", carrying on with whatever I was doing and ignoring them. Have also, from experience, noticed that it drives tormentors mad to see you smiling/laughing with someone else after they pass a comment. I don't mean laughing at/talking about them with someone else, but rather talking about something completely unrelated that you can have a joke about. Just to remind them that you have people more important than them to be with, that you're well liked by plenty of people, that you have a good sense of humour and - finally and most importantly - that they and their ridiculously ill-formed opinions do not effect your happiness one single little tiny jot And failing all of that, I will absolutely without question come over and beat her up.
(Massive congrats on your acheivements with Ronniecob (who is so utterly gorgeous I'm positive that useless womble at your yard is just jealous) by the way. Great progress, well done
)
Stelzar
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I can sympathise with you. Iv been on a few big yards and had the exact same thing. No matter how much you say you will avoid thing you always somehow get dragged into it. Its usually because someone has directly offended you, poked there nose in or made your business there business. I honestly can only say keep biting your tongue. If you never say anything negative about anyone (sometimes i dont even say good lol as its misconstrued 99% of time) this girl WILL get bored of you and move onto the next newbie or someone who will rise to the bait. whatever you do - do not even talk about this to anyone else on the yard as i gurantee she will come flouncing up to you and give you "were you bitching about me" yada yada! take some comfort in the fact most yards are like this it gets easier to deal with the longer your used to it to the point your just like "whatever" like water off a ducks back, chin up
Agree totally with this ^^^^^^^^
Claire2010
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Firstly well done for keeping your cool, not sure I could have done it!!
Unfortunately you always get one dont you, everywhere you go, I have been in a similar situation and have found that by either ignoring them or just agreeing with everything they say gets their back up even more, eventually the get bored as you're not taking the bait.
Maybe ask her if she's jealous of you, she seems to spend a hell of a lot of time speaking to you!! At the end of the day she's a bully, best off trying to bite your tongue and rise above it, it'll make you the better person. You dont want to feed her ammunition by kicking off. I hate people like this though, maybe she's not content with her own life that she feels she has to belittle someone else, quite sad really!!! Good Luck!!!
Unfortunately you always get one dont you, everywhere you go, I have been in a similar situation and have found that by either ignoring them or just agreeing with everything they say gets their back up even more, eventually the get bored as you're not taking the bait.
Maybe ask her if she's jealous of you, she seems to spend a hell of a lot of time speaking to you!! At the end of the day she's a bully, best off trying to bite your tongue and rise above it, it'll make you the better person. You dont want to feed her ammunition by kicking off. I hate people like this though, maybe she's not content with her own life that she feels she has to belittle someone else, quite sad really!!! Good Luck!!!