Desperate for help on re-homing my 6 year old TB

stormox said:
I seriously cannot believe some of the posts on here. Foxy109 gave us an update on hers and Alfies situation, thank youFoxy109.
Why are you all being so bitchy and horrible? I just dont understand it. Someone needed to rehome/sell their horse- and that could be the situation in the future for any one of you. None of us can ensure a horses future, we dont even know how our own lives will turn out.
OP has done her utmost best for her beloved horse, the ad on Homes4horses was just fine, and it seems she has found a perfectly suitable home.
What is the matter with all of you that are doubting and nasty? Most people in thiis world are genuine, and I for one am happy for the seller/loaner, new owner/loanee and most of all for Alfie who is now enjoying the lovely summer sunshine rather than being made into dog meat or Tesco pies!
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The reason is that within a few days of Alfie being re-homed OP put an ad on here looking for another one [and claiming to be a competent rider when she could not ride Alfie] That is why she got a lot of flack, some of it bitchy, but some of it just commenting.
It would have been sensible for her to ask if anyone knew the person involved as we all know some people are not genuine. It is an emotional time if you have to part with a special horse, but in this case OP is confident the person is genuine and the horse is happy, so really she should not be shedding tears of sorrow.
 
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Fools Motto said:
Yikes, what a thread. I'm semi-trying to find a new home for another TB, on behalf of friend who has no time for her (quirky) horse. And no time to advertise, show him off or anything...
I don't really know where to start, or how much input friend wants me to do.
Oh well, glad Alfie is in a loving home, just hope I can do the same with friends horse.
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First off...............do not ask for advice from all the 'knowledgeable' people that know best on here.
I for one wish you all the best making the right decision for the horse, your friend and yourself.
Horses4homes is a really good site to start.
 
Bonkers2 said:
The reason is that within a few days of Alfie being re-homed OP put an ad on here looking for another one, That is why she got a lot of flack, some of it bitchy, but some of it just commenting.
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I was ALWAYS going to get another horse. I admitted defeat with Alfie. I got him checked by the vets. I re-homed him to a lovely girl where he is happy and I don't have the worry of coming off him again and hurting myself even worse than last time.
Too much opinion Bonkers2. Please don't start again. I literally can't handle your expert opinion any longer.
 
stormox said:
I seriously cannot believe some of the posts on here. Foxy109 gave us an update on hers and Alfies situation, thank youFoxy109.
Why are you all being so bitchy and horrible? I just dont understand it. Someone needed to rehome/sell their horse- and that could be the situation in the future for any one of you. None of us can ensure a horses future, we dont even know how our own lives will turn out.
OP has done her utmost best for her beloved horse, the ad on Homes4horses was just fine, and it seems she has found a perfectly suitable home.
What is the matter with all of you that are doubting and nasty? Most people in thiis world are genuine, and I for one am happy for the seller/loaner, new owner/loanee and most of all for Alfie who is now enjoying the lovely summer sunshine rather than being made into dog meat or Tesco pies!
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So this is why up updated my post, to show you all he was re-homed and happy.
Thank you stormox. I am not a bad person and I did no right thing for Alfie.
I hope none of you are ever in the same situation as me.
 
Bonkers2 said:
The reason is that within a few days of Alfie being re-homed OP put an ad on here looking for another one [and claiming to be a competent rider when she could not ride Alfie] That is why she got a lot of flack, some of it bitchy, but some of it just commenting.
It would have been sensible for her to ask if anyone knew the person involved as we all know some people are not genuine. It is an emotional time if you have to part with a special horse, but in this case OP is confident the person is genuine and the horse is happy, so really she should not be shedding tears of sorrow.
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Ever been on a horse that did not suit you or did not worry you? If you haven't then you seriously must be the best rider in the world. You should applaud yourself for being so amazing. Honestly, I pitty you sitting on this site slagging people off. What a sad life.
Get off my case, I am sick of your pathetic, ridiculous know it all attitude.
Go and ride your horses knowing you are one hell of a woman and your horsemanship and riding is better than anyone else's.
God forbid you ever get into a situation where you get slagged off for doing the right thing for the horse. I for one would be the first to sympathise with you as I am a nice person.............shame the same can not be said for you.
 
stormox said:
I seriously cannot believe some of the posts on here. Foxy109 gave us an update on hers and Alfies situation, thank youFoxy109.
Why are you all being so bitchy and horrible? I just dont understand it. Someone needed to rehome/sell their horse- and that could be the situation in the future for any one of you. None of us can ensure a horses future, we dont even know how our own lives will turn out.
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Agree with you. It's always the same people dishing out the snide comments on these types of threads and it's so boring to see someone be berated over and over for doing what they think is best.

