disappointed in this forum's reaction to "newbie"

At the risk of sounding a bit harsh, why do people bother with the 'hi i am new here' posts anyway? To me it seems to be an opportunity to 'show off' pics of horses and themselves riding??? Lets face it we all think our nags are stunning in their own way and it seems like its an opportunity to get a load of people telling you how lovely your pony is???

There must be 1000's and 1000's of people on here, thank heavens everyone doesnt post to say hello, would take us all an hour and a half to get to a proper problem - which is what this forum is all about surely??

I also think sometimes its easier to be 'incognito' on here, every so often (or more often than not :)) you end up getting criticised in your posts and its easier if people don't know who you are otherwise you will end up at the local show being pointed at as the one who was cruel to their horse because they tied it to their car door on the way home because they didnt want to lead it as they had a blister or something similar???
 
Syrah said:
I'm not a newbie and have started threads where no one has replied.
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Me too! Don't be disheartened eeyore13. I think it just depends who's on and if it's in their expertise and also if people see it. So many threads get listed, they tend to just disappear, keep bumping them up, someone will have some helpful advice.
 
Switchthehorse said:
At the risk of sounding a bit harsh, why do people bother with the 'hi i am new here' posts anyway? To me it seems to be an opportunity to 'show off' pics of horses and themselves riding??? Lets face it we all think our nags are stunning in their own way and it seems like its an opportunity to get a load of people telling you how lovely your pony is???

There must be 1000's and 1000's of people on here, thank heavens everyone doesnt post to say hello, would take us all an hour and a half to get to a proper problem - which is what this forum is all about surely??

I also think sometimes its easier to be 'incognito' on here, every so often (or more often than not :)) you end up getting criticised in your posts and its easier if people don't know who you are otherwise you will end up at the local show being pointed at as the one who was cruel to their horse because they tied it to their car door on the way home because they didnt want to lead it as they had a blister or something similar???
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Just read this, and this is exactly how I meant to put it, somewhere up there! Well said!
 
eeyore13 said:
I Have to say im a newbie to this site and i have posted a thread asking for help/advce on leg wraps/boots and only had 1 person reply, it cant be anything to do with the pic i posted as im in correct attire for what i was doing.
I'm experinced and qualified in equine management but thought i would ask for advice to see if anyone else came up with some good ideas, but i was bitterly dissapointed with the reaction.

I still look at the forum but dont often bother to post a reply and no point posting a new thread.

signed One unhappy newbie x :(
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That particular post was a bit specialist, and would probably have been better posted in Stable Yard. I certainly have no idea, having never spent any time worrying about keeping my horses legs white other than bathing on the day of a show and then putting travel boots and/or bandages on. In fact my reply would probably have been along the lines of "He's not too young to learn to stand still when you are working on him" but I don't suppose you'd have been very pleased with that, although arguably it's the most helpful reply that could have been made, considering it will help for all the rest of his life.

I'd have ignored or answered tersely that post whether it was your first or your one million and first, if that helps.:)
 
I think it would be nice to see a forum for newbies just to say hi,ost other forums do this.

To the point of not posting to posts, I don't bother unless I can help, or if someone has answered the question I see little point in repeating the advice given, so it maybe that a post only does have one reply as the answer was correct :)
 
Hello new person(s). *waves to all* :)

Have to say OP, if I were said new person, I would feel SO awkward about this thread - how embarrassing to be thrust into the spotlight like this! :o

Re saying hello - this is the way things are done on many forums, here people tend to dive straight in but then a new person would not necessarily know this, hence an introductions post. :)
 
eeyore13 said:
I Have to say im a newbie to this site and i have posted a thread asking for help/advce on leg wraps/boots and only had 1 person reply, it cant be anything to do with the pic i posted as im in correct attire for what i was doing.
I'm experinced and qualified in equine management but thought i would ask for advice to see if anyone else came up with some good ideas, but i was bitterly dissapointed with the reaction.
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Sometimes it feels like I spend my whole life on here :D but I completely missed your post :eek: (wonder what else I am missing :))

However, I might not have replied as I had nothing helpful to say (although this has not stopped me spouting rubbish before :p). Maybe there was a punch up going on in another post at the time and everyone was there and missed you. I wouldn't say people were ignoring you, although it imust have felt like it.
 
