Devastating news :(

So Sorry to hear your devastating news. Such a freak accident and could have happened to any of us.
You keep a hold of all the brilliant and fun memories that you had together as no one can take them away from you.
Be proud that you gave her such a good life and achieved so much.
Thinking of you and shed as many tears as you want. x
 
That is such terrible news, absolutley heartbreaking, sat in tears reading it. I hope the pain becomes more bareable with time x
 
So so sorry to hear this, what a huge shock to have happened so suddenly. In time you will be able to look back and be proud of yourself for making the right decision in having her pts, at least she didn't suffer. From the sounds of it she was the centre of your world and right now that world has come crashing down horribly. Remember the good times you had with her, the buzz of XC, and think that she went doing something she loved doing, jumping.
You have done the right thing and put her needs before your own, sending you lots of hugs tonight. Izzy gone but never ever forgotten x
 
not sure if this will work if it does this was her at her happiest post bath and work!

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free to run

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Can't even begin to imagine the pain you have experienced. Such a sudden end to a young life, I feel deeply sorry for you.

By the sounds of things you did the kindest thing for your mare, she was lucky to have such a thoughtful mummy. Sending you big hugs.

R.I.P :( x
 
I never post in here... but I saw this post and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of Izzy's accident.

A favourite horse of mine was PTS last week because of a freak accident too. She was only 3 :(

It happens, and sadly, is no one's fault. So don't blame yourself.

RIP Izzy and Isa, now you can run free without pain and never know fear or want for anything ever again.

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Hell, Kez - that's so, so awful. I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am - I would be quite devastated. Biggest hugs possible...... xxxxx
 
Oh how absolutely awful for you - you must be totally devastated.

It is too early - but have you thought about a claim against the arena owner? You didnt say if you had hired/borrowed it. What was a nail this size doing there? If it is a professional yard they may be insured.

Money is no consolation for the loss of a much loved horse - but it might go some way to buying a replacement.
 
Thanks again for all your gracious replies, it is comforting to hear all your messages, makes me feel like she is being thought of and remembered.

Turbobert - the arena was my yards, i rode in it everyday as do the rest of the owners. My mum also is very angry about the nail being there but the trouble with outdoor arena is that sometimes things can also come up through the membrane over time i guess and it was maintained by YO daily, he is meticulous about the surface as his wife jumps her BS horses in there and i have not spoken to him since but i know he feels very responsible for it and i just dont want to go down that route it was a freak accident, i only blame myself, i just feel as though i let her down some way.

Harper_girl - i truly feel for you also a 3year old is so young, such a terrible loss

Yesterday was an awful day i was supposed to be at her second BE event, decided to go on foot but i was ok til the class we were to be in started, it was so hard, she would have loved it, i still have to go back to the yard to sort her stuff out and i cant face it, what on earth to do with myself.
 
kez1001 said:
Yesterday was an awful day i was supposed to be at her second BE event, decided to go on foot but i was ok til the class we were to be in started, it was so hard, she would have loved it, i still have to go back to the yard to sort her stuff out and i cant face it, what on earth to do with myself.
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I was thinking of you yesterday especially. :( I didn't think you'd make it along, somehow didn't see you. I am sure it was hard being there knowing you should have had Izzy there- I couldn't have done the same in your position, so you're much stronger than me. Will maybe see you at Blair to try drown your sorrows if you're still going, if not, hopefully see you soon. x
 
kez1001 said:
it was a freak accident, i only blame myself, i just feel as though i let her down some way.

Yesterday was an awful day i was supposed to be at her second BE event, decided to go on foot but i was ok til the class we were to be in started, it was so hard, she would have loved it, i still have to go back to the yard to sort her stuff out and i cant face it, what on earth to do with myself.
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((())) kez it is absolutely NOT your fault in any way. You could have no idea that was going to happen :(:( Knowing you loved her right to end will have meant everything to her. All we can do is love them when they are here.

It was so brave of you to go yesterday. I did think of your girl when I was there :(:(
 
FJ - i didnt want to put a downer on anyones day,thought best to keep out the way. i seen your xc finish and your sj round, an unlucky pole, but she looked well. Hopefully she felt better to you than she did at scone :)

i wasnt going to go but i was stuck in the house and a friend was supposed to meet me there, unfortunately she got caught up and didnt make it but at least i got out the house. Going to meet her today, she actually owns the horse i had on loan before izzy so not sure if this will be a good or bad thing. not sure about blair yet, my mate says i am going but what on earth to spend my pennies at the trade stands on now?? will wait and see. thanks for the offer of a catch up though

DHB - i think the guilt is part of the grieving but it is very real and i dont know why. very mixed emotions and heartache, thank you for thinking of us Izzy would have been watching you all do stressage and being giving all the ponies tips on how to look giraffe like! I just feel as though i wasnt looking out for her in some way and i still cant believe what has happened, very surreal and confusing :(
 
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FJ - i didnt want to put a downer on anyones day,thought best to keep out the way. i seen your xc finish and your sj round, an unlucky pole, but she looked well. Hopefully she felt better to you than she did at scone :)

Izzy would have been watching you all do stressage and being giving all the ponies tips on how to look giraffe like!
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Aw, don't be daft, you wouldn't have put a downer on anyone's day and we'd have loved to have been able to give you some real life support. Am still kicking myself for kicking too much down that related distance, thought it was riding long and forgot Hopalong was being more forward than last weekend! :o She felt much better thank you, so can shelve plans of retirement for now... ;)

Hmmm... I know a pony who could have given Izzy even more tips on giraffe-McPokey-nosed-ness! ;)

Please don't feel guilt, I know it's a natural "step", but there really wasn't anything you could have done to prevent such a freak accident and you did absolutely all you could after it happened.