No one here wrote the hard-and-fast rules of horse ownership.

God forbid someone re-home a horse who's anything less than perfect. And FWIW, I thought the ad was extremely honest. It said he spooked, bucked & reared. What else could she have written, 'Don't apply unless you're Pippa Funnell'?
 
OP, unfortunately you have riled the 'experts' of which the horse world is full of. This forum is very often a wealth of knowledge and can offer a huge amount of support, but, as you have found out this is not always the case. You asked for advice from here and your vets and you appear to have followed some of the advice, you have rehomed the horse and are happy with his new home so that's all good. Ignore the comments, walk away from the thread and maybe delete your account.
Good luck.
 
Foxy109 said:
So this is why up updated my post, to show you all he was re-homed and happy.
Thank you stormox. I am not a bad person and I did no right thing for Alfie.
I hope none of you are ever in the same situation as me.
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And even though you slagged me off for it last time, I'll suggest again that if you really did SHOW people that Alfie is happy by posting the pictures you have, then people might get off your back.

There's not a cat in hell's chance that I will ever be in your position. I would never knowingly pass on a horse that might kill a rider 'free to a good home' to a total stranger.
 
Foxy109 said:
Ever been on a horse that did not suit you or did not worry you? If you haven't then you seriously must be the best rider in the world. You should applaud yourself for being so amazing. Honestly, I pitty you sitting on this site slagging people off. What a sad life.
Get off my case, I am sick of your pathetic, ridiculous know it all attitude.
Go and ride your horses knowing you are one hell of a woman and your horsemanship and riding is better than anyone else's.
God forbid you ever get into a situation where you get slagged off for doing the right thing for the horse. I for one would be the first to sympathise with you as I am a nice person.............shame the same can not be said for you.
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I have read my earlier posts and they were all supportive, I have not slagged you off, just explained to those who have put up comments wondering why things have turned unpleasant, you are the one reporting others, once you start doing that then you will inevitably have those who tried to help you getting annoyed. If you care to look back you will find that I was perfectly fair.
And as it happens I have been in a similar situation, but worse situation and NO one helped me.
 
jrp204 said:
OP, unfortunately you have riled the 'experts' of which the horse world is full of. This forum is very often a wealth of knowledge and can offer a huge amount of support, but, as you have found out this is not always the case. You asked for advice from here and your vets and you appear to have followed some of the advice, you have rehomed the horse and are happy with his new home so that's all good. Ignore the comments, walk away from the thread and maybe delete your account.
Good luck.
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Exactly what I am going to do.

What a shame people are like this :-(
 
Bonkers2 said:
I have read my earlier posts and they were all supportive, I have not slagged you off, just explained to those who have put up comments wondering why things have turned unpleasant, you are the one reporting others, once you start doing that then you will inevitably have those who tried to help you getting annoyed. If you care to look back you will find that I was perfectly fair.
And as it happens I have been in a similar situation and NO one helped me.
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So why were you so vile towards me and my decision?
 
Foxy109 said:
No, it gets more complicated. Seriously Ester................leave me alone. I have done the right thing for Alfie (my main priority), myself and my family. Just leave me alone. I have been crying nonstop for the last half an hour. Alfie is happy and that's all that matters. Just please stop messaging me.
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Just 2 quick tips.

1) If you're that upset don't keep coming on here to post. Just be gracious and bow out.

2) If you have no money for vets or further schooling for your last horse and if you have family problems it would be wise to forget about getting another horse at the moment.
 
I do hope he has found a happy long term home OP I just couldn't understand how things added up and thought I must have gotten confused with what you said originally on this thread. I do think you had a lot of help/advice/options on this thread and I hope you find a new horse to suit you too.
 
ycbm - ANY horse is capable of unseating their rider. The quietest cob can stumble and fall, and ANY type of fall could kill. One persons opinion of whats naughty probably isnt anothers. Id rather ride a bucker than a patent safety cob any day!
 
I don't think they allow accounts to close, I have tried to get a new one due to having stalkers, and I have a different name but the same account. They know who I am , and I know who they are :)
 
For those who are wondering why it got heated later, the OP posted first thing this morning advertising for another horse, cheap or free due to limited funds having just lost a lond on getting rid of this one.

That thread has now been deleted. Everyone I am sure felt sorry for the OP with the time, family and finance worries that she'd posted about in this thread, let alone the horse she couldn't deal with and to then be asked to help her find a new horse, and that is now she phrased it, new horse, seemed strange, foolhardy and unfeeling.

