Borrowing other people's stuff and cleaning ?

[Lill]

When someone lends me something (doesn't happen very often) i like to give it back to them clean and in the same condition as it was when i was lent it.

Is this not how most people feel?

(Which is why i felt bad all the way home Friday as i couldn't clean your bridle before i gave it back to you Harri sorry

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But anyway where i was really going was, i've lent one of my saddles to a couple of certain people for about the past 6 months.

They have since bought a new saddle and returned mine to me UNCLEANED.

I have already asked them to clean it once and shall be asking again this week as i feel this is incredibly rude!

They also continued to use my nice saddle cloth on their new saddle

so i removed it yesterday and put it in the wash because of course it was very dirty as was my girth they have been using.

Bit of a moan there sorry!

But please tell me that it is rude and i'm not overreacting?!

I didn't mind lending it to them as i wasn't using it so that was fine i just feel that they should at least clean it in return?

 

[ajn1610]

I'd have cleaned it before giving it back. It is annoying but there isn't much you can do about it so I'd just let it slide but wouldn't lend them my stuff again if they don't look after it properly.

 

[Midymahem]

Yes this is very rude!

I also have 'friends' who borrow things and then never return it and I am now in a difficult situation where I feel I am being awkward by asking for it back!

 

[carabella]

Totally agree. Very rude.!!!
I know that if I had borrowed something I certainly would have made sure it was returned in good condition and I don't think I'd have the nerve to keep it for 6 months either.

Probably better not to borrow things. Why should you be the one to feel upset by this arrangement. They should be very grateful you were kind enough to help them out in the first place.

 

[Geraldine]

I borrowed a sweat scraper the other month - got told off cos I was cleaning it with Hibi before I gave it back. Bob doesn't have the lurgy but it felt the right thing to do.

Would never give something back dirty.

 

[katia]

This REALLY annoys me... theres a certain couple of kids (teenagers) at our yard who seem to not see a problem with taking brushes, draw reins, even wearing my daughters hat when they've forgotton their own! and as you say I probably wouldn't mind but they either leave it around the yard or return them dirty, usually covered in grey hairs....and my horse and pony are black,AGHHHHHHHH!!

Thanks for the opportunity to vent my frustration!!lol

 

[lauraanddolly]

I'd be really annoyed too, there is a girl at my yard who insists on taking my hay and hanging my full net I leave for mine in their stable, I had to get it this morning - I re- filled it from their hay!
I'd ask them again to clean it - but if you get no joy you may have to let it slide this time. I wouldn't lend them anything else ever and would keep everything I could locked up so they can't help themselves. My hay net is going to start spending overnight locked in my private tack room!

 

[jellyshake]

it's very rude and you have every right to ask them to clean it, but i doubt they will. 'Borrowers ' are my pet hate, both my horses and the ponies have their own buckets, grooming kits etc etc, i shared fields with a 'friend' for a while, her borrowing drove me insane as she would never asked and just assumed it would be ok. ended up me moving 2 weeks ago lol cos i am just no good at sharing

 

[PennyJ]

I always always return things in as good or better condition than it was when I borrowed it. Sadly my friend and I both feel we are very much in a minority about doing this.

 

[mickey]

Given the length of time you lent this saddle for I think it is disgusting that it was not clean upon it's return.

In fact, I would have liked my saddle cleaned on a regular basis, along with the girth and numnah.

Hmmmm, I would be having a word with the person/people you lent this saddle to, and I wouldn't be lending them stuff again.
Some people just do not think. Either that, or they are plain idle or disrespectful.

 

[Lill]

Lol disrespectful is the key word here i think!

 

[Storminateacup]

I don't lend stuff out anymore.
Stopped doing it at about the age of 40 ( took me that long to learn).
My daughter used to lend our stuff out to everybody and anyone and I, who paid for it all, used to find it all over the tack room or even on other peoples horses!!!.
People who borrow do it because they can't afford to buy what they need.
Why should you subsidise them?
Tell them to buy their own and make it quite clear you dont lend out yours cos it cost you money.

None of my better off friends would ever lend out their super expensive gear and no-one I know would dare ask them!!

Save all the hassle and dont do it , - it nearly always ends in tears.

 

[Lill]

Ah but they can afford it.

They IMO just seem to like making other people's stuff dirty because its not their problem then and they don't have to clean it because its not theirs... thats the impression i get from it all.