Brats at Olympic Dressage

We went to the show jumping today, there was a couple in front of us with quite a young baby. They were brilliant, when he/she woke up, they quietly took him out in between horses before any crying, then asked the Gamesmaker in our block if they could sit on some spare seats on the end, brilliant as they could just pop out when needed. People behind with small toddler, he was mostly great & slept alot, when he woke up towards the end was a bit whingy & threw a toy on the floor a few times, but again they shushed him & he hardly disturbed us at all. Well done, lovely considerate parents able to enjoy their day out without spoiling ours.
 
It's so easy to judge people with there kids though. When my daughter was about 4/5 I was in a shop she asked for a magazine for whatever reason I said no prompting her to turn herself inside out screaming on the floor!!! Cue tutting from other shoppers. Now I'm quite strict so had the warning get up now or your getting slapped bum, didn't work so she got a slapped bum well the shoppers tutted even more I can't win!!
I must say she's not usually like that and hasn't ever had a tantrum like that since. I also even at 8 years old have never bought her a magazine since!!!!
She now seems to have grown into a lovely little girl I take her most places with me she came to Olympia with me last year and was lovely behaved and has watched me competing in show classes more recently sitting quietly for 2 1/2 hours untill I won where she proudly and loudly announced that I was her mummy and I was the winner!!!:-)
She makes me very proud in general and her behaviour and I've brought her up as a single mother!
 
A delightful parent told me off for not praising her child recently after he failed to do something I asked three times (I explained how to do it, have him electronic resources, he ignored all that). Apparently he works better with praise, not telling off. How can I praise what he hasn't done?!

I was fuming at my brother's wedding where a baby screamed throughout all of the speeches: I understand the mum didn't want to miss the good bit, but she allowed the baby to carry on so none of us heard the speeches. Had I been closer, I would have offered to soothe the child outside myself! Struck me as ridiculously selfish.
 
Found this very funny as my Olympic day was marred by noisy adults, who loudly read from Horse and Hound (honest I'm not making this up to be antagonistic!!) They were rude about people in the crowd along with slagging off the 'poor riding'. They were hilarious, but on a more serious note, they gave horsey people a very bad name. As a contrast all the children, including a one year old, sitting around me were very well behaved. So there you go. They wanted everyone around them to know they owned horses...I don't think anyone would have been impressed...I cringed.
 
hackedoff said:
Jolly goog job none of you have ever been children!
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I come a strictly seen and not heard upbringing - there is no need for kids to constantly scream and shriek.

My mother used to say if you don't stop crying I'll give you something to cry about - that soon shut you up. I loved my mum she was very funny, loving and a bit mad but she didn't think the world should be ruled by children.
 
zoelouisem said:
It's so easy to judge people with there kids though. When my daughter was about 4/5 I was in a shop she asked for a magazine for whatever reason I said no prompting her to turn herself inside out screaming on the floor!!
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My daughter did that once when she was about 6 - cant even remember what she wanted but she threw a hissy fit and started crying and stamping her feet yelling "thats not fair" at the top of her lungs - so I threw my bag on the floor and stomped my own feet and yelled "no its not fair" - she got such a fright she immediately stopped crying and went red in the face - think I embarrassed the life out of her to be honest - the supermarket was relatively quiet but an elderly couple passing by were trying really hard to hold back laughter. The incident was never repeated - shes 13 now and is a very well rounded and polite child who I can take anywhere and she will never cause me embarrassment - probably because she knows that I can embarrass her even more :D
 
Interesting thread. And lots of comments that I really hope are tongue in cheek. If the views expressed here are at all representative, we really don't seem to like children in England. My children are generally quite laid back / tolerant, but I cannot imagine them putting up with some of the bad behaviour from adults that has been put forward as a way to deal with 'brats'. TBH if anyone tried some of the 'techniques' suggested, I fear that they might not like the result.

The Olympics is a family event. There will be families with children. Taking a small child to the Olympics on one of the few days where there are cheap child tickets is NOT the same as taking them for dinner at a smart restaurant or to a evening performance of an opera. It is more like taking them to a matinee performance.

Of COURSE nobody should allow their behaviour (or that of their children) to spoil other peoples enjoyment of an event. As I said in an earlier post, I wasn't daft enough to expect my child to sit in absolute silence through 4 sessions of dressage, so we split our time between the dressage (where she sat quietly so as 'not to disturb the competitors') & the park. Over the course of the day, I saw plenty of perfectly happy children, who weren't causing anyone any bother, including a lovely toddler a few seats from us. TBH, the only downright rudeness we experienced (which caused my 10yo's jaw to drop) was from a rather pushy adult, who was anxious to get to her seat.
 
