Did you get another horse after losing one?

We lost Glen when I was 15, so 6 years ago now. A month before he was PTS I was jumping round a pre-novice. He had a tumor on his purtutry(sp) gland and it was devestating to watch him go down hill so quickly. The next season I was hoping do to JRNs on him and I have to say that I still wanted to event so I was pretty much looking for a horse straight away. However it had to be on loan as we couldn't afford to buy another horse. Sadly the loan horse I got didn't work out and sometimes I still feel angry at Glen for dieing before I got as much out of him as my sister. But I still miss him and still want another one just like glen. Although a little bigger as he was only 15hh.
 
I had other horses when I lost one. I have lost 3 in 30 years of horse ownership, so I really know how you are feeling. No other horse can replace the one you lost. But the fact that you loved that one so much, means that you can give a lot to another horse. The trick is not to rush into anything - perhaps ride or help with other people's horses for a while. You will probably find something will come along in its own time. Good luck.
 
You are not a terrible person for thinking like this. Everyone is different and has different feelings. There is no right or wrong way to deal with losing a horse. I had 2 weeks off work as unfortunately I lost Higgs coming up to the anniversary of my husband dying so I went to pieces.
Just remember it is still early days and it will still be very raw, the pain and hurt does ease but it takes time, I can still cry when I think of Higgs but then I try to remember all the good times and what he gave me - unconditional love being high on the list. Don't stress about how you feel about your other horse, your feelings will change in time. Take some time out to get over your grief before making any decisions. Am glad you went a gave another horse a cuddle, can you perhaps just spend some time grooming and cuddling etc your other horse?
 
I really feel for you. My mare died during the op for Surgical colic, she was in foal (only had 3 months to go) and was found in a terrible state which was so distressing and traumatic. I already had Harley as I had bought him to sell on, but ended up keeping him.
I think if I had not had another horse it wold have been more difficult as it helped me to have to get on with looking after him. It is really up to you though, no one can tell you how long you should wait if and when you get another
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I've lost 2 horses over my lifetime.
The first one was Amber - she was hit by a car when we were hacking out and had to be PTS due to her injuries. It was horrific and something that I still get upset about even now 6 years on - but I did get another horse pretty much straight away and couldn't imagine my life without a horse to ride. My new horse (who I still have) is completely different to Amber and although she never felt like a replacement I did feel guilty for wanting another horse. But I grieved for Amber and Jenny was a comfort and helped me through it.
My other loss was my childhood pony Cherry. We grew up together - she was 5 when I got her and 30 when she died. She was very weak and decrepid when she died and I had been considering having her PTS for a while but she had good days and bad days and when she died in her sleep one night it was almost a relief to not have to make that final decision. Obviously it was a big loss in my life and like a chapter closing but it wasn't totally unexpected like Amber and so somehow easier to come to terms with.
I still miss them both.
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I lsot mine and was looking through the paper that day. I just felt lost. Didn't see any I liked though (still had other pony) and wasn't ready, just had to take my mind off it.
Turned out (we rang his old owners to let them know)that the person who found him for them found us my pony, went and saw it for us (without us asking) and bought it on the basis if we didn't buy it someone would!
Bought him two weeks after the day and I would say I wasn't quite ready but it helped. Depends on you, I still get very upset about both ponies now (As second one is sold) so..
 
I lost a loan horse to colic while I was at uni, I was devastated and despite riding a friends horse my heart wasn't in it and I gave up horses all together. I had other things to concentrate on with studying and my personal life also changed soon after with my parents splitting up. My whole family life, including horses, changed in the space of 6 months.

The horses owner gave up as she had a young family and she gave me all Jake's belongings....these remained untouched in a cuoboard for 2 years. Eventually I got the feeling back towards horses and I made a decision that I wanted to ride again. I took the plunge and found a horse to loan back at my old yard. It was a case of jumping in with both feet or running away. I jumped in and have never looked back. I loaned again for 18 months and then decided to buy my own. I don't regret the time away, but looking at what I have now I know that I wouldn't make that same mistake again.

I believe each horse and rider are different but you can never replace something that you have lost you can only move on and give another horse a chance of a decent life. Had I not found my TB he would have ended up in national hunt training of which I have no doubt that he would not have done very well.

I really hope you do carry on and find it in you to get another horse, there is one out there somewhere with your name on
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Hun, everything you are feeling is normal.

When I lost Nelly I really thought my world had crashed around me - luckily some friends got me onto their horses - they would never be Nelly, but it was so kind I could not say no. Within a week I knew I had to have another - and the quest began, with the stubborn streak I have it had to be a mare and it had to be a pure bred Cleveland Bay - basically a hens tooth!!!

Was searching on the internet when I found stud records and fund Nelly had a full sister - tracked her down thanks to the Society and went to see her - 30 miles away. Persuaded them to sell her even though she was nothing like Nelly. Not a day goes by when I do not miss or have a little chat with Nelly - however over the last 3 months I have realised how much I love my Donkey - but it has taken well over 6 months to establish a bond that I would not swap.
 
Yes, I did get another one and i made the mistake of buying one because it reminded me of my horse who was pts. Wrong decision and one i regretted. Unfortunately horse was too much for me and i ended up selling him. Like you said - i felt i had cheated Bramley, as well as letting the horse down i had bought. Have since bought 2 more (both with me still! Altho' one is my daughter's.) Both totally different from my old boy and therefore i do not compare them. It is difficult - part of having a horse is the life it allows you to have (or not!!) and the routine you become used to. Can you manage without that - i know i would be far more difficult to live with if it wasn't for my horses! (Although would have far more dispensable income!)
 
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