Chinese Whispers....(long rant, sorry!)

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Don't you just hate it when something you've said gets twisted around and changed and by the time it gets back to the person it's about, it sonds completely different? One of the people on our yard left last week, then a few days later her horse appeared on Horsemart. Everyone on the yard noticed it and I did say to a couple of people that I couldn't believe how much the girl wanted for the horse and that she was nuts to put it on for that money. (i think it was a perfectly justified comment considering the scenario)

Anyway, said comments got back to her and she came storming onto the yard today ranting at myself and another girl, completely slating our horses and saying we had said her horse was crazy and had been slagging her off behind her back!!
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a) I didn't slag her off - I was just shocked at the price of the horse and said so
b) If she had still been on the yard I would have said it to her face!

I'm just really annoyed that she came and ranted at us, because I don't really feel as though I've done anything wrong! And I'm annoyed that somehow it got twisted to me saying her horse was crazy???
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Grrrrr.....

Anyway, rant over (deep breath, count to ten...1...2...3...)
 
The thing is, if someone I considered a 'friend' went round telling people my horse wasnt worth what i was asking for it, I'd feel they were slagging my horse off
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The horsey world is incredibly small, and afterall, you DID bad mouth her of sorts
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*backs out quietly before a row starts*
 
Maybe I did, but I was genuinely really shocked when I saw the price! It wasn't that I don't like the horse, or her, but I really was gobsmakcked wheh I saw how much he was advertised at. The reason I was shocked isn't because the horse has been advertised as being something it isn't, but it has a medical problem that needs quite a lot of managing.

I suppose it does sound a bit like that, but it was nothing to do with the capabilites of the horse, more that the medical problem wasn't taken into consideration at all as far as the price was concerned.
 
people just get really sensitive where money and horses are concerned. Perhaps she hadnt advertised the fact he had this problem? If she has and is asking too much she won't sell him for that anyway, if she hasnt then perhaps she's worried word will get out?
 
I don't know, I suppose I would just rather she had asked me what I had said, rather than assume I'd been slagging off her horse, which I hadn't - he's a nice little horse. Anyway - live and learn!
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Thanks
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I don't think I'll lose too much sleep over it! I wouldn't have a problem if I saw her daily, cos I'd be able to explain what I said, but I don't suppose it matters - life's too short
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I just hope she finds a suitable home for him.
 
Ahh, but there are *ways* of saying these things. It might have gone better if you had said "I didn't realise he was worth that much" or, "it looks like the price of that sort has gone up!" That way it can't be interprited as 'slagging off' or belittling the horse.
 
Unfortunatly we have all been guilty of "slagging people off" and being" slagged off" for whatever reason, guess you were just unlucky that the person decided to confront you! remember the saying "what comes around , goes around" !!
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I agree with YorkshireLass here - there are diplomatic ways of saying things.

Sorry - but I think saying that a horse isn't worth what its owners are asking for it, and that they are 'nuts' to ask so much, would count as 'slagging off' in most people's eyes.

If the owner has concealed or lied about the medical problem, that's a bit different.

JMO - and obviously I don't know the full story, so no offence intended.
 
None taken htobago. It was a private conversation btw....I didn't go round 'slagging her off'. I also wasn't the only person to say something (meaning everyone else on the yard had an opinion too) and I did stick up for her on more than one count. Tbh I'd love to go into the medical issue, (and other issues) because I know people on here would totally agree with me, but I don't want to make it obvious which horse it is because I'm not that much of a bit*h.

Generally speaking if someone asks a bit more for a horse than I think it's worth I'd keep my mouth shut and not even give it a second thought. Regarding this horse though, someone has actually said to me that in their opinion it's only worth meat money (I didn't offer an opinion back - I thought that was a nasty thing and probably not true).
 
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