crippled dog..

Amymay I don't think its a weird situation at all. There are tensions in lots of families, the OP is in the best position to judge how far to get involved. She has already tried speaking to the boy and he hasn't taken any notice of her.....if the father gets involved it might make the situation worse, who knows? I don't and neither do you. Relaitionships can be very difficult and its not always about whether someone can or can't 'step up to the mark'. Its about identifying the most effective way of resolving a difficult problem, sometimes a third party is best placed to help in situations like this, hopefully the RSPCA will be able to help.

I don't think its fair to belittle people who come onto this forum and ask for help. After all, all she is doing is trying to work out the best way to help this poor dog.
 
WandaMare said:
Amymay I don't think its a weird situation at all. There are tensions in lots of families, the OP is in the best position to judge how far to get involved. She has already tried speaking to the boy and he hasn't taken any notice of her.....if the father gets involved it might make the situation worse, who knows? I don't and neither do you. Relaitionships can be very difficult and its not always about whether someone can or can't 'step up to the mark'. Its about identifying the most effective way of resolving a difficult problem, sometimes a third party is best placed to help in situations like this, hopefully the RSPCA will be able to help.

I don't think its fair to belittle people who come onto this forum and ask for help. After all, all she is doing is trying to work out the best way to help this poor dog.
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thankyou... i wont be doing anything.... letting them get on with it... its hard enough having to put up with what i am putting up with now....
 
tango'smum said:
thankyou... i wont be doing anything.... letting them get on with it... its hard enough having to put up with what i am putting up with now....
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OP do you think the dog would want you to do nothing? Or do you think that it would love nothing more than you to make that phone call to someone who will stop the suffering?

I can understand why you have been put off by some of the comments here - they were less than helpful. Family situations aside, if you saw that dog and you didn't know the owner, I am sure you would pick up the phone and report it. Please do the right thing! :)
 
amymay said:
But he is your husbands kid?

Weird situation, poor 'kid', poor, poor dog.

Hope you or your family can step up to the mark and take some positive action to prevent any more suffering.
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hes an adult... he needs to step up to the mark... your weird for thinking this is ok... hes not my husband. hes my partner.. he has nothing to do with his family.. they shat on him.. so we disowned them all...
 
He has Aspergers therefore does not think the same way as you and I. He needs support with this. I doubt very much that he decided to do the dirty on your OH, he probably isn't capable. Are you seriously telling me that the son is capable of fully understanding of why it is wrong to drag the dog around? Cos not one of the Aspergers' kids with whom I work would be capable of falling out with someone (cos they can't make friends in the first place) and they would need to be trained to understand the needs of a dog.

Why bother posting if you aren't prepared to do something? Bizarre.
 
Spudlet said:
I am not suggesting the dog should be allowed to suffer, however I am suggesting that this lad needs help from his family. As they're clearly incapable of that, it's going to have to be the RSPCA isn't it? Another example of people shunning their responsibilities and expecting someone else to pick up the pieces.
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Very harsh . Not everyone lives in a Disneyesque extended family . No one on here knows the full family situation so really can't comment on it . Aspergers I have no personal experience of so won't even comment on that .

OP - I would in your situation ring the RSPCA and see if they can help . Good luck getting something sorted with the dog and boy .
 
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He has Aspergers therefore does not think the same way as you and I. He needs support with this. I doubt very much that he decided to do the dirty on your OH, he probably isn't capable. Are you seriously telling me that the son is capable of fully understanding of why it is wrong to drag the dog around? Cos not one of the Aspergers' kids with whom I work would be capable of falling out with someone (cos they can't make friends in the first place) and they would need to be trained to understand the needs of a dog.

Why bother posting if you aren't prepared to do something? Bizarre.
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^ This. My son is somewhere in the middle of the Autism Spectrum, which includes Aspergers. As he has gotten older, I have really had to work hard to get him to understand that the animals are not machines, he can't just walk and play with them all the time. It takes time and patience to help them understand that dogs need to rest just like he does. I know from every day experience that routine is EVERYTHING to a lot of these kids/adults. The walk is part of his routine and so he sticks to it. it is very likely that he just doesn't understand that the dog is old now, and can not keep up. I know I can explain something to my son half a dozen times and he often still doesn't understand. He isn't being difficult, it is just the way he is 'wired', so to speak. I would agree that something must be done to avoid further suffering for the dog, though. It will be hard on this person, having his routine altered, but allowing the dog to continue on like this is because nobody wants to get involved is disturbing. If it is being posted on a forum, you know it is a problem, and I will say nothing more than to ask you, for the sake of the dog if nothing else, to call someone who is willing to get involved and help before it is too late.
 
Regardless of whatever your family situation is/comments on here etc etc, please give the RSPCA a call.

Waiting for this boy to "drag a dead dog home" is a horrible thought, and by the sounds of things (I've NO experience with people who have aspergers) I don't think he will learn a lesson from it. If you give the RSPCA a ring then you are doing your bit, you don't have to directly be involved in removing the dog if it will cause more family issues. PLEASE don't just sit back and do nothing though.
 
The dog may well not be removed - particularly if there is no hard evidence that this is happening. It cannot be done just on someone's say so that it is happening. The most likely outcome to start with is that they will try and provide him with advice and support to stop him doing this. It may well not work, but until someone provides video evidence of the dog collapsed and being dragged, there cannot be any legal reason to remove the dog, unless the owner signs it over (unlikely in this instance) or there are other serious welfare issues which are visible at home/the dog is in a suffering condition.

OP you definately should get the ball rolling though on this. Please take some video evidence or even photos - they will make all the difference.
 
his brother is going to talk to him... then we shall see how it goes...he listerns to him... he dose understand because i have said to him dont take the dog out hes got a sore leg.. and he stopped taking him out for a week..
 
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