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Well what a horrid birthday this has turned out to be. My poor mum was taken into hospital on Saturday so the plans we had all made were put on hold till she was better not a problem,we go over to see her today and I am told that my poor mother has got terminal cancer, my world has just suddenly fallen apart and I have to some how make sense of this and I am really struggling at the moment. My mum has always been there to support me through all the horrid things that have gone wrong with me and given me the strength to carry on, and now I am told that nothing can be done for her. How will she cope with the news is beyond me and I am trying so very hard to be brave about this to be strong for her as she needs me more than ever, when all the time I just want to ball my eyes out. How do you cope and stay strong, well the first thing that I did when I got home was to go up and see Ebony and I told her everything and just hugged her and cried till I thought that I would never stop. She just stood there while normally it would be where is my food. Horses are a wonderful to unload all your problems too and seem to have a calming effect on life in general and for a brief moment I really felt at ease with the world and hoped that I would wake up from this horrid nightmare but this time I know I will not.

Some of the girls said they would sort her out but really it does give you a reason to get up and somehow carry on with life. If I did not have her what would I do sit and mope and cry and that is not going to help my poor mum. Do not have many people that I can say this too so this lovely forum of an extended family is where I can just get things out rather than sit and fester about them.

What would we all do with out our wonderful friends, thanks for taking the time to read x
 
So sorry to hear this... you have been through so much. ((((hugs )))). You can always unload on us here too. x
 
I didn't want to read and run - I am a long-time forum user, but mainly lurk nowadays, but have often read your threads and think you are pretty inspirational.
Life can dish out a crap time to good people, I can't imagine how you are feeling, but offer a virtual hug. Horses are good for the soul, and Ebony sounds like a treasure.
Lucy xx
 
My mum too has terminal cancer so I completely understand how you are feeling. Feel free to pm me if you want too at any time xx
 
oh gosh so terribly sorry to read this. I have been there... with my dad 25 years ago. Of course you need to cry - but you also want to lend your strength to your mum. Its so hard ... I think I overdid the strength thing and have always wondered whether my dad knew how sad I was... but you just do the best you can. Its small comfort I know, but as a mum myself I now realise that as much as you probably feel you wish you could swap places with your mum, she would never ever want that. (((((hugs))))) and thoughts x x
 
Oh hunny so very very sorry to hear your sad news. In times of great stress my horses have kept me sane and I am sure Ebony will be there for you. I know she also means the world to you. We will all be here for you xxx
 
There are no words to make things better but you will "cope" i am with simliar sort of thing with the help of ebony. as you said she will be your reason to get up and keep going. lean on her cry your tears into her mane and soak the love up she will give you. And remember you are not alone. alot of people on here with good shoulders for you me included. and hey if feel need for a rant about life go for it. )))))big big hugs hun x ((((((
 
I lost my husband to cancer nearly 10 years ago. Please pm me if you need to talk as I know what you are going through x
 
So sorry to read this what a awful time for you & your mum. Glad you have your beautiful Ebony to keep you strong xx
 
EA I'm so sorry. There is nothing I can say that can help. You are such a strong person. You are an inspiration. Sending you loads of hugs and even some BD wishes as you and I share the same one. I will be thinking of you and your mom.

Terri
 
tobiano said:
oh gosh so terribly sorry to read this. I have been there... with my dad 25 years ago. Of course you need to cry - but you also want to lend your strength to your mum. Its so hard ... I think I overdid the strength thing and have always wondered whether my dad knew how sad I was... but you just do the best you can. Its small comfort I know, but as a mum myself I now realise that as much as you probably feel you wish you could swap places with your mum, she would never ever want that. (((((hugs))))) and thoughts x x
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I am so sorry to hear about your dad, and I am sure that he did know who much you cared and how sad you were. I feel like I am the only one, but there are many people either going through it or have sadly already had to go through the pain of loosing someone close to them, but it does not make it any easier x
 
Equilibrium Ireland said:
EA I'm so sorry. There is nothing I can say that can help. You are such a strong person. You are an inspiration. Sending you loads of hugs and even some BD wishes as you and I share the same one. I will be thinking of you and your mom.

Terri
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Terri, thank you, and Happy Birthday to you I hope you had a good day, thanks for your support and kind worlds x
 
EA I'm so sorry. I lost my
Mum to cancer when I was 19. It's the worst thing and your world feels like it's falling apart, but you are strong, and somehow, day by day, you get stronger and you WILL cope. Take comfort in Ebony and never be afraid to let it all out. If you ever need to talk to someone, just to get it out, please pm me if you want to. It's hard, the hardest thing, but I promise you and your family will
get through this. Stay strong (((hugs))) xx
 
so sorry to hear about your mum. and how right you are about our horses. I am sure your Ebony will be happy to supply her shoulder when ever you need it.
 
Starry_eyes said:
EA I'm so sorry. I lost my
Mum to cancer when I was 19. It's the worst thing and your world feels like it's falling apart, but you are strong, and somehow, day by day, you get stronger and you WILL cope. Take comfort in Ebony and never be afraid to let it all out. If you ever need to talk to someone, just to get it out, please pm me if you want to. It's hard, the hardest thing, but I promise you and your family will
get through this. Stay strong (((hugs))) xx
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Sorry to hear about your mum, cancer is a terrible thing. Thank you for your kind words and offer of help it means a lot x
 
Sending thoughts and hugs to you and your family, glad you have Ebony to help you through, plus wonderful kind folk on here who will understand through their own experience what you are feeling right now. So sorry I can't offer more, but you have already shown your strength - you can let it out to Ebony and on here you can seek support, so you will be able to receive it and take comfort. You are not alone in this.
 
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