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AshTay

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What would you do...

I have two horses. I used to have 3 but now i have 2. Looking after them both is fine but I need to face up to the fact that both need more work than I alone can give them (well, I could really but I also don't want to be knackered all the time).

My mare - 9 years old, cracking little thing - I'd ride her anywhere. Started doing local RC show dressage with her last year and all was going well until September when she went suddenly lame and she's not really been truly right since which culminated in laminitis on New Years Day. She's on the mend now, no lasting damage but I'm going to have to restrict her grazing and work her more to keep weight down (she wasn't even really overweight when she got lami but obviously needs to be kept slim from now on anyway and she is a good do-er).

My gelding - 7 years old. Lovely lad but "special". Very nervous although has improved loads with lots of in-hand work. Has badly knocked my confidence in the past and has also been plagued with abscesses and random back pain, etc, over the last few months and so we've not really done much more than trot round the school a few times in the last year. Badly put together and so would need regular work once brought back.

If I just had one I could focus my efforts. Before my mare got lami she was the sort who didn't need riding more than a couple of times a week if that was all the time I had but now she does. And I can't advertise her now as she's still on boxrest (building up turnout) so very poor-looking in terms of muscle.

So what do I do? My head says sell my mare as she's the sort that will do well as she's fab. I'm in awe of my mare but in love with my gelding. But I accept that I may well be out of my depth with him and could end up with a field ornament if I can't get him right (not a problem either but...). I wouldn't get much if I sold him as he is now and I'd worry where he'd end up if he didn't go to the right person. And I do think there is hope for him - just need a bit of help with him. If I had one horse I'd be in a better position to get that help.

I've thought about getting a sharer but I've been advertising for a rider for a friends horse I've been riding over winter while both of mine were out of action and had very little suitable interest. And this friend's horse is something truly unique and every girl's dream but still no one wanted him.
 
Instead of advertising for a rider - try advertising the horse. Try and be flexible and say "full/part loan or share" with a few nice photos and an HONEST write up other wise you will only waste your own time.

If after a few months you have exhausted that route - then maybe reconsider?

Might all work out with some one to ride with, help out, share costs and improve fitness and going. Should you then decide to sell might be in better shape (just make this clear to sharer other wise very unfair)
 
Neither sound eminently sellable I'm afraid. The mare maybe fantastic but she is now lami prone so that will make her a lot harder to sell. Long term loan the gelding would be my advice. I wouldn't want to part with the mare to keep the gelding who sounds like no great shakes!
 
Sharers take time to find. Keep adverts up and sit back. Could you do ride and lead with your two in the meantime? I would be wary of selling the mare as I would bet anything the lami will come back or turn into EMS - our little mare wasn't that fat and got lami in winter, and thats what it was. We did sell her, cheaply, to a fantastic home that had a cushings pony already and were well aware of the care needed.
 
Neither sound eminently sellable I'm afraid. The mare maybe fantastic but she is now lami prone so that will make her a lot harder to sell. Long term loan the gelding would be my advice. I wouldn't want to part with the mare to keep the gelding who sounds like no great shakes!

I know. The lami thing is a big problem but only time will tell how much of an issue it becomes with her (by which I mean how restricted she needs to be).
Realistically I can't loan or sell either of them without first putting in some work to get the mare back to ridden fitness so she can be at her best and getting the gelding at least rideable again.
Last summer I had them both in some kind of work 5 days a week each (either ridden, lunged or walked out inhand). I can do that again when the evenings get light but it's exhausting as I work full time too.
 
Sharers take time to find. Keep adverts up and sit back. Could you do ride and lead with your two in the meantime? I would be wary of selling the mare as I would bet anything the lami will come back or turn into EMS - our little mare wasn't that fat and got lami in winter, and thats what it was. We did sell her, cheaply, to a fantastic home that had a cushings pony already and were well aware of the care needed.

Ride and lead wouldn't be a good idea, sadly. I don't want to sell either of them :(
 
I've thought some more about this and I've decided to look into sending my gelding away for schooling for a couple of months. Would give me time to focus on my mare and means my gelding can be started working again sooner (I can't work/ride in evenings until it gets light again) and hopefully when he comes back I'll have the confidence to ride him knowing that he's been started again properly and put condition back on and if there are anymore behavioural issues then a professional will be better placed to tell me whether he's a lost cause or not.
So any recommendations for sympathetic (and lightweight ideally) trainers in the East Midlands would be most welcomed...
 
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