DIY and others!! sorry small rant

So let me get this straight, your horse doesn't like being out in his own and paces the fence so you arranged to bring in the other persons horse for YOUR benefit.

Then when she wants to bring her horse in early on her day off, you get the ump coz your horse has to come in early to fit into HER routine for once.

Seems a little bit one sided to me.

I'm on a DIY yard and if I'm asking people for favours coz i want a nite off or something has come up then my horse has to fit into other peoples routine. It's a one off, it's not like its everyday. Yes it's a pain but it's not the end of the world.

Would you of rather her of left your horse out to pace the fence and possible get injured??
 
I sympathise with the OP. It is annoying when favours are one sided but you do it for the benefit of the horses despite occasionally feeling fed up.

DIY'ers fall into 2 categories, those that put the horse first and those that put themselves first. Mixing type 1 and type 2, causes problems.
I thought the solution was to always have 2 horses so you could be independent of other people's turning out choices. I stupidly have a mare and gelding and moved to a yard where the sexes have separate fields.
Oh well.
 
Kelly1982 said:
So let me get this straight, your horse doesn't like being out in his own and paces the fence so you arranged to bring in the other persons horse for YOUR benefit.

Then when she wants to bring her horse in early on her day off, you get the ump coz your horse has to come in early to fit into HER routine for once.

Seems a little bit one sided to me.

I'm on a DIY yard and if I'm asking people for favours coz i want a nite off or something has come up then my horse has to fit into other peoples routine. It's a one off, it's not like its everyday. Yes it's a pain but it's not the end of the world.

Would you of rather her of left your horse out to pace the fence and possible get injured??
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Fair point cant argue there. My mistake i know i can be OCD so i probably should'nt have agreed to get involved with anyone else, lesson learnt :-)
 
I'm with kelly1982, you aren't really in a position to just do yours and ignore everyone else as plenty are suggesting as then yours ends up running the fence.
 
ester said:
I'm with kelly1982, you aren't really in a position to just do yours and ignore everyone else as plenty are suggesting as then yours ends up running the fence.
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I partly agree, but don't forget that the other livery is left free to work late without having to make arrangements to have her horse brought in. The arrangement is mutually benefical, that why, I think, Alchemy is feeling a bit miffed.
 
Shysmum said:
The ONLY way to do DIY is to not help other people, and stick to yourself. I have learnt from bitter experience that people will come to "expect and take the p***".
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Agree with this, having recently gone through the same! It might mean more work/cost to YO to turn out/bring in instead, but well worth it for less hassle and aggravation, at least that's how I am feeling :)
 
I am on DIY at a really nice yard. we help each other out when asked but nobody interferes. at the end of the day if you want things done your way then do it yourself but on the odd occasion when you genuinly need help. eg. emergency, car broke down, flooding etc you have to be flexable aslong as your horse's welfare is not risked then whats the big problem if the hay is in a net or on the floor? or if they have to be brought in a few hours early? it is only a one off afterall. all the liveries get on well at my yard, no problems doing each other favours when needed and there is always advice when asked.
 
We are very lucky! Friendly DIY yard where we all help each other out, so it benefits everyone, and of course the horses, as it would be unfair to turn one out alone at 6am, or leave one out alone at 6pm - so we talk and text, and help each other out :) It's hard on DIY when you only have one horse that gets stressed at being out alone!
 
when on diy i would happily do anyone s favour(a favour mind you )but given my mares stress and need of routine i would pay a trusted person on yard to do her when needed. i learnt long time ago never to rely on others :)
 
I can see both sides of this.

I can see your POV in that you would want him out as late as possible, and that you asked fellow livery if they could, so if it was a problem she should have said. However, that said, plans do change and she may have had no choice to bring your horse in earlier than planned.

But the other side of it is that someone else shouldnt have to change their plans to suit someone elses horse for one day. I too am on a DIY yard and used to always get dragged in to doing people's horses for favours. After incidents which have already been mentioned on here I now charge people if they want me to do their horse and they have to accept the times that I do it as its a favour really, and I work at awkward times some days so horses have to go out/come in early. If they don't like it move yards for assisted livery or do it themselves. They all respect this.

If someone does my horse im gratefull for the help so don't question the times. If I was really fussed I would do it my self. Sorry if I sound harsh at all, dont mean to :)
 
BethanT so you would happily pay if someone did you a favour but asked for payment, thats good, it makes it a binding agreement then instead of a favour
 
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