squirtlysmum
Well-Known Member
Am I being daft? I've been at my current yard for nearly two years and love the place, it's beautifully run, tidy, friendly (most of the time) and one of the best yards I've been on, however, and its a big however, the YO was completly out of order today.
I've helped YO's daughter out on numerous occasions with the fact she's come off ponies and onto horses and as a result when they bought her new and very expensive horse I gave them rugs etc, I was never offered anything however I didn't mind much as they were surplus to requirements as I lost one of my neds in 2005.
Recently a very novice owner arrived and she is lovely and her horse is stabled in the same little barn as me, I've offered to help her as she is, by her own admittance, quite worried and novicey and wanted someone to give her lessons to gain confidence. The YO's daughter (age 16) also offered and has been riding the pony and gave one lesson in which she said the sum total of six words, I agreed with new owner (and becoming good friend) that I would also lend a hand.
Last week it was made quite clear that YO wasn't happy for whatever reason and said we would 'overload' the new owner with info, I offered to stand to one side and and let YO's daughter help, told new owner she asked me to still help as she felt as much help as poss would help.
So this morning I gave new owner a lesson which went really well and she felt very happy. Came out of the school and YO went bonkers stating we were going behind her daughter's back and had upset her and that if I was going to help then they certainly wouldn't the daughter would no longer help out by riding the pony and she went on and on and was down right rude to the new owner, so much so she reduced her to tears saying she had no confidence (well certainly any she had has now been crushed!!)
I feel so angry about this, they have utterly over reacted and YO has bullied new owner (who now wishes she hadn't moved!)
Is it me or is the YO being a cow?
It would be interesting to hear views as to how people would deal with this themselves!
I've helped YO's daughter out on numerous occasions with the fact she's come off ponies and onto horses and as a result when they bought her new and very expensive horse I gave them rugs etc, I was never offered anything however I didn't mind much as they were surplus to requirements as I lost one of my neds in 2005.
Recently a very novice owner arrived and she is lovely and her horse is stabled in the same little barn as me, I've offered to help her as she is, by her own admittance, quite worried and novicey and wanted someone to give her lessons to gain confidence. The YO's daughter (age 16) also offered and has been riding the pony and gave one lesson in which she said the sum total of six words, I agreed with new owner (and becoming good friend) that I would also lend a hand.
Last week it was made quite clear that YO wasn't happy for whatever reason and said we would 'overload' the new owner with info, I offered to stand to one side and and let YO's daughter help, told new owner she asked me to still help as she felt as much help as poss would help.
So this morning I gave new owner a lesson which went really well and she felt very happy. Came out of the school and YO went bonkers stating we were going behind her daughter's back and had upset her and that if I was going to help then they certainly wouldn't the daughter would no longer help out by riding the pony and she went on and on and was down right rude to the new owner, so much so she reduced her to tears saying she had no confidence (well certainly any she had has now been crushed!!)
I feel so angry about this, they have utterly over reacted and YO has bullied new owner (who now wishes she hadn't moved!)
Is it me or is the YO being a cow?
It would be interesting to hear views as to how people would deal with this themselves!