Tash88
Well-Known Member
Hi everyone, I haven't been on the forum in a while and I know this topic has been done to death, but I think my situation might be slightly unique.
The situation with C19 seems to be changing daily and restrictions are becoming tighter in terms of exercise etc., largely due to people's ignorance re still gathering in groups etc. I totally respect what the government is trying to achieve and think the restrictions are sensible and realistic.
My horse is on part livery at a small, private yard on the YO's land (essentially her garden). My horse had an arthroscopy on both stifles last September followed by 6 weeks box rest and 6 months turnout in a small pen, so he is out overnight (vet approved this as it was his routine before and less stimulation at night = less running around). He was supposed to be reviewed at the end of April with the view to coming back into work but I imagine this is going to be postponed now due to the lockdown. No problem, it is what it is.
The other two liveries are a couple with three horses; one retired and two in work. These owners don't like their horses to be turned out for longer than an hour a day because they are terrified of them hurting themselves, so they need to be exercised 6 days a week really. They have reduced the risk of their ridden activities (i.e. only the more experienced and confident one riding) so that they are less likely to have an accident and use the NHS. They are still allowed to go but I am not. First my YO said I could go to the yard but we have been sticking to the 2m rule (more most of the time); I am wearing gloves when there as I am using her tools and I am not spending more time there than necessary. Yesterday she said I couldn't go because my visits aren't essential because he is on livery and I am only there to 'give him a cuddle'.
This is an awkward situation though because I am not 100% happy with the care my horse receives. Everything is fine in terms of what he needs, but her standards are just not as high as mine. My standards aren't silly but I do like his stable to be clean and she doesn't take the wet out as much as she should. I am a hands-on owner and I used to have my horse on DIY but moved to part livery because I moved him 15 miles from home and again, I was in a job where I had to travel a lot. I do everything when I am there (whether my horse is in work or not) and will often help with YO's horses; I have looked after the place when she has gone to stay away shows and done evening stables when she has been competing loads of times (all for free), so she clearly thinks I'm competent etc. She isn't a naturally grateful person though, not that she would say to my face. Every weekend I have to take at least three wheelbarrows of wet bedding out because she hasn't done it all week. I could ask her to but she will ignore me, like she ignores me when I ask her to take his rug off during the day as he is hairy and itchy (I ask the other liveries to check so I know it often hasn't been done). Despite all this I do like her and she has a good side, she is just a bit slack (and is a terrible over-rugger to her own horses)
I paid my livery today and I'm thinking of just paying extra for her to pick his feet out (she doesn't do this either) and give him a groom a couple of times a week. But then I'm thinking why should I do that when the other liveries can go there to ride?! It would be awkward for me to say anything though because then she would know I'm not happy with her. I think her yard is fine if I can be there to keep an eye on things, and it has a lot of positives. I am thinking of moving when my horse is back in work, but at the moment the set up is perfect for his rehab with lots of small paddocks for quiet turnout.
In the last 6 months, to keep myself more occupied when my horse has been recovering I have got a new job which is further away from my last job, which was 15 mins from the yard. I wasn't happy where I was and my new job came with a significant payrise and career progression, but also involved a bit more travelling. My view was that I could focus on that for 6 months, settle in and then when my horse came back into work, pay for some help and/or work from home a bit more (as they said I could from the beginning). My YO knows that I will find a way to be around more like I was when my horse is back in work.
To cut a long story short, I have only visited the yard at weekends and maybe an evening or two in the week since December, when I started this new job. I used to be there at least 3x a week and weekends. I may be taking everything too personally due to the C19 situation and associated isolation/anxiety, but I am not happy about the fact the other liveries are allowed to go and I can't, just because mine isn't in work. I wanted to spend a bit more time down there as I am working from home and can. I think she is most concerned about either of us being fined, which I completely respect and I get that she is trying to keep everyone happy and that isn't easy, but I do think my horse gets something out of me being there (i.e. care in the sense that you are allowed to go out to care for your animals), if that makes sense. I can't help thinking that if I'd been there more recently I would still be allowed to go now. Every other yard I know in the area is letting owners go down (obviously following social distancing rules) but has stopped sharers and visitors, which makes sense.
I think it is a bit OTT not to let me go, and it's as if she thinks I don't care. Should I just give her £50 extra and try and 'guilt' her into mucking my horse out properly for the next few weeks, or confront her? I don't want to look like I am not respecting her rules, but they are only being imposed on me.