Ah well, there you go. Some brats never grow up! :D

That was tongue in cheek btw... Just in case people feel I ought to be ashamed of myself :)
 
lme said:
TBH, the only downright rudeness we experienced (which caused my 10yo's jaw to drop) was from a rather pushy adult, who was anxious to get to her seat.
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On the steps I assume? They were rather chaotic, lacking hand rails and nobody following the generally recognize rule to keep left and thus those come up/down were met with a wall coming the other way. If all had kept left there could have been free flow both up and down, but hey ho, some lack manners and common sense.
 
smokey said:
Oberon, I also have a son on the autistic spectrum, and I can identify completely with this. I spent a long time not wanting to go out because of the meltdowns from him, and the negative comments from others. Like your boy, he's now s well adjusted young man with a great future.
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My son has ASD, ADHD and ODD, he's currently 13 with little chance of making 14 if he continues the way he's going :rolleyes: I would love to be able to give him the 'look' when he's being a pain in the a**e but it would be a bit pointless as part of autism is the inability to understand facial expressions. To look at him you wouldn't know he had a problem and when he starts shouting and swearing in public there are times I want to hide under a rock as people around us start tutting and commenting.
Sometimes I wonder how those people would feel if they realised whilst they are sitting at home with their 'perfect' children moaning about the child that ruined their day because it wouldn't sit quietly or fidgeted the parent of that 'brat' is sat at home crying because their child isn't perfect and they wish that just once the day out they'd planned with almost military precision hadn't ended with a meltdown and them treated like the worse parent on earth by people who are too quick to judge. :(
 
piebaldsparkle said:
On the steps I assume? They were rather chaotic, lacking hand rails and nobody following the generally recognize rule to keep left and thus those come up/down were met with a wall coming the other way. If all had kept left there could have been free flow both up and down, but hey ho, some lack manners and common sense.
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Unless you drive on the right (as many of the foreign visitors do), then common sense would suggest you stick to the right. I think that some sign posts asking people to stick to the left (or right) would have been useful.
 
Anglebracket said:
Unless you drive on the right (as many of the foreign visitors do), then common sense would suggest you stick to the right. I think that some sign posts asking people to stick to the left (or right) would have been useful.
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LOL when in Rome (or rather Greenwich ;)).........but I agree signs may have helped.
 
Spiritedly said:
My son has ASD, ADHD and ODD, he's currently 13 with little chance of making 14 if he continues the way he's going :rolleyes: I would love to be able to give him the 'look' when he's being a pain in the a**e but it would be a bit pointless as part of autism is the inability to understand facial expressions. To look at him you wouldn't know he had a problem and when he starts shouting and swearing in public there are times I want to hide under a rock as people around us start tutting and commenting.
Sometimes I wonder how those people would feel if they realised whilst they are sitting at home with their 'perfect' children moaning about the child that ruined their day because it wouldn't sit quietly or fidgeted the parent of that 'brat' is sat at home crying because their child isn't perfect and they wish that just once the day out they'd planned with almost military precision hadn't ended with a meltdown and them treated like the worse parent on earth by people who are too quick to judge. :(
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:( heartbreaking isn't it, and then you worry what kind of future they will have never being understood by the majority of people.
My son has mild tourettes and displayed some asperger tendancies when he was younger, we went to royal windsor one year and he was so excited as the jcb dancing diggers were there, he got himself so wound up over seeing them that when they finally came on he had a meltdown and turned his back on them and refused to watch:( All around me people stared and tutted at this 'naughty child' .
I took both kids to crufts one year with my sis and her OH, her OH took my son to the toilets as the mens queue was half a mile shorter than the womens (as usual), i forgot to warn him that son hated hand driers:o cue ear splitting screams and one red faced uncle returning one panic stricken child! bad mother:(
 
madmav said:
Oh God, that sounds just like my kids used to behave on planes, in theatres, basically anywhere they could show me up. They were a nightmare.
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Were you on a flight from Stansted to Spain circa July 2009? I recall a three year old boy a few seats in front, yelling fu*k Orffffff to anyone who would listen?:eek:;):D
 
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