Care to join me in confession?

juliag said:
but that whatever I am riding will stumble and we will both go crashing to the ground
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That has happened to me! About 2 years ago now, but ever since I am always so worried about cantering on a hack or even trotting though a field...I used to love it so much!
 
I battle with confidence when schooling my horse, cannot seem to get out of him what other riders can. Why though when I ride other peoples horses, everything I strive to get in my own horse I can do on other horses!?
 
I confess....I bought a horse today, my first horse as an Adult (last horse bought by parents when i was a teenager) but am so worried about my mothers opinion that i havent told anyone but my closest friends and wont tell anyone else till she is home (hopefully any day now) and settled. I am 30 with 3 kids, 2 dogs, own home, job etc...but still scared of being told off by my Mum, feels better to tell someone, plus im really excited about my new horse :)
 
I'm scared of my mum 2 ... I'm 35 own my own company.... Have a large NHS and private practice a son and a husband and I actually ask my mums permission b4 I do stuff with my horses... That I pay for ... Mmmmmmm
 
What you are allowing is for fear to take over.

Fear is a terrible thing and the only way to overcome it is to actually face up to it and kick it back to the last century!

What those of you who are afraid need is someone on the ground who is going to assist and help you face the terrors and encourage you through them. This means that they should be very strong with you and for you to respect them so that when they say, "Jump!" you say, "How high?"

Like the other two posters, I still do what my mother says (mostly!) I am a pensioner and she is 91.
 
I am not nervous, just cautious :0. I have total trust in my little horse but am very wary of riding anything else that I don't know. I think it boils down to age, I have realized that I don't bounce any more and the mere thought of riding a young fresh horse would make me run fir the hills :eek:. As we get older, self preservation kicks in, I think of some of the loopy horses I used to ride and some of the daft things we used to do and can't believe what a big wimp I am!!!!
 
I confess that I can't lunge, no matter what I do I go horribly dizzy. Got all the lungeing books yet still don't get it and
I constantly worry about my boy stumbling whilst I'm out riding as he did it a lot at one time so I always ride with my rs-tor fitted.
But the most stupid confession is I havnt cantered for so long I can't remember the aids :(, I'm terrified to attempt to try and canter but I so so badly want to.
 
Despite watching child have a million (or so it seems) dressage lessons and riding myself for many years I still can't tell if I'm on the right diagonal or if child is.
 
1) I don't jump, won't jump, can't jump.
I have been riding for 16 years (since i was 4) and I have NEVER gotten on with jumping. I get scared going over trotting poles incase my horse jumps them :eek:

2) Ever since I first hacked my horse a year ago, and she galloped home with me I have been petrified of hacking her. I know if I just let her hack on the buckle end of the rein, I would be fine but I just can't "let go"... :o

3) I am finding it very hard to get motivated to ride full stop. I haven't ridden her in a month.. :rolleyes: I will get on her tonight hopefully.. I love riding her and she is just up my street but I'm just finding it very hard to get motiviated to ride on an evening!
 
I confess that I have lost quite a bit of confidence when jumping. As a child I loved it and was my main 'thing'. Stopped riding for about 2 years and started back about a year ago but now I just feel like I've no confidence in jumping what so ever, still got the same horse who was bred for showjumping and I trust her completely :confused:
Think it's just me being a ninny :o
 
Mine's a 'Mum related confession' too :o I bought a second horse and kept it on full livery for 18 months without telling her. Both horses were grey and she lives miles away so all I had to worry about was if she saw photos. She only queried it once and I said that my new horse was in fact my older one but looked a bit darker because she'd just been washed. 'She' was actually a steel grey gelding and hadn't been near any water :eek: I got away with it and have since sold the horse due to lack of time so I got away with it :D
 
Damnation said:
1) I don't jump, won't jump, can't jump.
I have been riding for 16 years (since i was 4) and I have NEVER gotten on with jumping. I get scared going over trotting poles incase my horse jumps them :eek:

2) Ever since I first hacked my horse a year ago, and she galloped home with me I have been petrified of hacking her. I know if I just let her hack on the buckle end of the rein, I would be fine but I just can't "let go"... :o

3) I am finding it very hard to get motivated to ride full stop. I haven't ridden her in a month.. :rolleyes: I will get on her tonight hopefully.. I love riding her and she is just up my street but I'm just finding it very hard to get motiviated to ride on an evening!
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Yes yes yes!!! Me too. Gosh I am SOOOOOO glad I not the only one who goes through these issues sometimes. Allot of the people I ride with a are so flamin' confident which makes their horse's bad behaviour look trivial. I on the otherhand am sooooo UNconfident that anything my pony does is MASSIVELY CRAZY!!!!

