Can I please just curl up in the corner and cry now.

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LauraWheeler

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I realy don't know why i'm posting this on here. I just need to let it all out.
Everyone keeps telling me how well i'm doing since loosing Lucy and I've been coping amazingly. Especialy with all the other crap thats gone on to. But in truth i'm not coping at all. I still hurt with the pain of loosing Lucy, everytime I get a moment to myself I cry. I just realy wish she was here with me I need her so so much now.
Don't get me wrong I love Herbs and wouldn't be without him but he's not Lucy. My whole life just seems to be falling appart around me. Lucy has helped me get through the last 12 years and now I feel I need her more than ever and she's not here.
I just logged on to find I have been given a warning and three pics I put on here of Lucy have been taken off. One has been on here for ages and the others I've put on here before. I think know why they have been taken off and am frankly upset I wasn't just spoken to about it. But then what more did I expect from this person who was SUPPOSED to be my friend. I'm suprised they didn't have the whole post removed. Just kick me when i'm down go on I've had 27 years of that. Who cares anyway. It's not like my feelings or well being matter to these people or they wouldn't have treated me the way they did.
Oh well I suppose life must go on. I must keep painting that fake smile across my face and just pretend that everything is ok. That seems to be the only thing i'm good at.
 
(((((((Hugs)))))))

It's times like this you know who your real friends are.

It's ok to cry over Lucy, you almost set me off, just reading the post. I'll be the same as you when mine go. Thay are everyhting to us....help us through the bad times, but the worse time is loosing them.......then they aren't there. x x x

It hasn't been long, maybe you need to stop putting the smile on for a while and cry to someone and don't just keep it to yourself. I'm sure Herbs shoulder is getting alot of use.

Lucy always loved never forgotten, always looking over you. x x x
 
Oh Laura, I don't know what to say. I am flabberghasted that you have had a warning and pictures removed. Do you know why? I know that I haven't seen all of your posts, especially more recently, but can't imagine what you could have said or done to warrant that.

In my experience you rank among the nicest of the 'good' folk on here - you always have a kind word or a piece of advice when people need it and I have never seen you say a bad word against anyone here.

Sorry you are feeling so down right now, of course you still miss Lucy and maybe people sometimes forget that as you are seeming to be much more positive lately with Herbie - but no-one expects you to just forget her and move on. I know it's not the same, but I'm sure Lucy is still there for you in some way - although not for you to hug, which I guess is what you really need. She has left Herbie to try and help though and he is being so good lately maybe she is having an influence on him somewhere along the way?

There are lots of people here who only want to support you, so try not to let the minority get you down. Just look back at all the supportive posts you have had over the months and the list of those that have joined Lucy's FB memorial to know that, while we aren't there in person, you have lots of friends in cyberspace.

Hugs to you xx.
 
Thinking of you... You must be having a truely rotten time, but everything happens for a reason, good things come to those who wait and clouds = silver linings and all that...

Be brave, but at the same time dont bottle it up!
 
Its good to have a rant and a cry.
You arnt doing anything wrong.

As for the post im not sure what happened but yeah you realised who your real friends are and you are better off without them.
 
Grief doesn't go away overnight, please stop being so hard on yourself for still missing her. 12 years is a long time, losing Lucy is bound to have left a hole in your life. Losing someone special takes time to begin to heal.

I (obviously) don't know what else is going on in your life, but I followed yours & Lucy's story & you've always struck me as a strong person.

We all deal with things as best we can, but you don't always have to pretend everything's ok. Do you have some support and people you can lean on when things are really getting you down?

I hope things start to feel a little easier for you soon :)
 
I really feel for you and very much understand the loss of a horse in a lifetime. I don't want to patronise you and give you all the cliches 'time heals' etc. - it really does, but obviously you won't believe that at the moment.
<<hugs to you>>
Regarding your pics being removed, please don't take it personally, as just about everyone (including myself) has had their sig removed without warning if it even fractionally exceeded the correct size. I would be more than happy to put them back on for you in the correct size if that helps at all, feel free to pm me.
 
Hi so sorry your feeling very upset.I lost my beloved Sirrocco to colic in 1989 and will never forget him,I was very upset for ages.It does ease as time goes by. If anything happens to these two I'll be devestated.
As said,its times like this you find out who your REAL friends are!!! Chin up and if you want to pm me thats fine!!!
 
O please don't be sad over some silly forum antics. I *think* I saw the post that led to your warning yesterday and it seemed a bit mean to me seeing as I've never heard you say anything bad but people are just people. We all love you :)

Of course you can be sad over losing Lucy though but FWIW she is still with you. I'm sure she is watching over you and as you'll never forget her she will always be around. So sorry you are feeling down.
 
Oh I'm sorry to hear your feeling like this (((hugs))) I don't know what post you are refering to though, I'm afraid I may of missed that one.

Lucy will always be in your heart though, please don't let anyone get you down for what ever reasons, I know it's hard loosing a very special horse/pony but they are all special in their own ways, look forward to the good times your going to have with Herbie, you both found each other for the right reasons. x
 
i saw the post which i assume was about you. I think thats a bit out of order as it was suggested in the replies that she just asked you herself instead of trying to get you in trouble as as far as you knew you werent offending anyone!!! Poor you. Sounds like you've been through a really rubbish time recently :( It will get better, you are still grieving for lucy but time will heal i promise. Focus on the good things and try and put all the rubbish behind you hun xxx
 
Hun...its wasn't that the pics were of Lucy...it was the fact you had someones elses children on them also, and they quite rightly didn't want pics of their children on the internet. I would feel the same.

That apart....have a huge hug. You will always miss Lucy - she was special. Herbies isn't Lucy no, but he's Herbie and he's different and he's special in his own way.

