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Ok so what would you do if you were selling a horse and you took a dislike to the person wanting to buy it? Would you sell the horse to them anyway or tell them you didn't want them to have the horse? Just musing here.. opinions please!
 
It would depend on what I disliked about them I think, if I thought they wouldn't ride or care for the horse as I would like then I wouldn't sell, or if they had a personality that I wasn't keen on such as moody or bad tempered that could affect the horse.

If it was just something that irritated me about them, but they were good with the horse and I felt it was the right home for it then I'd let it go.
 
I had some people come to see a horse once who were talking between themselves about how wonderful other people at the stables would think they were to have a horse as good as the one I was selling in their yard. When they rang to tell me they wanted to buy her I told them she had already been sold. I wanted her to have owners who appreciated her for herself, not for how good she would make them look. Can you imagine how they would have treated her if they had fallen off in front of the other liveries?
 
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I don't think I could do it. I would need to feel confident that I had done the right thing and if I had a niggle about them personally then I think I would worry how that would impact on the horse. It does depend what the niggle was I guess. More detail?

For example, if someone turned up to try my mare and called her 'it' as in 'does it jump?' (and so many do) then that would put me off - silly I know. I don't want her to be an 'it'.
 
If I didn't like them I couldn't sell to them, I would be too worried about my horse and how it would get on with them. There is usually a reason for dislike - if it was something to do with their nature or as cptrayes had, someone who saw horse as a status symbol not for itself.

I would tell such a buyer that I had taken a deposit on the horse and keep looking for a buyer I liked and trusted.
 
Depends what I was selling. Beloved horse due to circumstance then no. Horse bought to sell but very fond of probably not. Horse bought to sell and not clicked with yes unless welfare issue.
 
Posie said:
Ok so what would you do if you were selling a horse and you took a dislike to the person wanting to buy it? Would you sell the horse to them anyway or tell them you didn't want them to have the horse? Just musing here.. opinions please!
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I'd tell them to go away. :)
 
I sell for other people sometimes and even then I have turned away people I do not feel right about. I have refused to let some come back for second trials, you get a gut feeling and if things dont feel right it is better to stop before the sale gets too far along, if you dont like them it will be very hard to deal with if something does go wrong.

On the opposite side I will not buy if I dont like the seller, I dont need to feel like a best friend but some empathy and common ground goes a long way to having trust in them.
 
Nah said:
I don't think I could. It takes a lot for me to dislike someone, so I couldn't.
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I bet you would if you were selling Ned and someone came along and said "how old is it" " how is it to catch" "is it good to shoe" and continued to call him it throughout the viewing:( I had an instructor do this one day when selling a lovely childs pony, after I had said him/ he in response several times and the buyers looked suitably embarrassed by her abrupt questions and rather suspicious line of questioning we decided the pony was not suitable for them.
 
I hate it when people call horses it! Unless they don't know the gender of course, but I call kids I don't know the gender of "it"
I would never sell to someone like that. They might know what they're doing, but he would be nothing more than a number. Of course I also wouldn't sell to someone who "wuvs horses SO MUCH!!1111!!!!1!!" but is clueless!
 
Yes & have turned pot. Sellers down on 2 occasions. One who couldn't rise to trot properly but thought they were capable of taking on my gorgeous but green 4yo! Another for pony I really needed to go but so put off by advisors aggressive line of questioning that I really didn't want to do business with them. They were trying to say pony had all sorts of faults & were completely sceptical about my answers..accused me of lying..so I told them to leave as I was selling him honestly. They then said they really wanted him & proceeded to wave cash under my nose.... Oddly in both cases these people rang back pretending to be somebody else trying to get another stab at buying...very Strange!
 
I got a strange email once about a pony I was selling, the way it was written was like one of those scam emails that get sent round by foreigners. So I duly ignored the email, they sent another one and then phoned.

I spoke with them on the phone and they sounded lovely and came and tried her. I didn't realise it was them who had sent the email until they said they had sent a couple of emails and then their name on the receipt matched the email lol!!

Had I not liked them when they tried her I wouldn't have sold her to them though.
 
I was the other way around....went to buy a pony and didn't like the sellers. It seemed they wud never be off our back so didn't buy. Now I hear that the people who did buy it cannot stop them ringing and sending messages and turning up at their yard!
I know it's hard to let go but u just got to do it.
 
It would depend how much I needed to sell the horse really.

Definitely wouldn't if I had any doubts about their ability to look after the horse.

