Continued unrest with livery client

Do not underestimate the low levels people will go to if they want you off the yard. Eg threatening behaviour telling lies about you, just trying to make your time at the yard unbearable. Good Luck
 
ihatework said:
In the nicest way possible you need to ‘grow a pair’.
Do not succumb to emotional blackmail.
You just tell them you are not modifying the stable, end of. Then get on with your own life. Honestly, you will probably find it quite liberating!
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Exactly rent the cottage ,smile ,ignore them get on with life .
Don’t feed the madness .
It’s a mare 50 per cent of horses are mares ,these people are nuts I would be suspious some of ulterior motive driving this biazzre behaviour ,might they want the cottage?
What the YMer does with her horse isnot down to you if she makes a bad choice it’s not your fault .
 
They do sound nuts and I doubt she will have her healthy horse put down. Would a vet even allow that?

Just move into the cottage and ignore them. They are getting wound up about change, not your mare. It could have been any horse and they'd have still found something to whine about. My horse annoys a mare opposite his stable and she now bites him when he leaves it. This is a mare who is lovely to everyone and every horse and doesn't seem to go into heat at all, you can't tell anyway. She bites him because he irritates her, like he irritates the rest of them. So he gets bitten, it's his own fault in my opinion. He doesn't bite the others by the way, not one horse has a mark on them apart from him. He just hasn't grown up yet. I don't whine about that although I bet this lady would call the police.

Ignore them and leave them to it. Put your mares happiness above theirs.
 
abbijay said:
From reading this thread it sounds like you have a miserable pair of 40somethings who don't want you on "their" yard and are doing what they can to make you want to leave. As a young woman I think this is going to be one of those moments where you discover playground bullies don't necessarily grow up into nice adults, sometimes they remain playground bullies all their lives, the big difference is you don't have teachers to maintain the rules once you're out of the school gate. While I totally understand that you want to be polite to these other women it doesn't sound like it's helping you one bit so why keep doing it? Certainly don't be unnecessarily rude to them but don't try to chat to them, only speak when spoken to and if they are giving you **** tell them to **** off!
Can I give you some advice, as a miserable 30-something with a chip on her shoulder? Stop being a doormat and trying to make them happy! IF they were playing fair then by all means, try to work with them and always give people a second chance but these people have had a lot of chances. You have gone out of your way to accommodate them and they're still not playing by the rules so, for your own health stop trying to make them happy, it is not your job.
Get your house, have your horse at the bottom of the garden path, spend time with your horse and your partner. Make sure you have friends elsewhere and move on from 2 crazy fellow liveries (I'm sorry but a self appointed yard chief is just another livery with a bit of a gob on her so stop deferring to her in this way).
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If you dont want to take the yard on and run it yourself, <THIS> all the way!
 
They sound like complete nutty old birds I remember being on a yard with the most miserable older woman when I was young, nobody liked her she reduced a few girls to tears on many occasion I did end up having a flaming row with her and we just ended up ignoring each other.

I would just rent the cottage and tell them to get a grip they knew the stables set up if they didn't want other horses being able to touch there's they should have gone elsewhere, one of my horses can't be kept in an internal barn he spends his whole time on his back legs trying to look over the walls the nosy sod, tried it some years back and had to move him to an outside stable after 2 days of rearing up.
 
Was quiet tonight, got on with bits but I was civil and pleasant. Going to still have to see how it progresses on their side, but will sort my side along the sensible lines (take the cottage, speak to LO).

Mare coming better and better with settling in tonight, so proud of her. Cements my decision that I want to keep her on the same yard instead of throwing a second big move at her though.
 
I do feel for you. The appointed YM isn't doing her job if she's allowing the other livery to move her horse into a stable that will cause issues for you. You should consider making the LO aware of the issues, as KrujaaLass says above don't under estimate them. People are well able to lie to get what they want.
 
Go for it OP! Good luck to you. We've all been there (well I have anyway), yard bullies can be bloody awful. I hope they leave you to it. We're rooting for you! Let us know how you get on, hope you get your cottage!
 
LaurenBay said:
Judging by their behavior I assumed you were 20 years older than them, not the other way around.
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Really? I’d imagined the other way around. 2 more mature of years individuals set in their ways tried to intimidate a younger more approachable person.

Not that it matters, Just found it interesting what people imagine.
 
Not been on a livery yard for a long time, but in a vacuum, usually through lack of knowledge or the LO just wanting to take the money and have no hands on involvement, the self appointed YM takes over, usually with some very loopy ideas.
Everyone has given you really good advice, take it. All I would say is livery is a financial transaction, the self appointed YM has really nothing to do with it, its between you and the LO.
Get that cottage rented, and even in the short term rent the empty stable. The nutter that wants to put her horse down out of pique ignore, its more about being to manage you, which she can not. Its welfare is not your responsibility. What is there to manage with 4 DIY stables?
I think they are just jealous and you have upset their cosy little clique.
 
So lets think... LO has a house and stable rented by 1 person and has 2 or 3 stables rented by 1 easily led person and a nutter...... urm me thinks whom looks the better bet.

Also I think that you should approach the LO and ask him to plainly state that either all 3 get on together and play nice or else he will give all 3 of you notice. Then do any discussions in the same room with him/her not getting involved but listening. you never know it may be just a load part truth's that is being twisted by one party or another as the must have global domination in mind - does one have a white cat by any chance.
 
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