Chin up. Herbie needs you....((((((huge hugs)))))) xx
 
Anyone who has lost someone animal or human feels like you do, mourning takes its own time if you want to cry do if you want to hit someone thing do a pillow or cushon is good. Don't ever apologise for your feelings. Hugs to you,
 
Thanks everyone. I've just been out for a hack on Herbie which actualy made me feel abit better. He's such a charector bless him He's developing some of Lucys cheeky habbits to. Maybe you are all right and she is guiding him along after all :p.
I just still miss her so much and find it hard that shes not here. I owe so much to that little girl and still love her with all my heart.

poppymoo I figred thats why they where taken off (although one pic was just of Lucys head), thats how I know who is responsable. She could have been grown up about it and done the decent thing and just asked me to have them removed. As I said I have posted the pics before and the one in my siggie has been there for all to see for ages. Why now is it suddenly a problem? And why go about it in a back handed way? Oh well it takes all sorts to make the world go round I suppose.

and thankyou CeeBee for the kind offer of a new siggie. The size was not the problem. Soon I may need some assistance in making a fab new one with Lucy and Herbs in it though. I just need to deside which pics to use.
 
Lucy, the post that was asking about pictures of other people's children also suggested that they were unhappy with ANY pics of the children appearing anywhere on the internet. If you still have pictures of the children posted anywhere else can I suggest you at least untag them and blur the children's faces but it would be probably sensible to remove the pics altogether.

I know it's hurtful having recently lost Lucy and I was one of the people who suggested that the person PM you. However, she did say she had tried to contact you with no success - maybe she thought a PM would do no good.

Glad you're feeling more cheerful now.
 
I am sorry you are having a rough time... nothing I can say or do will help though.

As for the pictures, perhaps something you are not privy to has been said, which is why things have happened. From what I gather it could have been dealt with a little better. Put it down to experience though.

While it feels raw and a hole were Lucy was you need to remember that she is never gone, and the raw feeling will eventually ease.

While it doesn't feel a blessing now, you do have Herbie, and while he won't fill Lucy's shoes - and you wouldn't expect him to - he will help heal the hole. Over time you will think of him more, laugh at his antics more, be touched with the affection that he shows you. He is already rewarding you now
 
Sorry to hear you are having a bad time :(

Unfortunately admin are going round removing pretty much everyones pictures unless they are in the picture gallery - apparently we arent allowed to post pictures anywhere else. There is a big post in the breeding section about it if anyone is interested.
 
jemima_too Thankyou for your assistance in the matter a simple PM would have saved alot of upset. But I can assure you that NO effort was made to contact me prior to this happening. This person has my phone number so I could have been called or sent a text also they have my email adress. They could have messaged me through FB or anything and I would have happily sorted everything out. But I have to say the way this was gone about doesn't surprise me in the slightest.
 
Laura, I didn't know it was you that was being spoken about at that time so no PM would have been forthcoming from me. I was somewhat surprised to see that the thread had been removed when I was next on my pc and presumed that the OP of it had done the decent thing by contacting you.

The thread actually gave me a bit of a fright because I'd been meaning to post some "embarrassing pictures" of horsey incidents that I'd taken over the years at Pony Club and I couldn't remember whether I'd done so or not. I hadn't - and won't now.
 
Hey, I hope you're ok. I am sorry to hear about the tough time you are going through at the moment. I hate times like these - they always seem like they will last forever. They don't though. Just keep allowing yourself to feel they way your body needs, don't force a smile if you don't feel like it, it makes things worse. Take each day at a time, keep talking to us and we will help you though it.

I am sorry you feel this way.
 
jemima_too sorry I didn't mean that you should have PM'd me I ment for the person in question should have. I didn't post on the embarresing pics thread so don't know what that was about. My pics where on another post about Lucy and in my siggy. :(

Berkeley Thankyou the support I have recieved on this forum has just been amazing. I just wish I knew such nice people in real life.
 
Tempi said:
Sorry to hear you are having a bad time :(

Unfortunately admin are going round removing pretty much everyones pictures unless they are in the picture gallery - apparently we arent allowed to post pictures anywhere else. There is a big post in the breeding section about it if anyone is interested.
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Will go and have a look in Breeding, but am interested as to why no pictures allowed anywhere but in the Gallery. I know I often put pics up in NL.

Laura, you're a grand lass. Just keep enjoying Herb :). When I lost Tiggy I cried for months, every quiet moment (long car journeys at the time, lots and lots of crying). Then I lost my Mum, and then my Mozart - the worst three months of my life. I had cried so much that by the time Mozart left me, I had no tears left, totally numb.

All you can do is know that people care. Yes there'll be the odd one or two, but until we've walked a day in their shoes, we cannot say for sure what is driving their actions. I have recently learnt this, and whilst it is a very hard lesson to learn, it's a vital one if we are to stay sane and move forwards.

Hugs hunny.
 
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Berkeley Thankyou the support I have recieved on this forum has just been amazing. I just wish I knew such nice people in real life.[/QUOTE]

I can assure you I have 2 arms, two legs and blood running through my veins (albeit it with hint of champagn still lingering from the weekend!) - I am real! :D :D x
 
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Berkeley Thankyou the support I have recieved on this forum has just been amazing. I just wish I knew such nice people in real life.
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I can assure you I have 2 arms, two legs and blood running through my veins (albeit it with hint of champagn still lingering from the weekend!) - I am real! :D :D x
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:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D Thankyou that made me laugh so much.
 
MrsM I thought the breeding thing was just because of stallion owners putting up pics of progeny seen as advertising... and that if they put pics in PG instead it wouldn't be seen as such.
 
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