Bit of a greyer line if it's just a personality thing. I can't stand people who come and are really negative and rude about the horse - presumably trying to justify a low offer, but it just makes me cross.

I once had some buyers turn up and say a horse I was selling was desperately thin (not true at all, he was just a TB so a leaner build than a cob!), lame and only fit for retirement. Funnily enough they still wanted him but I just felt like telling them to go £$£%& themselves.
 
I've turned buyers away when I was selling my boy. It was a heart wrenching sale and I made it clear to all who rang that if I didn't think they were the right home for him I wouldn't sell him to them. It wasn't that they weren't good enough and I didn't dislike any of them, just I had a choice and I chose the most suitable. I made the right choice and he still in this home pony clubbing with daughter number 2. Daughter no 3 loves him too but is still in ponies. Daughter no 1 now at uni after getting him to low level BE!!

If I disliked someone even if it were just a feeling then def not, but I'm a 1 horse owner who doesn't have to sell for money etc.

Maybe just say they're nice but you've found someone more suitable for him.
 
If it was just a personal dislike I would ignore it. If it were the riding ability or attitude towards the horse I disliked, the horse would be staying until someone else came along.
 
I'm glad people don't sell to people they don't like; I had to pass the "are you nice enough to buy my horse" test which all previous viewers had failed to be able to buy Maddie. She's wonderful, we have a fantastic bond and brilliant fun together :D
 
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I had some people come to see a horse once who were talking between themselves about how wonderful other people at the stables would think they were to have a horse as good as the one I was selling in their yard. When they rang to tell me they wanted to buy her I told them she had already been sold. I wanted her to have owners who appreciated her for herself, not for how good she would make them look. Can you imagine how they would have treated her if they had fallen off in front of the other liveries?
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I used to take my mare to my riding stables so that we could learn together and she was a nightmare most of the time, but a total looker. A new girl started and kept asking our RI if she could ride Smokey in lessons, to which the RI agreed. She was clearly too much horse for the girl but one day my mum told me that the girl's stepdad had approached her after a lesson one day and said 'tell me how much you want for her, my girl has to have her, they just look an absolute picture together'. It didn't seem to matter that the girl was completely undoing all the hard work I'd put in to re-gait Smokey! My mother very politely told him that the horse was mine and he would need to speak to me directly, however the fact that I then put my foot down over the girl ever riding Smokey again gave off a pretty clear signal!
 
LOL - you only have to look at some of the posts on here to see that horse riders are a strange breed and quite frankly not everyone's cup of tea but, does that make them bad riders or horse owners?
 
No wouldnt sell. Tell them NO. No reason just no especially if good home was important. I would tell them I didnt think they were suitable if pushed. They may be trying to get the price reduced ie if they are aggressive etc ie finding fault. But probably not.
 
No, I didn't sell a horse to a woman who wanted her, because she biffed her on the nose for sniffing her and flapped her hands about and was just generally a bit "horse blind" - I thought she would make my horse unhappy and nervous.
 
When I bought the last one I was vetted! On the day he was delivered. But subsequently the 22 I looked at in past year they didnt care who I was....no what are you wanting to do or where will you keep the horse...yeah in my front room.

Most just wanted rid of as they had ruined or trying to palm off damaged goods unfortunately.
 
If it doesnt feel right to you then my advice would be not to sell. Theres been a cpl times when it hasnt felt right when ive been selling or rehoming a horse and further down the line things have gone drastically wrong. Always best to go with your gut. :)
 
I have never sold a horse on but have loaned and shared them. I have told plenty of people no. The most difficult one was when I wanted to find a sharer for my 17.3 HW horse. I had a really lovely girl come and try him, but she was morbidly obese (must have been 20 stone). I did let her get on him and the look in his eye was enough to make me tell her to get off. It was hard as she was so nice, but she lacked balance as well and he really struggled to walk. When she tried to trot she nearly fell off. I shouldn't have even let her get on really. But to be honest, I was just in shock that anyone that heavy would even think of riding a horse, and it took me a while to get the words together to tell her she was too heavy for him.
 
Posie said:
Ok so what would you do if you were selling a horse and you took a dislike to the person wanting to buy it? Would you sell the horse to them anyway or tell them you didn't want them to have the horse? Just musing here.. opinions please!
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Haven't read other answers but no I wouldn't sell.

Having said that I have never been desperate to sell through lack of money / livery / circumstances etc etc.

You can never guarantee what happens to your horse for its life once sold but I'd make bloomin sure the person I sold to I had good vibes about them so the first sale was to good people.
 
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