Did a favour for someone - how much payment would YOU expect

If someone had got up at that time, got their lorry, picked me up, driven me to a meet, helped me, followed me for my safety, helped me after, driven me home, offered me the knowledge and help etc etc not to mention putting that much time into helping me out.....i would give them a medal as well as money for petrol with a bit extra on top, a nice bottle of wine and some flowers or a pressie for them and their horse and serious serious thanks. I dont think they realise how lucky they were !
I used to have a trailer which my sodding pony wouldnt travel in and now i have horses that will travel i dont have transport. I dont think they understand the cost of hiring a lorry and driver by the sound of it. £50 plus gifts would have still been exceptionally cheap for them for a day out i would say!!
 
R2R said:
Honey08 they drive a blinking porche!! I wonder how far that would get on a tenner lol!!
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I often find the wealthiest people are the tightest, I suppose thats how they become wealthy!

I would've given you at least £40 & a bottle of wine & a thank you card. Oh well. its a lesson learnt, no more favours for that individual!:)
 
I think it depends who the person is, if it was just another livery and not a friend I would have had the £25 with me and given a bottle of wine or choccies etc.
When me and my mum had the trailer we would normally only take people if we were going as well. Situations like this happen to often and end up causing petty arguments.
 
My original answer before reading your post was 'I don't expect payment for favours'!
However I would have expected £25 diesel and a little token, bottle of wine, box of chocs, lunch for the effort. I can see why you are peeved and I do hope you make your point.
My grandad (who incidentally has been dead for 15 years) always said that no horse would go on his wagon for less than £20 regardless of where it was going, a mile or a hundred miles!
That is just mean and I hope nobody else puts themselves out for these selfish people.
 
I did a similar thing a couple of years ago - I'd arranged to go to a dressage comp with a friend but as I was in early stages of pregnancy and feeling a bit rubbish, decided that I wouldn't compete myself but said I would still take friend and her horse as didn't want to let her down. She had been to MANY comps with me and I never asked for a penny as I enjoyed the company but that day she knew I felt pretty cr*p but still plaited her horse up for her, drove 1 1/2hrs to venue, read tests etc and then drove 1 1/2hrs back...

I was happy to do it and didn't ask for payment at all but I have to admit that if someone had done that for me I would at leat have paid their diesel - all I got was a chocolate cake :D
 
They should of offered you money for the fuel, no doubt about it.

That in my eyes would be both a favour on your part, if I'd offered to take them I wouldn't of expected anything more than just fuel money and a thank you.
 
My friend had to rescue myself and my old horse from a show once when our lorry broke. She drove an hr there in the peeing rain, helped me load my horse and drove an hr back to get us home. I brought her a pair of tri-zone brushing boots that I thought she would like as a present and I got her a thank you card too.

The lorry we share with my mums friend we pay £40 for the hire for the first two times in the month that we use it, plus we fill it back up with diesel at the end of the day. We also pick it up and drop it off... If we use it more than 2 times in a month its just a fiver for hire plus diesel. It still works out cheaper than maintaining our own lorry!

If I was her I would have given you the £25 for diesel and an extra tenner as a token for your time, plus I would be inclined to give you a hand with some help when you needed it. I don't like porshes, I think they are for people who *try* to look rich, she sound's like a right stingy so and so :)
 
I wish I could find someone willing to take me SJing an hour away, wait for me and drive me home for £40....that is what I would pay willingly, no questions asked.

I have a lift sometimes from a girl at my yard - in return I turn out and bring in for her for no charge. This suits us both :)
 
Not cheeky, down right rude & ungrateful.

I'd have expected the £25 diesel money in full - I think the fact that they didn't take any cash with them speaks volumes.

Simply answer to this is to refuse any further requests for "favours" from the particular person. It's quite obviously a one way friendship and we can all do without them.

Very sad when someone you view as a friend does something like that.
 
I would have given petrol money and a bit more as a thank you.

