...Cremation - what did/would you do with the ashes?

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hi all,

sorry for the slightly morbid post, but i'm picking up Shadows ashes tomorrow and this question has been bugging me.

whilst i fully expect to want to keep them with me (not ready to let go just yet!), i was just wondering what other people did with their horses ashes if they had them cremated?

also, has anyone had bracelets made from hair? do they last? are they likely to fall apart at some stage if worn everyday??

so confused
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When my old mare passes away i intend to have her cremated ans spread her ashes in her favourite field she spent most of her life in. One of her old friends ashes are their also.
I have tail hair from one of ours to have made into something but i lost the tel no. of the person who does it. I don't know of anyone who has.
Take the time you need to decide. What is good for one is not good for another. It will come to you one day what you want to do with them.
 
I had my old gal put down in August. Shes still sat in the wicker basket she was put in after the creamation.
Shes staying put till we get everything sorted. We wanted to bury her at home but as the house is up for sale we dont want to do that. We dont want to bury her at the field as its rented. We are planning on burying her at either our new house or in the field when weve got our own sorted out. Shell have a little place when the horses cant get to her as were either planting a tree or rose bush in memory of her.

We took parts of her tail/mane and we are planning on getting some jewellery made from tailend but not got round to it yet.
 
I got my boy cremated. I had planned to scatter his ashes in the field but when i came down to it i just couldnt bring myself. I still have his ashes in my bedroom. I just cant bring myself to let him go.. I got some of his tail hair made into a necklace, l look at it often but i have never worn it yet. Its a difficult situation really as i was adament that i was going to scatter his ashes and now i feel i cant do it. You do what feels right for you.. Sorry for your loss.
 
My sister still has Kizzys ashes from this time last year she has just bought her own house so is going to bury them in the garden
My gran has bought her a little engraved stone to go ontop
 
Cant help with the ashes question (though I do like the idea of burying them and planting a tree over the top)
As for the bracelets, I make them www.tailendjewellery.co.uk, and they are extremely hard wearing as tightly braided. I have had some for years and still as good as when made. If you catch a hair it wont all come undone!!
 
We buried Hils's ashes in the casket under the young oak tree in his field as it is fenced off.

We then planted some daffodils so that they will always be in flower around the time we lost him.

We also put a plaque on the gate which reads:

HILLOCK'S FIELD
1993 - 2008

Just a word of warning, the casket is VERY heavy and you might need a hand to lift it in and out of the car.
 
different animal, but when my daughters rabbit died last , she wanted him cremated (vet here in Spain thought I was bonkers, as its was 'only' a rabbit) but we did, then we planted a cherrytree in his memory, and I think she plans to scatter him when its in blossom,
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Ps DO NOT scatter against the wind, like I did with another bunny I had cemated in the UK, got a lovley mouth full of him!!!!
 
Having spread my dogs ashes in the garden of my old house I felt I lost the connection when I moved so when I had to have leaps put down I bought a large terracotta pot and put his ashes in there with a lovely flowering shrub and some spring bulbs. This means he can move house with me if I move again. Don't rush into your decision, take time to decide what do.
 
I had my mare's ashes bured in the garden and lovely rosebush put on top. That was 9 years ago and its lovely to see it bloom every year, such a nice way of remembering.

Not sure what I would do if/when we move in the future though - possibly would take that particular rosebush with us, as presume the box would have deteriorated by then.

Jane_lou - I think your idea of planting something in a large pot is a brilliant one, so you can always take it with you.
 
Fly's ashes are still kept in my bedroom surrounded by his trophies. My plan is to keep them safe until God forbit its time for his best pal Ralph to pass on.

Both boys were shod at the same time, so, Flys shoes where removed and I kept them. My farrier joined both horses shoes together and made me a plant holder that sits in the garden, next to Flys name plate.

I was always really proud of Flys beautiful white tail and in the winter it stayed plaited and was bandaged when I hacked out.....I was mad about it! The day he died, I cut it off ( the hair ) and have it in a music box that my mum found in a charity shop with a poem written on it, it proved to a fitting place to put it:

May the road rise up to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm apon your face,
And the rains fall soft apon your fields,
And until we meet agin.
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
 
I actually had Simons ashes burried at the crematorium. They have there own yard and he has a gravestone. When out dog Malic died we had his ashes buried in the same plot and the headstone changed. It has out own words and a picture of them both on it.
 
thank you everyone, you've all got wonderful ideas
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i think i will probably keep her in my room for a while, but i always thought i'd scatter her in a few choice memory places. but then the images from desperate housewives when Edie scattered her friends ashes and susan got a face full - i couldn't handle that!

think my favourite is buying it and planting something on the top, but the moveable idea of a plant pot is lovely
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th OH is coming with me - if nothing else to drive back whilst i'm sobbing my heart out... again!
 
Good Luck with picking up the ashes. Its a good idea to get someone to take you. When I picked up Leaps I stopped to fill up the car, got half way down the dark single track lane into my village when car conked out - I had filled my Diesel Shogun with Petrol.......

