disappointed in this forum's reaction to "newbie"

Well, I didn't see the need to comment twice - I'd already commented on the thread containing her horse's history - and did politely and tactfully comment on the wiseness (or not) of being on board a horse in her advanced state of pregnancy.

However - I do rather resent being spoken to as though I were a naughty, rude child . . . surely the point of a forum like this is the ability of its members to comment, or not, as they see fit. If I choose not to respond to a thread, I'd prefer not to be berated or browbeaten for making that choice. Likewise, I accept that not everyone will respond to my threads . . . sometimes (quite often actually) my threads disappear quite quickly - that's just the way the forum works.

I'm 46 years old . . . the last time someone told me they were disappointed in my behaviour I hadn't left school yet.

P
 
Rgoldenfilly said:
I couldn`t post because l thought it sooooooooooo wrong. She was doing everything all know is wrong :(
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What a bunch of nonsense. How do you know she didn't just climb on for that one photo? And why is it wrong for an individual to make their own choice about their own safety?

I get so tired of all the sanctimonious hand-wringing from all the safety nazis. Do I ride with a helmet? Always. I won't get on a horse without one. Do I chase down those who don't and read them the riot act? No, nor do I jump all over them when they post pics of same.

Could her unborn child be hurt if she fell or was thrown? Sure. It could also be hurt while she's driving her car or if she fell down her stairs.

There seem to be an inordinate number of people here who take an unseemly interest in what everyone else is doing (the number of posts whining about the equipment people choose to use is enough to tell you that).

My mother used to say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything." Wise woman, my mother.

Oh, and for those who take refuge in the fact that "I speak my mind" or "I'm not afraid to tell the truth," please give me a break. You just like ragging on other people because it somehow makes you feel superior. Which is fairly pathetic.

/rant over
 
baymareb said:
What a bunch of nonsense. How do you know she didn't just climb on for that one photo? And why is it wrong for an individual to make their own choice about their own safety?

I get so tired of all the sanctimonious hand-wringing from all the safety nazis. Do I ride with a helmet? Always. I won't get on a horse without one. Do I chase down those who don't and read them the riot act? No, nor do I jump all over them when they post pics of same.

Could her unborn child be hurt if she fell or was thrown? Sure. It could also be hurt while she's driving her car or if she fell down her stairs.

There seem to be an inordinate number of people here who take an unseemly interest in what everyone else is doing (the number of posts whining about the equipment people choose to use is enough to tell you that).

My mother used to say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything." Wise woman, my mother.

Oh, and for those who take refuge in the fact that "I speak my mind" or "I'm not afraid to tell the truth," please give me a break. You just like ragging on other people because it somehow makes you feel superior. Which is fairly pathetic.

/rant over
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lol at sig pic!! X
 
A lot of people ignored the thread because they were uncomfortable about the photo and decided best to say nothing. I think it's absolutely their right to do that. They've only commented now because they've been ticked off for being unfriendly. It's a huge forum and if people choose not to comment on any thread then I think that people have to be grown up about it and move on.
 
Tinypony said:
A lot of people ignored the thread because they were uncomfortable about the photo and decided best to say nothing. I think it's absolutely their right to do that. They've only commented now because they've been ticked off for being unfriendly. It's a huge forum and if people choose not to comment on any thread then I think that people have to be grown up about it and move on.
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this - as ive said befor ethe picture made me feel uncomfortable so rather than commenting i backed off - but now ive been told im unfriendly or horrible for not commenting i replied - i have no issue with adults risking their own safety but to see a pregnant woman so close to birth risking her unborn baby in such a way - i didnt like it - shoot me
And whoever said this is akin to driving a car - shut up!:mad::mad::mad:
 
baymareb said:
What a bunch of nonsense. How do you know she didn't just climb on for that one photo? And why is it wrong for an individual to make their own choice about their own safety?

I get so tired of all the sanctimonious hand-wringing from all the safety nazis. Do I ride with a helmet? Always. I won't get on a horse without one. Do I chase down those who don't and read them the riot act? No, nor do I jump all over them when they post pics of same.

