Confidence in riding after a horse has been rehabbed

I kind of think the decision is made, the last month has reinforced how much I love having a horse, but I don't want to be constrained to only being able to ride with other people, or at least when other people are around, or only being able to ride when the yard is quiet. I think she will make a lovely horse for someone, to be fair the yard member of staff sorted her in ten minutes yesterday. She needs an owner who can do that.
 
It’s very difficult to repair that relationship with a horse after an incident or accident. I am back on Polly now, but it’s very much baby steps at the moment. I lunge first and then I pop on for a walk at the end and walk back to the stable. I wanted to get back on and I’m glad I have and for now I am happy plodding away as I am doing.

She has to work because she has severe EMS and every summer she gets mild lami if she’s not kept doing something. I can do this through lunging and long-reining, so there’s no pressure to ride. Plus she’s 15 now and with a host of issues, so there’s really no point trying to make anything of her. But I have always actually loved riding her because she’s so forwards and keen, the total opposite to Millie 😅

I’m fortunate that I have Millie I can do everything on because no way on this earth would I ever hack Polly out again. It’s just not worth her having another explosion. I know that one summer the lami will get her and that’ll be the end. We are just enjoying our time together until then.
 
I met up with some very good friends last night who all ride and have known the horse since we got her. They agreed that selling with disclosure is the right thing to do, they feel we have tried everything to move things forward. I want a horse I can ride, I appreciate she would be very happy if I turned her out with some mates and left her to it, but selfish or not, riding is something I use to help me with my mental health and dealing with the stresses of life.
 
Waxwing said:
I met up with some very good friends last night who all ride and have known the horse since we got her. They agreed that selling with disclosure is the right thing to do, they feel we have tried everything to move things forward. I want a horse I can ride, I appreciate she would be very happy if I turned her out with some mates and left her to it, but selfish or not, riding is something I use to help me with my mental health and dealing with the stresses of life.
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100% echo your sentiments above, as a middle aged busy mum of 3 and in FT work, riding is my relaxation and time also to enjoy with my eldest daughter and should be enjoyable and fulfilling. Its too expensive a hobby to be anything but and the perfect horse is out there for you somewhere? slightly different scenario personally as I have just retired our pony after failed surgery and rehab last year and despite some opinions to the contrary I don't want to sell him on as a ridden pony. For the past 9 months daughter and I have been riding a friends 2 wonderful geldings who are amazing and have given me so much confidence back not to mention fun hooning around the welsh countryside!. Maybe you could look for a share whilst searching for your next one?
 
Hi we have done shares before and it is something I would potentially consider again; I need to get the current horse sorted first, both in terms of time, money and head space. I have a lesson once a week after work at a different yard so will still be riding. Hopefully it will all work out over the next few months. I'm just sad that it has all changed so quickly over the last week, however I cannot be worrying about the what ifs every time I ride. Thank you again for all your comments they are appreciated.
 
I had a positive conversation with the yard this morning and we have agreed the following.

Vet check/ lameness workup. next week to see if there are any underlying issues contributing to her behaviour.

If anything is identified we will investigate/ treat as required.

If no issues are identified they are happy to support with selling and with finding a replacement if I decide to do this. If the vet doesn't find anything, or finds something that is treatable/ easily manageable they have someone in mind who may be interested.

I feel a lot happier now I have a plan. Obviously if the vet finds something more significant this will involve a rethink, but I will continue to do right by the horse.
 
The yard are very good and also pragmatic and positive, about outcomes if further treatment is required. I also liked the fact they would not support a sale unless they are 100% sure there are no underlying unidentified issues. If she is ok then I am confident they will help me find the right home for her. If there are issues then I equally sure they will help me reach the right longer term decision.
 
It sounds like such a good yard, I’m really pleased they are so supportive. Fingers crossed nothing serious comes up in the investigations, and you can start the process of advertising soon x
 
Waxwing said:
Hi is there anyone who would be happy for me to PM them, specifically people who have had to make some difficult long term decisions regarding medical issues (horse not human).
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I was just about to message you - I've not been on here for a while but you know that you're in pretty much the exact position I was in three years ago (how is it three years!) so if you want to talk it through give e a shout.
 
Waxwing said:
Hi is there anyone who would be happy for me to PM them, specifically people who have had to make some difficult long term decisions regarding medical issues (horse not human).
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Id be happy too, as just had to retire coblet after 10 months of injury, surgery, rehab, riding, lame again, retirement decisions......
 
Hi having concluded at the start of the week I was going to have no choice but to make a very difficult and final decision another option was put forward last night. This is on the recommendation of someone I trust implicitly and safeguards her future. She will be remaining on the same site as our current yard so I can have regular contact with her. I have gone from devastated to hopeful.
 
Waxwing said:
Hi having concluded at the start of the week I was going to have no choice but to make a very difficult and final decision another option was put forward last night. This is on the recommendation of someone I trust implicitly and safeguards her future. She will be remaining on the same site as our current yard so I can have regular contact with her. I have gone from devastated to hopeful.
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I hope everything works out well.
 
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