Worse bit was explaining to tow truck driver why I wouldn't leave the large heavy box it the car when we dropped it off at the garage!
 
oh bless, that must have been hard!

i'm hoping that this will finally let me accept that she's gone because it just hasnt sunk in, i've not cried enough and i've not mourned enough. i dont if thats because i insisted on washing everything and putting everything away the same day (couldnt wash her grooming kit, i still need her smell
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) as i didnt want to go back to the yard and i dont have THAT much storage...
 
When my old pony died I had her cremated and had the ashes returned. She was 5 when I got her and 30 when she died and I had grown up with her so she meant the world to me. Her name was Cherry (Arctic Cherub) so it seemed logical to bury her ashes in the garden and plant a cherry tree over the top. It flowers at about the same time of year as she died which is nice.
I also have lock of hair from her mane which I keep inside the frame of a picture of her. It seems unchanged after 4 years.
 
I have my previous mare's ashes...I lost her 11 years ago!! I just can't bear to part with them...I always meant to scatter them at the Copper Horse in Windsor Great Park which was her favourite place but just never been able to let go.
I also have some of her tail hair but I keep it in a box with momentos of her ie. favourite photos, birth certificate she had, receipt from when I bought her, letter I wrote the night I lost her, rosettes etc. Don't think I would get it made in to anything as I would be scared to wear it and it getting damaged/lost...
What a saddo!!!
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I've still got my mares ashes in the shed! I keep meaning to plant a tree but I dont want to face up to the fact she's gone and is in a box - I know it sounds weird. I never cried so much over losing a horse as i did Molly, I still well up thinking about it now!!!
 
Well, another thread that means I can hardly see to type a reply as it's gone all blurry
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Don't rush into doing anything. There are no rules about what to do with her ashes, her things or her place in your life. It will all become clear what the best thing for you is, and that may not be the best thing for me or anyone else. I can see lots of wonderful suggestions and advice from those who have already walked your path - and the one I know I (again) will have to in the not too distant future. Take comfort from the knowledge you will not die of unhappiness but are completely free to feel incomplete for as long as necessary.

I had my first pony buried in his field - before DEFRA decided to put a stop to it. Polly will be there next to him, whether they like it or not, I'm afraid
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but I haven't made any definite plans for the other three! Jewellery is a definite yes, and I hope that my OH is as understanding as everyone else's when it comes to the expense of cremation. The caskets are quite large and heavy, so I might have a furniture development project to consider
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Please don't leave the forum - we will want to be the first to hear of your new best friend, whenever that happens!
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To everyone else who has given advice - it's a fantastic thing that you do and why I came here in the first place, for help and advice. Keep it up!
 
I kept my geldings' ashes at home for 9 months after he died. I then buried the casked under a young tree in the field he'd lived in.

I like to think that the tree will give him shelter in the winter and shade in the summer (Yeah, I know - STUPID!!)

Two of the mares he lived with for the last 4 years of his life still live in the same field. One of them is mine, so I have a quick word with him every morning when I get her in to ride. It's nice to think that he's still grazing with his girls!
 
molmoo.. Its not stupid that you think that.. Its how we cope with losing our best friend. I personally think that whatever anyone does with their best friends ashes is correct. Do whatever feels right to you.. Dont get pressured into anything.. Many of my family think i should have scattered my horses ashes but i still have him in my house.. I cant do it as it doesnt feel right..
 
i have to agree with Brighteyes, this forum is just the best place for a little consolation, advise and definitely for support, very happy to be a member here
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and brighteyes, can you please give a message to Pollyanna that she may have a little surprise in the post for her soon?? fanks
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She isn't speaking to me at present
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The full muzzle restrictions in place for the summer are not going down well.

Tried to frighten us all to death yesterday by doing the 'lying down and pulling strange faces thing'. I think she knows how to push my buttons.............
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Got up moments later and went into everyone's beds to dig up their poos. Nowt odd about that, though!

I do not mention the 'P' word within her earshot or she won't eat anything I give her. But many thanks. You will hang around, won't you????????
 
Phew! A sad post!
I lost my precious girl two and a half years ago and she still lurks upstairs in my spare room, I can't bare to part with her.
I planned to bury her in my garden and put a rose on top called the Dark Lady but I couldn't and the rose went in in her memory, I often just trundle into the bedroom to get something and see her box and just touch it, I know it sounds silly but I just feel its the only connection I have left with her (other than her rather large 6 year old son!)
This post has made me shed a few tears as I realise so many people are the same and worship their beloved horses! And I miss her so much!!!
When I collected the box from the vets I was completely composed until I actually saw it then I dissolved into a blubberng wreck!
Be strong!
 
ah, i'm thinking at the very least in the short term i will indeed stick around - dont know how i'll feel in a fwe months but this is the safe way to keep in touch with horsey people without being pestered to ride there horses (gratefully received but cant cope at the mo!), but i think wherever i go people will tell me to get another one!
 
I have Trooper in a pirates treasure chest under the coffee table, he has his headcollar and leadrope in with him and his name plate on the top. I have a large hunk of his tail and have one of his shoes gold plated and on the side by a photo of him. At the yard I have the two rose bushes I bought to plant over his ashes in tubs - but couldn't make myself bury his ashes.
 
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