Could her unborn child be hurt if she fell or was thrown? Sure. It could also be hurt while she's driving her car or if she fell down her stairs.

There seem to be an inordinate number of people here who take an unseemly interest in what everyone else is doing (the number of posts whining about the equipment people choose to use is enough to tell you that).

My mother used to say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything." Wise woman, my mother.

Oh, and for those who take refuge in the fact that "I speak my mind" or "I'm not afraid to tell the truth," please give me a break. You just like ragging on other people because it somehow makes you feel superior. Which is fairly pathetic.

/rant over
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Good post. but I've gotten fed-up of saying the same thing over and over, then get called a 'middle-aged witch with nothing better to do and doesnt even ride the horses she has'....when I'm not yet middle-aged, and have 5 horses, and ride 3 of them, with the other on loan and another on trial...I also compete..so that blows THAT out of the water....
 
darkhorse123 said:
this - as ive said befor ethe picture made me feel uncomfortable so rather than commenting i backed off - but now ive been told im unfriendly or horrible for not commenting i replied - i have no issue with adults risking their own safety but to see a pregnant woman so close to birth risking her unborn baby in such a way - i didnt like it - shoot me
And whoever said this is akin to driving a car - shut up!:mad::mad::mad:
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If you chose not to reply then thats your choice, I wouldn't let it bother you, but I won't shut up.

:D
 
DragonSlayer said:
..but who says we need to comment when it has bugger all to do with anyone else? I wear a hat, wouldn't not wear one, but would probably hop on to have a pic without.

But is that anyones business but mine?
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DragonSlayer said:
If you chose not to reply then thats your choice, I wouldn't let it bother you, but I won't shut up.

:D
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So it's ok for you to have an opinion, but not me? :confused:
 
lannerch said:
I must confess I can't be bothered with all that false polite conversation such newbie posts result in I come on here to see what attracts my interest and post on that that does I do enough polite conversation on unimportant things I really do not have much interest in at work, so at home i avoid like the plague, does that make me unfriendly?
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Same for me, really. I rarely read 'newbie' posts as I don't find them that interesting. I didn't do a 'newbie' post myself, I'd been lurking for ages so didn't feel like a newbie.
 
rhino said:
So it's ok for you to have an opinion, but not me? :confused:
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I was to shut up, I haven't told anyone to shut up. Of course you have the right to your opnion, doesn't mean I have to agree. I believe everyone should wear a hat when riding, what annoys me is that people think they should be telling people what is right or wrong, when they are adults. It's their own choice.

But if you think that people SHOULD be able to tell adults what they are meant to be doing, for a good reason or not, then I will accept that, and we will have to agree to disagree.

:D
 
I don't have a problem with people stating what they would do, or pointing out obvious risks.... Equally I accept that posters can choose to ignore the comments/advice.
 
Tazhazzamoose said:
seriously...you're annoyed cause not many people said hi ?
how dare we...there is no obligation to post...
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No, not annoyed, just thought it was rather a shame for the young lass that I was the only one who said hi back. But then, I'm rather new to internet forum etiquette and thought it was a bit like shyly walking into a room and saying hello, only to be ignored.

Interesting to read peoples' reactions though! I'm beginning to understand this forum thing better now I think.
 
FionaM12 said:
No, not annoyed, just thought it was rather a shame for the young lass that I was the only one who said hi back. But then, I'm rather new to internet forum etiquette and thought it was a bit like shyly walking into a room and saying hello, only to be ignored.

Interesting to read peoples' reactions though! I'm beginning to understand this forum thing better now I think.
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I didn't say hi until the post was commented on because I didn't see it. Posts can drop off the page in minutes sometimes.
I do welcome newbies if I see the post usually just because its nice to be welcomed and included. It was a lovely picture too.
 