Someone took me to a ODE earlier this year, it was a 20min drive from the yard, maybe a bit more in the box, she waited and offered help then drove me back, I gave her £30.
 
I have been caught out a couple of times like this, only have a trailer but it still costs to keep it road worthy (tyres brakes, insurance ect) the the 4x4 that goes with it, so if anyone asks me now it has to be £30 for the trailer and £1 per mile for the 4x4, if this is not acceptable then its no skin off my nose! I am fed up with people who choose to have an expencive hobby and expect other peoples to fund it. once bitten twice shy! is the moral of this story, which is a shame that these selfish people have spoilt it for others.
 
It never ceases to amaze me how cheeky some people are, I would have payed the £25 and offered money for your time, but I guess there will always be people out there that expect something for nothing!
 
Quickfire - that is what I think! My exhaust dropped off half way home...more expense...it is not just the diesel.

I have decided that I simply wont do it anymore :(
 
I realise that you are out of pocket, and I do think she should have given you the full amount, but I think this is putting you in a sticky wicket with the transporting regulations as it could be construed that you would be transporting for gain.

You can't be too careful.
 
I've have been royally fed up with that R2R. Talk about taking the mick. The very least she should have done was paid the £25. Some people have no conscience and are takers not givers unfortunately. Don't blame you for not doing it again after this, I'd be the same I think.
 
I would have been so embarrassed at taking up so much of your time when you weren't even riding yourself, that I'd probably have paid you double the diesel cost!
 
I'd have paid £25 to cover your diesel costs, and then some sort of thank you gift - more than a token as you did give up a lot of time.

When a friend moved my horse for me, I paid her fuel, gave her a thank you card, a bottle of wine (mid-price) and a nice box of chocs. And that was a short journey, no waiting around etc.
 
I was going to ask my friend to take me a 40 mile round trip to do two showjumping classes (3 hours in total?) and was gonna give her £50!! she woudn't be taking her horse.

This is on the basis that it's half what it would have cost me to rent a vehicle for the day and also to compensate her for her time and fuel expenses.

I'm shocked all your friend offered you was a tenner!!
 
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I'd have given at least the fuel coverage but me being me, I would insist on you taking some more, I mean, you wasted a whole day so someone else could have fun. It says a lot that someone will go out of their way to do someone else a favour it's not like you had anything better to do eh? *rolls eyes*

In my opinion, It's worse because you told them how much fuel went in. It could just be innocent but it doesn't say the persons very thoughtful to be honest.
 
I guess some people are just a bit more forward when it comes to money, if I'm owed it the person owing me knows about it!

Tell her, thanks for the £10 and you will be expecting the remaining £15 in a couple of days time.

Be stern and mean what you say. This woman obviously thinks she can get away with not paying you because you're nice and haven't kicked up a fuss. Does she even know how p*ssed off you are? Tell her!!

I paid £30 for a 20 mile round trip in a friends box!! I shall be calling on your services next time :D
 
For what you did, £25 is the very least you should get! When we picked up our pony last week, it was £70 for the lorry, £60 for fuel, not to mention fuel for the car to pick up/drop off lorry.

The person you did a favour for needs a good swift kick up the behind for treating you like that. :mad: Especially since not only did you drive them there, but also spent a lot of time doing things for them.
 
She really is taking the mick!

This is why I love my friends!

One friend borrowed my lorry to move home, which needed no imput from me other than giving her the keys! The handbrake broke whilst she borrowed it, and bless her she paid for the repairs and filled the lorry up in diesel!

Another friend borrowed it yesterday to go eventing. I dropped it off for her, so that was my time, but she rang the insurance company to sort out insurance etc for herself on it beforehand. I left it with her with 1/4 a tank of diesel, she returned it yesterday with 1/2 a tank in :D

I would do at least what the second friend did if I was borrowing a lorry, and really wouldn't expect anyone to do what you did for me ever!! I wouldn't be able to afford it!
 
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