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Have to say OP, if I were said new person, I would feel SO awkward about this thread - how embarrassing to be thrust into the spotlight like this! :o
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Yes, this has occured to me. Good point. Such is my own inexperience on this site, that I thought one or two people might say a friendly hello to the young woman, I hadn't expected a massive debate. Or indeed any replies to my own post!

As I've said before, please accept that my intentions were good.
 
Thanks DougalJ, i will pop on over.

Yes Jemima, i do understand he has to learn to stand still but been as he is only 18 months old colt, there is a time limit on this.
Its nice to know you read my thread, although i wasnt asking advice on how to teach my horse, the question was regarding best leg wraps/boots to use and any other cleaning tips.
Generally a yearling has about a 15 min attention span and learning capabilities so after bathing him this time has well expired to then try and put bandages on. I mention not putting bandages on so that people wouldnt suggest this as an option in keeping his legs clean.
As you can see by the pic, he clearly has no trouble standing still when asked otherwise he wouldnt have earned those sashes, judges constantly comment on how well behaved he is for his age and he is often the only horse standing still in a younstock class and behaving like a pro going around the ring. x
 
eeyore13 said:
Thanks DougalJ, i will pop on over.

Yes Jemima, i do understand he has to learn to stand still but been as he is only 18 months old colt, there is a time limit on this.
Its nice to know you read my thread, although i wasnt asking advice on how to teach my horse, the question was regarding best leg wraps/boots to use and any other cleaning tips.
Generally a yearling has about a 15 min attention span and learning capabilities so after bathing him this time has well expired to then try and put bandages on. I mention not putting bandages on so that people wouldnt suggest this as an option in keeping his legs clean.
As you can see by the pic, he clearly has no trouble standing still when asked otherwise he wouldnt have earned those sashes, judges constantly comment on how well behaved he is for his age and he is often the only horse standing still in a younstock class and behaving like a pro going around the ring. x
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All of which I understand and is PRECISELY why I, and possibly several hundred other people, chose not to reply, as I attempted to explain earlier.

However you have of course now had the useful information from me that you might have got a better response in Stable Yard. Perhaps it's worth another try there if you have not found a suitable solution so far?
 
eeyore13 said:
I Have to say im a newbie to this site and i have posted a thread asking for help/advce on leg wraps/boots and only had 1 person reply, it cant be anything to do with the pic i posted as im in correct attire for what i was doing.
I'm experinced and qualified in equine management but thought i would ask for advice to see if anyone else came up with some good ideas, but i was bitterly dissapointed with the reaction.

I still look at the forum but dont often bother to post a reply and no point posting a new thread.

signed One unhappy newbie x :(
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Its nothing personal, but its a boring topic. Sorry. If you post asking why your horse isn't perfectly mannered when you've spent the last ten years Parelli-ing it, I guarantee you pages of replies. ;)

PS Welcome to HHO. :cool:
 
Syrah said:
I'm not a newbie and have started threads where no one has replied.
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ditto this although i'm not sure what constitutes a newbie IMHO new lounge is for debates and stable yard for help

Switchthehorse said:
At the risk of sounding a bit harsh, why do people bother with the 'hi i am new here' posts anyway? To me it seems to be an opportunity to 'show off' pics of horses and themselves riding??? Lets face it we all think our nags are stunning in their own way and it seems like its an opportunity to get a load of people telling you how lovely your pony is???
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but but i love looking at other peoples horses having none of my own atm i thought H&H was all about the horses silly me
 
but but i love looking at other peoples horses having none of my own atm i thought H&H was all about the horses silly me[/QUOTE]

It is all about horses, and apologies I got out of the wrong side of the bed this morning so am in a right old grump... anyway I always think it is all about horses but less about gratuitous pics and more about help and advice?? If you want to look at other peoples horses then post a 'can i see pics of your horses' post and thousands will share them with you.. I have no probs with 'is he too fat' or 'cc please on conformation' posts, but someone posting 'hi i am new here - here is my horse' doesn't really warrant any response?? its like me walking into a shop and saying in a loud voice 'hi I have never shopped here before look at me' and then getting in a grump that no-one said hi back and instead just looked at me like I was slightly mad and giving me a wide berth!?
 
Switchthehorse said:
At the risk of sounding a bit harsh, why do people bother with the 'hi i am new here' posts anyway? To me it seems to be an opportunity to 'show off' pics of horses and themselves riding??? Lets face it we all think our nags are stunning in their own way and it seems like its an opportunity to get a load of people telling you how lovely your pony is???
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Aw, don't most people want to show off their horse? Aren't we all proud of them?

