C...p Day Thank God for Ebony

So sorry to hear about your mum. I was in the same position a few years ago and somehow you do cope and get through it although it's the hardest thing ever :(

((((hugs)))) for you and your mum.
 
We are all here for you xx. The most important piece of advice I can give it dot try to be strong all the time for your mum... If you want to or feel the need to scream and shout and sob at the injustice in front of your mum... Do it!! Then hold each other tight... She is scared and ill, yes, but she is your mum and believe me I know my mum... They are mothers first and formost before illness and fear, your mother knows the pain your are in and if it were my mum I'd let her see it, because more than anything else in the world she would want to hold me while I cried and be there to comfort me, let her do that for you. Then, you can start to face this together.


I am so very sorry to read this, I really am and I hope you feel you can message me if you ever need to... Xxxx
 
So sorry for you both.

The only advice I can give is that as a mother, it would give me comfort to know you had Ebony and such a strong bond. So tell her that she helps you and tell her about the times you have with her.
 
Oh sweetie, I'm very sorry to read of this.

Was there with my Mum just over four years ago. My sister was strong for Mum, whereas I was the one that swore with her and told the cancer what we thought of it. Mum could relax and not have to be strong in my company, and equally, as Queenbee says above, she could comfort and help me.

We'll be here for you hunny, holding your hand every step of the way along with Ebony.
 
Queenbee said:
We are all here for you xx. The most important piece of advice I can give it dot try to be strong all the time for your mum... If you want to or feel the need to scream and shout and sob at the injustice in front of your mum... Do it!! Then hold each other tight... She is scared and ill, yes, but she is your mum and believe me I know my mum... They are mothers first and formost before illness and fear, your mother knows the pain your are in and if it were my mum I'd let her see it, because more than anything else in the world she would want to hold me while I cried and be there to comfort me, let her do that for you. Then, you can start to face this together.


I am so very sorry to read this, I really am and I hope you feel you can message me if you ever need to... Xxxx
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This is great advice. Your mum is still your mum and don't let anything change that. Laugh, cry, shout and scream together and don't leave anything unsaid. You are a strong person as we have seen on here and you will get through this.

Lots of hugs for you x
 
So sorry to hear your news. I lost my husband to cancer a few months ago and can honestly say that the horses were my lifeline. Please pm me if you want to talkl.
 
My mum is going through same thing it's so hard but as u said u just have to try to stay strong for your mum . Like u say at least we have our horses to fall apart in front of and they'll never judge us xx chin up and u will get through this
 
StormyGale said:
My mum is going through same thing it's so hard but as u said u just have to try to stay strong for your mum . Like u say at least we have our horses to fall apart in front of and they'll never judge us xx chin up and u will get through this
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StormyGale, my heart goes out to you and your mum, as you say we are very lucky that we can fall apart and unload on are wonderful horses, if I can ever be of any support please contact me. Take care x
 
I'm so sorry to hear about that EA :(

I had to go through the same with my Mum when I was 22. One minute we thought she had bronchitis, the next she was in for a chest Xray, then she couldn't swallow and had to go into hospital on Easter Sunday and the next day confirmed she had a tumour. I wasn't actually told prognosis until she came home again after 2 weeks radiotherapy. I remember feeling like the floor had just opened up underneath me though I knew she had been very unwell. We had 6 months together and I was her main carer as my older sisters lived away. Make sure you and your family get all the appropriate support from GP and places like MacMillan or local hospice - there are some wonderful people who work at such places who you can talk to and on here. Look after yourself too.
 
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