Choosing between OH's and horseys!

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I've been seeing this boy for nearly a year and at the last minute he invited me round to his for Sunday dinner. But I couldn't because I'd promised that I'd feed two friends horses for them and couldn't get to his for the time his Mum was finishing cooking. He absolutely FLIPPED and told me it was the last straw and it was him or Charlie :o

needless to say I picked the tall dark handsome one of the two and told BF to sod off ;)

any experience of OH's and horseys clashing??
 
My b/f spat his dummy out once over my horse when we first started "going out" i put him in his place, told him who came first and who came last, wev'e now been married for 23 years and together for 27, they do learn their place eventually ;)
 
Had one that was jealous of me being at the yard all the time... needless to say that relationship didn't last.

My hubby knew I had a horse when I met him and infact 1st met at the yard itself, so that was a great start lol.... my horse's will always come 1st simples :D
 
Yup!
My boyfriend always knows my pony comes first over anything in my life. He's not 100% happy about it...but...;) been together nearly 18 months and still in love, and even better he loves her despite the denial :p
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I've just found my perfect man, after serveral failed ones and even a thread on here about it.

We are even moving into a house together that has stables see another thread :D, and he has just helped me take the trailer to the hay man as I ran out of hay and straw (even in this horrid weather).

I love him dearly and we both keep agreeing that we were meant to be,

He knows clearly that my horse means the world to me and encourages me with it.. Can't believe I found him...

Don't worry his out there, people will vouch on here not long ago I was "seeking love" now I'm the happiest love struck girl in the world :D you will find your perfect one soon...

Right you can all stop puking now lol :D
 
I'm very lucky that my husband loves the ponies, he was totally unhorsey when we met but now he's happy to feed, turnout for me and always comes to help when he's not working. Built me shelter/stable, re fenced the paddocks and will be building my new stables and school when planning is granted. I couldn't ask for more...in fact I think he loves the big grumpy ginger pony more than me
 
Yes I have had many clashes it is just a case of waiting for one that understands:D I also try and be as thoughtful as I can for example in the situation you explained there was no way you could change your plans with that kind of notice and it was unreasonable for your BF to expect you to!!! However if he had asked you eg. 2 weeks ago then you might have been able to sort something. My OH has learnt now that we have to plan most things:Dand he is fully aware that if he springs something on me there is a good chance I might not be able to go. He is not the right bloke for you ditch him and look to pastures new:)
 
That's men for you.They can be selfish.My OH resents my horse and pony but Hey too bad,he knows the score.Horse and ponio stay ,if he doesn't like it Wahhhhhhh lol
 
It's one of the many reasons why I don't date anymore. Ned's a nightmare sometimes, but he's never made me cry, I can't stay mad at him and when he looks at other girls, I don't care. (would be a bit weird if I did, haha!)

I nearly considered moving to Hong Kong with one of my exes, but one look from Ned and I told him no. Never.
 
my husband alwaays rolls his eye and moans when i buy thing like feed. or say to him the stable rent is due all i get is. that bloody horse. but i dont care my horse will eat even if we cant lol id spend my last fiver on him so long as i no he has everything he needs. i dont go out i dont buy cloths very often i dont drink. im not a shoe or bag woman so he cant moan
 
Horses everytime!

That came to my OH as a bit of a shock. He gave me an ultimatum "It's me or the horses.".

He came back after 3 days on his own. The horses are still here. :D
 
My OH of 10 years still cannot get his around why i love my horses so much. He is however beginning to understand and just switches off. I pay for them myself and they stay on his land he inherited :p just been granted planning permission and he knows he will have to put up stables in the back for them :p:p

He also understands that the horses come before HE does, my daughter is taking up horses now too at 6yrs old :D theres nothing down for him really :)

Men get so jealous about our horses :rolleyes:
 
Yeah I agree with Annie I don't date anymore either. I have plenty of things in my life - work, mucking out, marking, studying. Oh well, at least my horse is always pleased to see me :).
 
My OH is fine with the horses. So are his parents and totally understand that I have commitments. If we're going there for a meal they always check with him what time I can do etc if it's at short notice. If it's organised well in advance I get someone else to do the horses for me so that it is a give and take situation.

OH would never, ever say it's me or the horses. Not because he knows what I would say (because I actually think I would choose him tbh, I like him more than my horses most days, mine aren't terribly nice!) but because he loves me, respects me and we don't make ultimatums at each other. That isn't how you behave with someone you care about surely?
 
HAHA, I've never had a guy make a ridiculous statement like that - because, from day 1, they know it goes "horses - dog - landy - man" :D

Any man who would say something so daft and controlling is, in my book, not worth the air he breathes. Maybe there's a reason I'm single? :confused:
 
Horses, every time. I'm still single ... ;) I'm definitely one of those eternally single people so I suppose I'm lucky that I don't have to choose between horse or OH in the first place!
 
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JFTD said:
Any man who would say something so daft and controlling is, in my book, not worth the air he breathes. Maybe there's a reason I'm single? :confused:
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I agree and I'm not single. I reckon you're single because you live in Essex and you don't like Essex boys :D :p
 
Mine knew when he met me how important to me my ponies are. When we first got together he came down lots, now I do horses while he does his sporty stuff and neither can moan at each other. He wouldn't give an ultimatum but I know if I gave him one he would pick his dog over me :-%
 
jesstickle said:
I agree and I'm not single. I reckon you're single because you live in Essex and you don't like Essex boys :D :p
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shhhhhhh don't tell everyone :eek: I don't live in Essex at al :eek: :D

I'm sorry I just don't find guys who threaten to throw me in the river attractive :o
 
Sounds like you had a lucky escape! Fortunately my OH is very understanding of my commitments to my horse...the horse came first afterall. In return I'm understanding of his work schedule (try 8am-10pm nearly five days a week) so we work well together (sometimes he even comes and mucks out!).
 
My bf of 5 years would throw a hissy fit about me going to the yard once/twice a day. I got the horse is the last year that we were together. His argument was that the horse would be fine and that I shouldn't visit him everyday :/ Needless to say he's an ex now..
 
OH has been throwing horse related paddies for nearly 14 years now and my answer is always the same " Grow up " and " Not again - yawn" I am immune to his jealousy and wonder if he'll ever grow up?

I had horses prior to him, none when I met him then he encouraged me to buy one. I never make huge decisions without consenting him and earn just enough to cover their keep. They keep me sane when he is driving me insane :0)
 
scrunchie said:
Horses everytime!

That came to my OH as a bit of a shock. He gave me an ultimatum "It's me or the horses.".

He came back after 3 days on his own. The horses are still here. :D
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Lol.

Mine got told before we started to even see each other that the horse comes first.
He'd been speaking to my very non-horsey sister and she told him he would be second to the horse.

He had NO idea what he was getting in to... but he doe help me with the 2 horses if I ask him.

OP - Your better off without him. I always said if a man tried to make me choose between my horse/dog and him, then he'd be outta there. :p
 
Errmmm... my reply would of been 'no contest the horse!' He shouldnt be making you choose!

My husband is fab with my horse (completly non horsey). He regularly pops to give him treats when im at work and check on him. He has learnt to groom and pick his feet out, change his rugs. He comes to watch me ride once every few weeks and rarely moans!
 
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