I also have this deep deep dread that I am too heavy for him (me: 9st 7, 5"4he is a Welsh C 13h2 :()
 
I'm terrified of jumping at home or training and before a competition I am nearly sick. Partly my natural nerves and partly my saint of a pony is recovering from back injury and her confidence has suffered so I no longer go wondering where I will get placed, rather where she will stop and if I will fall off!!

Once I get in the ring and over fence 1 I am kind of ok and enjoy it too much to give up!

New pony is helping, despite having mental health issues, he WILL NOT STOP, and stopping is when I fall off (I know I sit too far forward, always have, working on it). Only now I wonder if he will remain controllable for the whole course!!

Solution- jump pretty much only at shows, drop down a class or 2 in height and try to find a competition at least once a fortnight, it gets worse the less I do it. Also jumping new pony at home to build my confidence of home.

WOW!! feel good to get that off my chest!!

Edited to say last weekend was 1st time out for a while, saint pony - double clear!! new pony - only ran away with me in the ring once!
 
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I confess....I don't think I can actually ride properly....its more of an illusion....:o


......I don't know the difference between travers and renvers and any of that sideways stuff.....I think I have 'dressage dyslexia'


...... I have good intentions of schooling .....and I get bored after 3 minutes and go hacking.


.....that I always check out my reflection in windows whilst out hacking:cool:
 
I can't get over my fear in open spaces, I keep thinking I am going to get bolted with, even though my mare has never put a foot out of line.

I panic cantering into jumps, I much prefer to trot in to them. However yesterday I did push myself to canter over a jump with my old share Horse.

I don't know anything about bits! It goes completly over my head as does different types of feed.
 
What a great thread!!!

OP you are in no way to big or heavy for your pony.

I also struggle to canter into jumps, and always have to trot at them, until the point that pony gets fed up trotting and canters. By then I know he is going over them and after the first couple it ceases to bother me. But if I stop, I have to start at trot again........

Also check out the reflection in windows out hacking.....

Nervous of hacking the welsh out on his own, mainly because he is not my old horse, who while a complete handful on grass, is good, controllable and not at all scary.

....i fear I make him worse than he would be with someone more confident.
 
Jzo said:
I normally hover over posts because I am too frightened to post incase I look stupid as my general knowledge isn't as great as the majority of other posters in here, but have to say this thread has made me feel great!! There has been some confessions that I have always thought I was just too thick to know....
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THIS! Oh thank you so much for posting this :).
 
I blame having children totally for my new found sense of self preservation....!!!

Prior to kids I would ride anything and bounce when I fell off no matter how many times.

After son No 1 I suddenly realised someone depended on me and I now get the shakes before riding anything. Haven't fallen off in years but as I walk to catch my horse and tack her up I start to wobble. She is steady as you like but still I tremble. She has to coach me through lol and she is a youngster but luckily VERY genuine!!!

So you are not alone we all just hide it well ;0)

But after I have ridden and had a canter throught the woods I feel amazingly alive and extremely proud of myself and her and very grateful to have her in my life :D

My only other confession is having a wee in the stable when I can't be bothered to walk down to the house - Lazy I know!!! Oh and having to ask my farrier what a bone spavin is after a friend had a long conversation with me about her mare having one and I had nodded alone without a clue.... Oh and having to call my Mum all the time and ask what things are, how much to feed and which wormer ( I am 34 and had horses all my life but at home with Mum who always overseen everything) etc etc But I am getting better since we moved to Somerset :D
 
I dont know what bilateral means. Also I worry about jumping my own horse but I'm fine jumping others. Even though mine does nothing wrong and I dont think has ever really refused with me
 
I must confess i am rubbish at remembering xc runs, i need to walk them 2-3 times and take pics of the jumps and go over them with the map the night before but i soooo wish you could get a saddle with sat nav in the pommel :o
 
I can't tell how many HH a horse is. I don't know why, I don't know if it's something you learn or pick up. But I always ask if it's a horse I'm going to work with for a while, so if someone asks I know.

In the yard I used to work in, the had a little strip where they would turn out some of the horses, it was thin but long and in an L shape, there'd be 4 horses in the at most. The first time I had to turn a horse out ALL the horses got out. The property was completely fenced off but it was scary. I had to ring my boss while I tried to keep them contained. The next time I turned out there, the electric fence had been turned on and it shocked me and the horse I was trying to turn out, who proceeded to spook and try and run, then I got shocked about 3 more times over the course of a week and got really panicky whenever I had to go there.
 
I'm scared of taking my boy showing, he has done it before but i haven't and im scared im going to do something totally stupid or wrong like trip up and fall flat on my face or that people will be horrible to me as it's my first show :(
 
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