Delaying having kids for your horses?

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I just wondered if anyone else has not had kids yet cause they dont want to give up their horses and riding time. Does anyone else feel like their horses are enough to nurture and 'mother'.
My oh desperately wants kids but i know realistically i will have to sell at least one my horses as we simply couldnt afford them. Its a hard choice i am sacrificing children for my horses at the moment - i love riding and competing and one of my horses ive owned for 15 years - she is truly like me baby. I would be interested to know if anyone else has the same issue. x
 
Hmmmmmmm a hard one.

Daisby was not planned, appanrently could never have a kid, and did not want one at any cost ( would not be without her now
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I think you just get into the frame of mind that if you want them both then you WILL do iut, I made a huge mistake and put Dex out on loan, as I thought it was best for him.

I should have just turned him away for the year and picked it back up when she was old enough.

Have got him back now, and she is great with him, infact one of the few little people that he puts up with.

I guess the moral of the storey is, dont let the horses put you off having one, you will find your routine, and honestly kids dont need half as much as you think. She does not go without, and has a private edcuation, we are by no means well off, but we do not eat out, do not have holidays, and I am not in the most smart of clothing.

Second thoughts, take her out of private education, and eat out, have holidays and have smart clothes
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I think you will know when the time is right. I know in my 20s I was way too "selfish" to give up my horse time for children but not that long after the old biological clock did kick in after all and I was someone who once thought I never wanted kids!
 
YES!! in fact I just got off the phone to my mother who said she doubted I would have kids unless they have 4 legs and a tail!

I am 32 and questioning if I will ever feel ready to have/want kids. Right now I just don't feel I want to give up my horse time, and can't see a time in the near future that I will want to either.. OH is in two minds about kids, so it isn't so much of an issue for us right now.
 
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YES!! in fact I just got off the phone to my mother who said she doubted I would have kids unless they have 4 legs and a tail!

I am 32 and questioning if I will ever feel ready to have/want kids. Right now I just don't feel I want to give up my horse time, and can't see a time in the near future that I will want to either.. OH is in two minds about kids, so it isn't so much of an issue for us right now.

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100% ditto except it's mother in law that's more in a tizz about it than my own mother lol! Oh and I'm 30 not 32
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This post and the OP sounds like meeeee!
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I'm 26, loving competing my bay 16 year old gelding, and showing my 18 month old coloured... Look forward to bringing my youngster into ridden and competitve work as he gets older.... I just wonder when will be the 'right time' to fit kiddie winkles in!!
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In my 'ideal dream world' I see it happening in 10 years time for me. My clock should be ticking, the bay will be retired, and my now youngster, should be at a good age where he's doing well enough to have a brief break lol!
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Having said that... it doesn't always go to plan hey!!
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Hey, I agree if you are dedicated you will find that it is possible to combine both, horses and kids. I have two boys now and I still have my TB mare who I ride most days despite the kids (they come to the yard with me) and money, well, the horse is all I spend money on (next to the kids ) and she is on DIY so just about it works out ok.
 
Well Im 38 now, always had horses and always thought one day I'd have kids.... but Ive never felt maternal and never yearned children so weve not had any. I dont feel like Ive missed out but do wonder if it may be something I will regret?? Its wierd as all of my friends (all been horsey at some point) dont have children and I cant see any of them having them. I think more and more people are choosing not to have them and I dont think in this day and age you are considered odd for not having them. My hubby is 8 yrs older than me and although he would make a fantastic father, has no desire for them either so I suppose the pressures off for me. I do think that if I hadnt had horses I would have probably had children. Im not saying horses have stopped me, more like I have a happy full life doing what I want to do when I want to do it with no need for anything else.
 
I am 37 and dont have the urge to have children. I wouldnt say I was a children type of person, I much prefer my horses and animals.
 
I am 36 and no do not want and have never wanted children, dont feel i have missed out on a thing in my life, i have my horses and they take up all my time.
Luckily enough times have changed and people do not tend to look at you sideways anymore when you say you do not want children, also many of my friends are childless and also intend to stay that way.
I do have to add that i have many fab nieces so can have a auntie moment when i want but still have my life and my horses and do as i want when i want
 
I'd love children but haven't met the right person. That said, since having my new mare there's so much I want to do with her I'd want to wait a few years if the right person walked into my life tomorrow.....
 
I have 2 horses that I do completely myself which hunt & showjump twice a week, work from home and have a two year old daughter (who I had at 32).
It is a massive juggling act but I'm glad I finally got round to having a child. It's really only possible to do both if you either have help from relatives or a groom/full livery or like me pay for childcare. I muck out & feed at 5am every day and then exercise the horses in the mornings while my daughter is at nursery.
Having said that I don't know whether I will have another child because of the horses. But I'm definitely glad I had my daughter (& I never felt maternal so shocked a few people!).
 
Slightly different, but I didn't have that extra child I might have had if I wasn't competing my pony
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I am lucky enough to have 2 wonderful daughters, but I wanted to go for another child, except I was doing so well on my pony, the time was never right...

It has to be said, my OH didn't want another child (he even said I could have a foal instead, so he was really unkeen). I suspect if OH had wanted another child, then I would have gone for it. I would have missed some fantastic competitions, but to be honest, that really is no big deal compared to having another human being
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If you really want children, don't keep putting it off as there is never a 'right' time and sadly if it doesn't happen easily for you then you won't have time on your side and may lose your chance to be a mother
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Seriously... once you have a baby you'll probably not be as bothered and will be so smitten with your baby that you will negotiate more on the horse side
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I wouldn't've given up my horse for my baby before (I would now) however you work around things and as it happens we've now ended up moving to our own place to make things easier for us and we've got 3 now! LOL!
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It does and can work - and it is fantastic being a mum!
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Kate x
 
I can't see me ever having kids - the withdrawal from riding would kill me lol! My mum's getting a bit grandmothery broody cos all my cousins have popped out kiddies and she feels a bit left out but I honestly can't think of anything worse - I'm way too selfish to be looking out for anyone other than me and Jack ha ha! All my friends say the clock will start ticking soon, but I'm not sure I'll ever grow up...
 
Hi im 21 with no children but mum has always had horses and had 3 kids! and most of the people down our yard are mums, we have been there a long time and all us kids have grown up together. No one really seems to think it was a big sacrifice and have fitted in horses and kids quite nicely, daughters have al got ponies (none of the boys have taken to it) but in hols etc we would all be down there playing so mums could get on a ride and if there were any babies there was always someone that would keep an eye on them for 20-30mins while you had a quick ride
 
I had a break from horses for the career thing...then got married, had kids and got back into horses when the kids were little. They have grown up with horses....son lost interest ( don't they all) but daughter loves it.

TBH....my competing is on a back-burner for a few years....I have been relegated to groom for daughter, and taking her pony in in-hand classes. I dont mind....I share the glory lol! TBH I do the work, she gets the rosettes
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The mums on the yard are the same....the kids all get on together and go to shows together...it is nice.

When my daughter is older I would like us to be able to take 2 horses to shows so I can do some jumping and ridden stuff, but at the minute we can only manage one horse because I couldnt leave her with one whilst I was in the ring, she's only 7.

She's my daughter- she comes first, I am giving her the opportunity to do stuff I couldn't do as a kid and it is fun but in a different way.

IMO...there is NEVER a right time to have kids, if you don't bite the bullet you will never do it, but you shouldnt feel as though you HAVE to have kids...its not the law and its just not right for some people.
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