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To keep a long story short I'm currently at a yard which isn't particulary nice, they are very unsupportive of anyone doing well and really detest you going anywhere else but there for lessons (even though having lessons with them never helped me progress). They pretty much love putting you down. However, at this yard my horse is on part livery, he lives out so not much to do apart from feeding him myself.

Anyway, I have been offered a space at a friends yard who is very experienced and I am currently having lessons with and really getting somewhere for the first time ever. It is cheaper but its full DIY grazing however I think I can do it as I see my horse pretty much every day and she has offered to feed him for me if I can not make it down and the farrier is quite happy to catch and shoe the horse himself. I can also have transport to events with her. Plus theres only me and one other lady their on livery so sounds ideal.

Dilemma comes as I have to give a months notice at my current place, I know they are going to make my life at the current yard a living hell because I am leaving, if anyone has any tips of what I could say exactly to them as to why I am leaving I would be most grateful as I am only moving a few minutes away and will need to ride over their land still so will probably see them. They are very sensitive people and I don't particulary want to upset them but it seems almost impossible.

I'm probably being silly but would appreciate advice :)
 
Tell current yard you are moving due to finances and just leave it at that. Pay the notice and move that day. Expensive but avoids the atmosphere etc.
 
If you are that unhappy wouldn't it be worth paying them the month's livery and leaving asap? No need to give them any explanation as you wouldn't be there anyway and it's really none of their business. Just smile and keep it nice and simple. No hard feelings just time to move on.
 
What exactly is part livery on a grass kept horse? Mine lives out 24/7 during summer on DIY livery and I poo pick, top up water and feed dinner.

You could say your finances have changed? Always a good one if you're paying a fair whack every month for part livery.

Edited to add: I'd also pay notice and move that day.
 
exactly as above - i'd say finances, and that you had a change in circumstances and need to switch to cheaper grass livery. i'd do exactly as the other poster said if i could afford it., pay the notice and move. If i had to stick the month out i'd just grit my teeth, be polite and avoid getting into any discussion - i'd just get my head down and spend the minimum amount of time there needed.
 
Agree again - blame finances, even suggest you 'might be back if things change' which always keeps everyone happy and makes them think its nothing to do with them.. but i wouldn't hang around if you can afford to go... so much easier for a clean break rather than building up to it.

Many of us have been there where we have been leaving and had a difficult time for the last couple of weeks, but often the thought of it is worse than the reality, so it may not be too painful.

You will soon forget it once you are at new place as well!

The temptation is always to be honest and hope you can be constructive and help them with your feedback (or just feel like you want them to know what you REALLY think) - don't do it!! leave in friendly terms and be the better person if the YM is vile. The horsey world is a small one!

Good Luck
 
As others have said, you have to PAY the month's notice but you don't have to stay there. Give them the cash and move out. You'll make DIY work if it's best for you and your horse. Lots of us do it and work things out with favours back and fore - a friend is getting mine in for the chiropracter as we speak and I got hers in for the farrier last week.
 
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