Cash
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lizziebell
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Ouch - that's not good. You are clearly not happy, and it definately sounds like he is not the horse for you. Horses can be green, but he just sounds rude with a few tempermental issues which need careful handling. Personally I wouldn't continue with the loan - you could end up losing all your confidence completely. That's probably not what you want to hear, but it doesn't sound like something worth risking your safety, enjoyment of horses and confidence on.
Gooby
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I think its understandable to be nervous given what he had just done so well done for even getting on! Maybe your mum thinks that by seeing him ridden first it will settle your nerves a little and allow you to be more confident when you get on?
Thistle
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Have you talked all this over with S. I have found her to be a good listener and obviously she knows the horse well.
I would be inclined to put him on the walker before riding and forget the lunge. Your school there is so huge and quite exposed, I'm sure most of mine would leap about too.
Well done for not giving in but do get the rib checked out before you ride again. If it's still painful don't ride as you will transmit the discomfort to him.
I would be inclined to put him on the walker before riding and forget the lunge. Your school there is so huge and quite exposed, I'm sure most of mine would leap about too.
Well done for not giving in but do get the rib checked out before you ride again. If it's still painful don't ride as you will transmit the discomfort to him.
Cash
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Well, like i said he's my in-between horse (just waiting for a spot on a local livery yard ATM so i can get my own) and out of the horses i'm riding for other people, he's the only one who i absolutely love to jump(which is very important to me)- he has so much scope, and is the most fab show jumper- he is a proper schoolmaster when it comes to showjumping. And when we're 'on form' it's fab, and we get on really well as a pair- i do feel like it's a bad patch rather than permanently rubbish?
But maybe you're right in that it's not what i want to hear, so i'm making excuses...
But maybe you're right in that it's not what i want to hear, so i'm making excuses...
humblepie
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As he is on loan, don't be afraid to admit that he is not for you even if he does well out competing. There are plenty of nice horses without issues - it is supposed to be enjoyable after all.
legaldancer
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I used to have a TB like that when ridden & he knocked my confidence completely. He was usually ok for other people & they would say it was me & that he knew I was nervous. Thing is, when he first did it I wasn't, so he wasn't picking up those vibes then. Eventually he threw a real wobbler with a friend & dumped her twice on a hack, once again she hadn't been nervous up to that point.
You're lucky in that you don't own him & can give him back. I had to sell mine on at quite a loss, & after having spent a lot of time & money trying to sort him out. I'd quit while you're still in one piece & get something more sane & maybe not so intelligent!
You're lucky in that you don't own him & can give him back. I had to sell mine on at quite a loss, & after having spent a lot of time & money trying to sort him out. I'd quit while you're still in one piece & get something more sane & maybe not so intelligent!
Cash
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beauchamps- how did you know where i was talking about?
Yes think i might have a word with her- will see how my lesson goes first though as I think that'll help me straighten myself out and see how i find him when i'm with my RI.
Ok will maybe put him on the walker before my lesson, he can sometimes be a little funny to lunge anyway so that could be ideal.
Don't really think it's that bad- hurt like a b*gger at first but now just feels bruised.
Sure it'll be fine by Wed.
Yes think i might have a word with her- will see how my lesson goes first though as I think that'll help me straighten myself out and see how i find him when i'm with my RI.
Ok will maybe put him on the walker before my lesson, he can sometimes be a little funny to lunge anyway so that could be ideal.
Don't really think it's that bad- hurt like a b*gger at first but now just feels bruised.
lizziebell
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Sorry Mollya - I didn't mean it to sound harsh. Like legaldancer above I too have had my confidence knocked with a horse that was just not right for me. It took me several years and injuries (to me, not horse) for me to realise it, because I did feel we had a bond and when things were great, they were fab, but every now and again he was totally unpredictable to a dangerous point, and my nerves couldn't cope with that. And not knowing when he was going to turn kept me always on the edge.
Cash
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Oh no not at all lizziebell
He's certainly not an unpredictably dangerous horse; quirky and wanting a good run around, maybe. I was more posting to ask ways to make myself feel more confident, as I am certain it is me that makes him play up as he knows when i'm not confident. (sorry if that didn't come across at all
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Actually, think i'll delete this post as I wouldn't want people thinking he's a loon (
) when it's him coming across wrong due to me.
and i'm aware he is on loan and so may be sold in the future, and so don't want to sully his name as he is a nice horse.
Thanks to all who've posted- off to take a hot bath!
He's certainly not an unpredictably dangerous horse; quirky and wanting a good run around, maybe. I was more posting to ask ways to make myself feel more confident, as I am certain it is me that makes him play up as he knows when i'm not confident. (sorry if that didn't come across at all
Actually, think i'll delete this post as I wouldn't want people thinking he's a loon (
Thanks to all who've posted- off to take a hot bath!
Thistle
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I recognised the yard from the pic of the school, coupled with the fact that I know you are near me and the description of the YO.
We own a horse that used to be a livery there, S sold her on behalf of the owners. B goes back there from time to time for jump lessons with John.
Just a thought, our horse was extremely grumpy there. She settled at home here with more conventional stables. We found she liked to be able to hide behind the wall and couldn't do that in the large open fronted boxes there.
Has his feed been significantly reduced with the lack of consistent exercise lately?
We own a horse that used to be a livery there, S sold her on behalf of the owners. B goes back there from time to time for jump lessons with John.
Just a thought, our horse was extremely grumpy there. She settled at home here with more conventional stables. We found she liked to be able to hide behind the wall and couldn't do that in the large open fronted boxes there.
Has his feed been significantly reduced with the lack of consistent exercise lately?
Cash
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Oh right ok
I hadn't thought about that; but as far as I know he's been inside in winter without many probs, which leads me to think it's me
As he doesn't keep weight too well he's being fed quite a lot (calm and condition) but he is being exercised fairly regularly. I do think he is just taking the p*ss with me, maybe testing the water as i haven't ridden him in a while.
I hadn't thought about that; but as far as I know he's been inside in winter without many probs, which leads me to think it's me
As he doesn't keep weight too well he's being fed quite a lot (calm and condition) but he is being exercised fairly regularly. I do think he is just taking the p*ss with me, maybe testing the water as i haven't ridden him in a while.