PS- lots of clothes, food and booze to buy at Blair, but I know what you mean.
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Kez, you are so right - guilt is a natural part of the process. When something terrible happens, we need something or someone to "blame". In this case, it really does seem as though it was one of those terrbile freak accidents that occur in life, but as you were her carer your instinct is to put the blame on yourself. But, it is not your fault - absolutely, totally not. You clearly cared for her deeply and would never knowingly have risked her any harm - these things do happen, sadly. The guilt will pass - truly - but it does take time. I wish I could help take it away faster..........
 
((())) You are right I think guilt is part of it unfortuantely.
With my boy who broke his leg in the field last month - the first vet told me he was certain not broken but when re examined the next day by second vet it was. Now it is fairly likely he did damage it further the second day and the first vet is an absolute horse expert who has worked with Badminton horses so I have no reason to think he was wrong BUT I can't help beating myself up by wondering if it was broken in the first place and I let him suffer :( Then I have to give myself a shake and say I did want to give him every possible chance and if there was a chance he could have been saved, which it looked like the first day, I would surely have wanted to give him that chance.

The biggest comfort was I was able to be with him right to the end talking to him and loving him and knowing he was put out of his pain and didn't feel a thing then. Try and realise how strong you have been for her and how you put her welfare first. You are so right she would not have been happy being a field ornament my boy struggled badly with being retired this last year and he was 23. Some horses need a job to do to be happy
 
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Aw, don't be daft, you wouldn't have put a downer on anyone's day and we'd have loved to have been able to give you some real life support. Am still kicking myself for kicking too much down that related distance, thought it was riding long and forgot Hopalong was being more forward than last weekend! :o She felt much better thank you, so can shelve plans of retirement for now... ;)

Hmmm... I know a pony who could have given Izzy even more tips on giraffe-McPokey-nosed-ness! ;)

Please don't feel guilt, I know it's a natural "step", but there really wasn't anything you could have done to prevent such a freak accident and you did absolutely all you could after it happened.

PS- lots of clothes, food and booze to buy at Blair, but I know what you mean.
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lol the giraffe-mcpokey-nosed-ness, Izzy only saved it for dr tests never ever did it anywhere else! the related distance looked like it rode difficult for a lot! for future reference for some bizarre reason if you ride/count 1 then 2 stride when you land then 3 2 1 to the fence for some reason in a five stride it makes it far easier to get the right spot??? have no idea why, this was what i was practicing at home, then adding another stride in also which we were rotten at, though we could have done it on 4 no bother ;)

i'm sure it is normal to feel guilty and my logical head says i'm being daft it is a very strange feeling. you just dont ever expect that kind of news, the vets were all joking it was a extreme way to get attention as nobody expected that outcome. they were all gutted too when i phoned on friday :(

will consider the booze food buying option you always did need a bank loan for all that!
 
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((())) You are right I think guilt is part of it unfortuantely.
With my boy who broke his leg in the field last month - the first vet told me he was certain not broken but when re examined the next day by second vet it was. Now it is fairly likely he did damage it further the second day and the first vet is an absolute horse expert who has worked with Badminton horses so I have no reason to think he was wrong BUT I can't help beating myself up by wondering if it was broken in the first place and I let him suffer :( Then I have to give myself a shake and say I did want to give him every possible chance and if there was a chance he could have been saved, which it looked like the first day, I would surely have wanted to give him that chance.

The biggest comfort was I was able to be with him right to the end talking to him and loving him and knowing he was put out of his pain and didn't feel a thing then. Try and realise how strong you have been for her and how you put her welfare first. You are so right she would not have been happy being a field ornament my boy struggled badly with being retired this last year and he was 23. Some horses need a job to do to be happy
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I am worrying i made the decision too soon :( she was a hardy wee thing and i keep thinking she might of been the small % miracle, but i know that that would of been a big risk. The vet offered to keep her comfortable overnight and i could have her PTS in the morning but as a nurse and well aware of how septiciamia (blood poisoning) works i would have never forgiven myself if she had went into septic shock overnight and also the thought of drivng to vets to say goodbye was too awful i would of thought i had left her alone all night, scared and in a strange place :(

life is **** :(
so sorry about your horse too, its always the good ones :(
 
She may have been the small % miracle but that was a huge chance to take with her well being and I think you would feel far worse (if that is possible) if you put her through it for nothing :(

I had another ex racer I had pts 3 years ago with colic there was a chance to send him to Liverpool to be operated on but I had a 2 week old baby and could not have travelled with him. When I looked into all the box rest that would be required and the chances of a reoccurence I just knew knowing him and how he would take that I could not have put him through that for that small chance. Far better for him that he was pts at home having only had a couple of hours discomfort than that.

You made the hard choice and the braver choice and that took real selflessness and putting Izzy first xx
 
I agree with the title, devastating. I can only imagine how you are feeling. It was such a freak thing to happen. It made me cry reading it, my heart goes out to you.
Be brave. x x x
 
i'm so sorry to hear this, what a devastating day. you made the brave decision though and did the best thing, its so hard to make the right decision. thinking of you xx
 
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