Foxy109, you can't close your account normally. What you can do is just log out and stop posting and then at some point in the future start up another account. But don't post about offloading one horse and then immediately getting another, it smacks all too much of treating them as disposable items, and most people on here find that distasteful.
 
stormox said:
ycbm - ANY horse is capable of unseating their rider. The quietest cob can stumble and fall, and ANY type of fall could kill. One persons opinion of whats naughty probably isnt anothers. Id rather ride a bucker than a patent safety cob any day!
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Thank you, I understand that, but this horse was described as follows, which is why i said I would not rehome him free to a total stranger:

I am a very confident rider but he is now making me nervous and I have been advised by very knowledgeable people to not ride him anymore. I have ended up in hospital twice.
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stormox said:
i dont think he was rehomed free was he? on the ad Im sure the loaner had to give £50 rehoming fee and another £300 donation?
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Was he rehomed through the horses4homes ad? We don't know that, I don't think. I think it's unlikely, I mean with the market as it is, who in their right mind would pay £350 for a pasture companion, never mind a high maintenance tb one?
 
stormox said:
i dont think he was rehomed free was he? on the ad Im sure the loaner had to give £50 rehoming fee and another £300 donation?
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only if the home was found through the H4H website I think. To be honest, I have voiced my views on this thread regarding the way OP handled the situation and they still stand. However, as much as posters on here are concerned because they feel somewhat involved, they are not. I do not see why OP should be asked to provide evidence in the form of a photograph of the horse in his new home. Perhaps the OP was misguided in her handling of things, and the way she portrayed the situation, she may even have been misguided in the way she passed on the horse but I think we have all said that now haven't we, and the bottom line is it was her horse, and as much as many who gave advice may feel involved - it is no ones business but the OP's.
 
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SpringArising said:
Me either. Such a strange (and childish) thing to demand.
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Nobody demanded it though, did they :) ?

The OP was getting uptight about people continuing to question her, and I suggested, as my first post on this thread, that it might quieten people down if she posted the photos she said she had of him in his new home.

Amymay said that was a good idea, the OP said no, bluntly, and that was that. Nobody demanded anything in any fashion, least of all childishly.

Let's hope the horse genuinely has gone to a good home and does not end up being sold on by a dodgy dealer and hurting someone else.
 
ycbm said:
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Nobody demanded it though, did they :) ?

The OP was getting uptight about people continuing to question her, and I suggested, as my first post on this thread, that it might quieten people down if she posted the photos she said she had of him in his new home.

Amymay said that was a good idea, the OP said no, bluntly, and that was that. Nobody demanded anything in any fashion, least of all childishly.

Let's hope the horse genuinely has gone to a good home and does not end up being sold on by a dodgy dealer and hurting someone else.
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I sincerely hope that too, it would be fab for the horse to be in the right home. Challenge, request, suggest, demand... still to me a silly post as none of us have any right to that knowledge, regardless at how put out or passionately we feel about the scenario
 
Queenbee said:
I sincerely hope that too, it would be fab for the horse to be in the right home. Challenge, request, suggest, demand... still to me a silly post as none of us have any right to that knowledge, regardless at how put out or passionately we feel about the scenario
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Well you can call it silly if you like, that is your right. But I thought the suggestion of posting the photos that we would not even have known existed had the OP not told us that she had them was a sensible one, and it might have stopped people continuing to question where he was. She chose not to, fine. You think the suggestion was silly, your prerogative :).
 
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ycbm said:
Well you can call it silly if you like, that is your right. But I thought the suggestion of posting the photos that we would not even have known existed had the OP not told us that she had them was a sensible one, and it might have stopped people continuing to question where he was. She chose not to, fine. You think the suggestion was silly, your prerogative :).
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I do think it silly to some extent, but do not think I don't understand your sentiment. Neither of us support the OP in what she has done, or how she has gone about it, but she does not have to prove anything, the horse could actually be in a knackers yard right now and it is no ones business but hers. x
 
Its not up to the old owner to post photos of the new owner with the horse. The new owner mightnt want photos published! in fact, there was a thread on here a little while back and people were saying how rude it was for previous owners to publish pictures of horses that were now theirs.
 
So having read through this, OP had a horse she couldn't ride - it had put her in hospital and it sounded like she had lost her nerve. I can relate to that, having a TB with similar "issues". She admitted defeat, but wanted another home for her horse to give it another chance. She got it another home which as far as she is concerned is with a good person and another horse.......who are we to criticise? The only mistake OP made was coming onto this forum and asking for advice! Good luck OP - I sincerely hope Alfie has found a suitable home.
 
I think you may have missed the part where she said she had to get rid quickly due to major family issues, she couldn't do any further investigative work on him as she had no funds....

She then posted a wanted ad for a horse on here as soon as the troubled one was out of her hands... That's what's causing the hooha
 
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