I know it's first world problems, but we all have horses and adore them, so no flaming please ;-)
The situation with C19 seems to be changing daily and restrictions are becoming tighter in terms of exercise etc., largely due to people's ignorance re still gathering in groups etc. I totally respect what the government is trying to achieve and think the restrictions are sensible and realistic.
My horse is on part livery at a small, private yard on the YO's land (essentially her garden). My horse had an arthroscopy on both stifles last September followed by 6 weeks box rest and 6 months turnout in a small pen, so he is out overnight (vet approved this as it was his routine before and less stimulation at night = less running around). He was supposed to be reviewed at the end of April with the view to coming back into work but I imagine this is going to be postponed now due to the lockdown. No problem, it is what it is.
The other two liveries are a couple with three horses; one retired and two in work. These owners don't like their horses to be turned out for longer than an hour a day because they are terrified of them hurting themselves, so they need to be exercised 6 days a week really. They have reduced the risk of their ridden activities (i.e. only the more experienced and confident one riding) so that they are less likely to have an accident and use the NHS. They are still allowed to go but I am not. First my YO said I could go to the yard but we have been sticking to the 2m rule (more most of the time); I am wearing gloves when there as I am using her tools and I am not spending more time there than necessary. Yesterday she said I couldn't go because my visits aren't essential because he is on livery and I am only there to 'give him a cuddle'.
This is an awkward situation though because I am not 100% happy with the care my horse receives. Everything is fine in terms of what he needs, but her standards are just not as high as mine. My standards aren't silly but I do like his stable to be clean and she doesn't take the wet out as much as she should. I am a hands-on owner and I used to have my horse on DIY but moved to part livery because I moved him 15 miles from home and again, I was in a job where I had to travel a lot. I do everything when I am there (whether my horse is in work or not) and will often help with YO's horses; I have looked after the place when she has gone to stay away shows and done evening stables when she has been competing loads of times (all for free), so she clearly thinks I'm competent etc. She isn't a naturally grateful person though, not that she would say to my face. Every weekend I have to take at least three wheelbarrows of wet bedding out because she hasn't done it all week. I could ask her to but she will ignore me, like she ignores me when I ask her to take his rug off during the day as he is hairy and itchy (I ask the other liveries to check so I know it often hasn't been done). Despite all this I do like her and she has a good side, she is just a bit slack (and is a terrible over-rugger to her own horses)
I paid my livery today and I'm thinking of just paying extra for her to pick his feet out (she doesn't do this either) and give him a groom a couple of times a week. But then I'm thinking why should I do that when the other liveries can go there to ride?! It would be awkward for me to say anything though because then she would know I'm not happy with her. I think her yard is fine if I can be there to keep an eye on things, and it has a lot of positives. I am thinking of moving when my horse is back in work, but at the moment the set up is perfect for his rehab with lots of small paddocks for quiet turnout.
In the last 6 months, to keep myself more occupied when my horse has been recovering I have got a new job which is further away from my last job, which was 15 mins from the yard. I wasn't happy where I was and my new job came with a significant payrise and career progression, but also involved a bit more travelling. My view was that I could focus on that for 6 months, settle in and then when my horse came back into work, pay for some help and/or work from home a bit more (as they said I could from the beginning). My YO knows that I will find a way to be around more like I was when my horse is back in work.
To cut a long story short, I have only visited the yard at weekends and maybe an evening or two in the week since December, when I started this new job. I used to be there at least 3x a week and weekends. I may be taking everything too personally due to the C19 situation and associated isolation/anxiety, but I am not happy about the fact the other liveries are allowed to go and I can't, just because mine isn't in work. I wanted to spend a bit more time down there as I am working from home and can. I think she is most concerned about either of us being fined, which I completely respect and I get that she is trying to keep everyone happy and that isn't easy, but I do think my horse gets something out of me being there (i.e. care in the sense that you are allowed to go out to care for your animals), if that makes sense. I can't help thinking that if I'd been there more recently I would still be allowed to go now. Every other yard I know in the area is letting owners go down (obviously following social distancing rules) but has stopped sharers and visitors, which makes sense.
I think it is a bit OTT not to let me go, and it's as if she thinks I don't care. Should I just give her £50 extra and try and 'guilt' her into mucking my horse out properly for the next few weeks, or confront her? I don't want to look like I am not respecting her rules, but they are only being imposed on me.
I know it's first world problems, but we all have horses and adore them, so no flaming please ;-)