I'v used this forum for a few years and don't tend to reply to the newbie posts, simply because they bore me! Sounds mean and I'm not a mean person by any means I just prefer to filter through to the topics of interest to me, such as horses! I think newbie posts should be put into soapbox. In the time I'v been on here, there's not one person that would probably know or recognise my name and know my horses or probably want to!
 
well i wasnt sure what to think when i saw the pic, tbh i wonder if it was posted purely to get a reaction.

each to their own, adults make their own choices and if you are stupid enough (yes it is stupid imho) not to wear a hat then it's your own choice but I feel for your relatives. Just my opinion. Riding when pregnant on a safe horse without taking silly risks? Ive heard (not that id know) that there is no problem with this; However, why you would combine the 2 and risk the horse tripping and caving your head in, leaving a baby with a severely injured mother, or no mother at all is beyond me tbh.:o Would you drive and deliberately not fasten your seatbelt when you were pregnant?If you post a pic like that you are bound to get opinions, up to the OP whether they choose to listen or not.
 
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I'm quite new here, and I didn't feel the need to do a newbie post, I just launched in with a problem and asked for help, and got masses of really useful replies. and even some personal messages offering practical help, in my inbox. Lovely. :)
 
FionaM12 said:
I'm quite new here, and I didn't feel the need to do a newbie post, I just launched in with a problem and asked for help, and got masses of really useful replies. and even some personal messages offering practical help, in my inbox. Lovely. :)
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See that's why I like this forum! Some people have some amazing advice and knowledge and generally everyone's really helpful. It's just newbie posts I don't seem to like/read!! Not that I'm against newbies! Shoot me down now! I just like people who get stuck in!!
We seem to be having a conversation on two posts!!
 
bumblelion said:
See that's why I like this forum! Some people have some amazing advice and knowledge and generally everyone's really helpful. It's just newbie posts I don't seem to like/read!! Not that I'm against newbies! Shoot me down now! I just like people who get stuck in!!
We seem to be having a conversation on two posts!!
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I'm having a conversation on two posts? I AM??? Wait till I tell my daughter. She thinks I'm an internet idiot.
 
I think this thread is a first - an argument about NOT posting! :D

FWIW I don't post on newbie threads normally unless I have lots of time. I usually just log on and scan quickly. When I started I just jumped in myself as I didn't realise people did 'hello' threads. So perhaps that was rude? I dunno.
 
Devonshire dumpling said:
lol at sig pic!! X
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That's not me with no helmet if that's what you're lol'ing at. It's my daughter and while I'd prefer she wore one, she's 28 years old and can do what she likes.

Whatever. I certainly understand not feeling a need to post on introduction threads but it seems silly that one's only reason for not doing so was because they couldn't think of anything to say besides negative stuff about what the person was doing in their photo.

But I'm sure all the people who feel so strongly about it have never done anything stupid on or with their horses.
 
rikey just seen this... i hadnt meant to cause such a stir, and as has already been suggested i did indeed hop on for a photo with pony and hop off again, although there wasnt much hopping involved. you will all be relieved to know that when litte legs is here i'll be sporting my hat and long boots and cracking on with my riding again, along with motherhood :) i cant wait.

i have to admit, probably was taken aback by some posts but hey ho public forum and im a 25 year old adult who can make my own choices and respect those choices and opinions of others :)

i wasnt looking for a load of false hellos and if you have taken the time to do so then great... thank you. and for those who have chosen to judge me, thank you also.
 
Jerokee said:
rikey just seen this... i hadnt meant to cause such a stir, and as has already been suggested i did indeed hop on for a photo with pony and hop off again, although there wasnt much hopping involved. you will all be relieved to know that when litte legs is here i'll be sporting my hat and long boots and cracking on with my riding again, along with motherhood :) i cant wait.

i have to admit, probably was taken aback by some posts but hey ho public forum and im a 25 year old adult who can make my own choices and respect those choices and opinions of others :)

i wasnt looking for a load of false hellos and if you have taken the time to do so then great... thank you. and for those who have chosen to judge me, thank you also.
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Well said....
 
I Have to say im a newbie to this site and i have posted a thread asking for help/advce on leg wraps/boots and only had 1 person reply, it cant be anything to do with the pic i posted as im in correct attire for what i was doing.
I'm experinced and qualified in equine management but thought i would ask for advice to see if anyone else came up with some good ideas, but i was bitterly dissapointed with the reaction.

I still look at the forum but dont often bother to post a reply and no point posting a new thread.

signed One unhappy newbie x :(
 
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