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sorry this may be a little long i currently have a 7 year old who hasnt been schooled or taught very much i no what people are going to say babies with babies but the seller wasnt excatly truthful to me and no he here i cant part with him. i have an instructor out twice a week to help me with him and to get him going properly. She has no said that maybe sending him a way is a good idea but i dont like the thought of him going away for 6 weeks when he first arrived he was very distrusting of people i couldnt even headcollar him i now have his trust were i can do anything to him with out him being frightened or running away well anything except get him used to a lunge whip hes extremely scared of them so much so my instructor thinks he may of had a beating at some point. so my question is do i carry on with my instructor and do the work myself with her guidence or send him away and risk breaking his trust?
 
Option 3 keep him at home and spend the money that sending him away would cost to get someone in more frequently to school him for you, they can give you help along they way.
I usually think sending them off for schooling is a good idea but it seems as if you have come a long way already, if your instructor is not suggesting sending him to her it may be that you should look elsewhere, if she is willing and able then continue with her.
 
As a trainer, on a very practical level, I know I would not recommend the horse go away for training unless I thought it best for the final outcome, as in a way I would be cutting off my income stream for 6 weeks!

The four horses where I have suggested they go away, three took me up on my recommendation and one chose to get help from another person on a twice a week basis at home.

The three who went away, it was to two different yards who I put forwards as suitable. The horses all came back and were good to walk / trot / canter on the school, would pop a X pole, had ridden out on the roads and in open fields. The owners all got them back and we were able to pick up and the horses have progressed further and all was good.

The one that did not take the suggestion had a well qualified person, but from training progressing smoothly there started to be major problems. The horse was well bred and quite sharp, it needed consistency every single day to train on.

I guess it depends on how much you trust your current trainer. Where you send them is paramount, and again, do you trust your trainer to know the right person for you and your horse? I would expect you could go and see your horse every week, and ride him when he is there so you are better prepared when he comes home. You can also spot problems if the training is not progressing as you would wish.

Maybe if you give your area people on HHO would be able to help with a sympathetic trainer?
 
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Firstly well done for building trust and making progress.

Another option would be to book yourself and your horse into a good establishment and for you to go with him as a holiday and ride under instruction every day for 2 weeks, you could then leave your horse if he needs it for a further number of weeks going regularly to see him and have instruction. This way your horse would still see you, and you would be involved in his progress.

A good establishment with experienced staff will know how to build their own trust with your boy, and help you at the same time.

I think the most important choice is who to trust with your boy, so do your research and seek recommendations, and visit places before you make a decision.

If you decide on the option to have some extra help at home, you could also consider going on some residential horse camps with him to help you both
 
thanks for the replies i do trust my trainer but its not her that will be doing the training if he goes away and im in south west devon
 
My situation has been almost identical to yours. If it helps...I have just sent my boy off as of yesterday for schooling etc. But I found somewhere local and I can visit regularly. I went to see the place and spoke to the trainers extensively. It really is a good opportunity for your horse to gain confidence in another setting etc...that's what I have been telling myself :o
And I shall use my extra time to cram in as many lessons as possible xx
 
There is another option - split your twice weekly lessons into one for you and one for him (or up them temporarily) and get your instructor to school him for one. My instructor is great in that if we are doing something new she is happy to jump on for the first half of the lesson and then I do the second half to reinforce it in how I ride (short legs ;)).

Sending them away isn't the be all and end all as usually they just focus on walk/trot/canter, hacking and a few cross poles. If you are half way there already it might be more cost effective and less stressful just to have someone school him for you.
 
It seems like keeping.him at home is doable as i dnt want him to loose his trust in me as i think afte knowing his past its taken him alot and hes improved so much with me i must b doing something right so maybe i shall keep going with him and see how he is in a.months time and re think then thanks for ur help
 
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Option 3 keep him at home and spend the money that sending him away would cost to get someone in more frequently to school him for you, they can give you help along they way.
I usually think sending them off for schooling is a good idea but it seems as if you have come a long way already, if your instructor is not suggesting sending him to her it may be that you should look elsewhere, if she is willing and able then continue with her.
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I agree this would be a good option
 
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