My Mollie's a cheaply-bought 17 year old ex-trekking pony. Most people here would probably not look twice at her, but I think she's gorgeous! And I love others telling me she's lovely. You could look at her pics but they don't seem to have posted for some reason.

Lots of folk here compete at shows. That's showing off too, but no-one seems to mind.
 
Switchthehorse said:
but but i love looking at other peoples horses having none of my own atm i thought H&H was all about the horses silly me
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It is all about horses, and apologies I got out of the wrong side of the bed this morning so am in a right old grump... anyway I always think it is all about horses but less about gratuitous pics and more about help and advice?? If you want to look at other peoples horses then post a 'can i see pics of your horses' post and thousands will share them with you.. I have no probs with 'is he too fat' or 'cc please on conformation' posts, but someone posting 'hi i am new here - here is my horse' doesn't really warrant any response?? its like me walking into a shop and saying in a loud voice 'hi I have never shopped here before look at me' and then getting in a grump that no-one said hi back and instead just looked at me like I was slightly mad and giving me a wide berth!?[/QUOTE]

:D that made me chuckle and reminded me of a time when I was a hormonal monster whilst pregnant in Currys when there had been a new game console released. I didn't want the console, wasn't interested in it but there were supply issues countrywide and this shop had put a display of empty boxes so there were alot of happy parents going up to the tills with the boxes only to be told there were none in stock. I then had a hormonal rant at the shop manager about it :eek: I got the slightly mad, give the pregnant woman a wide berth look :D
 
Switchthehorse said:
its like me walking into a shop and saying in a loud voice 'hi I have never shopped here before look at me' and then getting in a grump that no-one said hi back and instead just looked at me like I was slightly mad and giving me a wide berth!?
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Maybe more like a discussion group than a shop? In which case, maybe not quite as mad?

I didn't feel the need to introduce myself with a newbie post, but each to their own. Some folk perhaps feel they ought to say hello before wading in.
 
I think that the professional forum posters on here forget that some people have never used forums before, and are not familiar with posting. I had a couple of scratchy comments when I came on here a few years ago about a post and I didn't use the forum for a long while because of it. I would see the forum more as a school not a shop, and for the person that's comes along to introduce herself, potentially has a problem with her horse and wants to post about the problem is then pounced on with sharp tones from other forum users.
 
DougalJ said:
I think that the professional forum posters on here forget that some people have never used forums before, and are not familiar with posting. I had a couple of scratchy comments when I came on here a few years ago about a post and I didn't use the forum for a long while because of it. I would see the forum more as a school not a shop, and for the person that's comes along to introduce herself, potentially has a problem with her horse and wants to post about the problem is then pounced on with sharp tones from other forum users.
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I agree, it's not a shop! My first ever post was for advice, and I did get a few harsh replies. I'd explained my background (it was relevant to the problem) of very serious illness and one person thought this was "emotive"!

However, overall the advice I got was extremely helpful and encouraging. I shrugged off the harsh ones, and could see they did have a point.
 
Some forums encourage introductory posts from newbies - in fact I know one that won't let newbies stay unless they DO introduce themselves. Maybe the OP is or has been a member of one of these, and felt that it was the correct thing to do.
 
DougalJ said:
I think that the professional forum posters on here forget that some people have never used forums before, and are not familiar with posting. I had a couple of scratchy comments when I came on here a few years ago about a post and I didn't use the forum for a long while because of it. I would see the forum more as a school not a shop, and for the person that's comes along to introduce herself, potentially has a problem with her horse and wants to post about the problem is then pounced on with sharp tones from other forum users.
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Your have mirrored my thoughts exactly DougalJ, not all of us know what were doing on forums.
My appoligies if my post was boring to some and not in the right section but there are plenty other post asking advice in the New Lounge as this is the busiest lounge, it would have been nice if someone could have simply and politely posted that i maybe better posting it in stable yard, no offence would have been taken as seen as been helpful rather then rude.
i have now gone off looking for other freindlier forums to join x
 
Pat10 said:
Some forums encourage introductory posts from newbies - in fact I know one that won't let newbies stay unless they DO introduce themselves. Maybe the OP is or has been a member of one of these, and felt that it was the correct thing to do.
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Good point.
 
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