completely fed up - sorry a bit long

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Just wanted to get this off my chest. I'm not a regular poster on here so I need to explain. Ollie has been with me for 16 years and now just goes for a little plod so I made a big decision to get a second horse. After looking at dozens I bought a cob 6 months ago. He was then aged 4 and a half, so is just 5 now. I had slight misgivings about him being too young but at the same time looked forward to bringing him on. I knew he would be a bit more forward going and spooky than very old bombproof Ollie but unfortunately I started to feel a bit nervous with him, particularly as he got fitter, then he bucked me off on the field which made me get really nervous. At this point, Hubby who is a decent rider but hadn't ridden for a while, decided he wanted to ride him. Anyway to get to the point, Hubby now rides him every day, won't let me ride him as he thinks me being nervous will spoil him, so now I'm back to taking Ollie for a little plod, and time and finances won't stretch to a third horse. Hubby won't hear of parting with cob. I just feel completely fed up and I know there isn't really an answer.
 
Sounds to me like Hubby is being very selfish! Not sure what to do about it though
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Have you tried talking to him about you getting some lessons on the new cob, maybe?
 
Your hubby should teach you how to ride him. If he has worked out what makes him tick then he can pass on that information..

Your hubby could ride him for the first 15 mins or so then you could get on with hubby there. Once you are more confident your hubby wont need to ride him as much and you can have your horse back. You could both ride him so that he doesn’t get "spoiled" and if you get into trouble hubby can always get back on.

He was bought for you and the end result is that you can ride him. Ask you hubby to help you with this goal.

It wont do the horse any harm if you are put on a lunge for a few weeks while you build a bond but this wont happen if you don’t have anything to do with the him. Stick with it and let hubby do the educating until you are ready.
 
Oh no, can OH not help you out on the cob. Surely with a more confident rider riding him regularly he will come on in his own confidence and then you can have to odd go on him then gradually increase your time out? Ditto to lessons too.

Do you were a body protector? Sometimes this works wonders for the confidence too!
 
It's difficult, I have an old mare (33) who is currently fit, healthy and rideable, but I can't compete her anymore so my dressage has been on the back burner for a few years as I can't afford another one. Can you see if you can put Ollie out on loan or get a sharer to help with the finances and then maybe loan another horse?
 
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