Do i go to visit or not?

Montyforever

Montyforever

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Over 2 years ago my loan pony was taken back, I was devestated to say the least as i had bonded with the pony and he was my everything.
After a while i contacted the owner again and asked her how he was gettting on ect and tried to move on with my new ponies.
I was reacently in hospital with enchephillitus and memory loss and it brought all the bad memories of loosing him back to me, so i asked the owner if i could visit and she has said yes but im wondering if its wise :o

I desperatly would love to see him but am wondering if leaving him again would upset me.
Hes quite a distance away so visiting regularly wouldnt be possible.

So help/advice/your stories greatly appreciated!!
 
Sometimes we need to look back to appreciate how far we've come...

Not sure how to put the link into this but have a look at this (currently on page 2) - think it might help.
 
If you're hurting already anyway, then why not have something positive come out of it? Saying goodbye's never easy, but maybe seeing how well and happy he is with new owners will make it easier in the long-term. Only you can know what to do. Hope you're all recovered too btw!
 
i think you should go. You are feeling bad now and if you dont go you'll never know if going would make you feel better and that in itself could make you feel worse. I had a loan pony when i was young and i never went to see him and when he died i felt even worse.
It is always better to regret something you have done rather than something you havent done.
 
I think it would be good for you to go.
When I bought my ID the previous owner was very sad to see her go but had lost her confidence on her. We kept in touch although K bought a new horse quite soon afterwards. About a year after the sale, K and her husband came to visit ID. We exchanged a few texts after that but haven't been in touch for a while. I assume that K no longer wonders about the horse and whether she should have persevered etc.
 
My daughter sees one of old 'loans' from time to time, she was initially very upset and used to come away in floods of tears but now just accepts that she is too big for him by a mile - but he was her 'first'.

We now have one of ours out on permanent semi retirement loan to a friend of ours. We go and see her about twice a year - mainly because my daughter feels that if we went too frequently it might make our friend feel that we think they don't/can't look after her properly (this pony has a life of luxury, is spoilt rotten and has them firmly under her hoof - in the nicest way). We were exceptionally lucky in finding this loan home, I didn't even know my friend was looking to loan - - our mare had competed since she was four and at 18 we decided it was time for her to have a more peaceful life - one which she has taken to very well

We have been lucky in maintaining contact with all those people we have either loaned or bought from.

I think you have to decide whether you can take any upset you may feel.
 
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