Mylife
Well-Known Member
I need some perspective, or maybe I just need to type this out and the answer will come to me... It's a long one- here goes...
The yard my pony is on is right behind my house, I climb our garden fence to get in its that close, the downside is its shared with the yard owner and her one horse. Her horse has separation anxiety.
YO turns out in the morning, I bring in in the evening, and that's fine. However yo horse is a fine tb my mare is a hairy, chunky cob... Yard owner thinks I should be treating my mare almost exactly the same as she treats her tb, I now avoid seeing her at the yard as I'm fed up of being told how to do things!
Also I cannot do anything with my mare without bringing the yo horse along too, I'm 31 weeks pregnant and the honest truth is I am too damn lazy to catch them both, bring them in, sort my mare, take them both back to the field, lunge my mare, catch yard owners mare, bring them both back in, get my mare ready for turnout, then turn them both back out! I have a sharer but she isn't confident enough to catch them both either, so my mare is only getting ridden once a week, when the yard owner can ride out too!!
Also, the yard is being sold for housing, my family has been trying to buy it for as long as I can remember, as a family we have been Used this land for three generations... I can't even go over there without crying at the thought it's going to be a housing estate, despite all the offers we have put in over the years!
But o have my first child on the way, not having to travel to the yard would be so so beneficial!! I have another yard to go to (my old Yard actually) child friendly/dog friendly, as flexiable as I need it to be, my mare can live out all year around, have our own routine, no one on the yard cares how I take care of her as long as it's not abuse, reasonably good hacking (all long hacks, no 'round the block') can however ride in a choice of fields whenever I like, potential to be slightly bitchy, but everyone would remain civil if that makes sense,.. But I would have to drive there (only 10-15 mins)
They have a stable available for me now and I can't decide whether to cut and run from this place, or wait until baby is born before upheaving everything...
Any advice welcome! It feels good to get that out!!
The yard my pony is on is right behind my house, I climb our garden fence to get in its that close, the downside is its shared with the yard owner and her one horse. Her horse has separation anxiety.
YO turns out in the morning, I bring in in the evening, and that's fine. However yo horse is a fine tb my mare is a hairy, chunky cob... Yard owner thinks I should be treating my mare almost exactly the same as she treats her tb, I now avoid seeing her at the yard as I'm fed up of being told how to do things!
Also I cannot do anything with my mare without bringing the yo horse along too, I'm 31 weeks pregnant and the honest truth is I am too damn lazy to catch them both, bring them in, sort my mare, take them both back to the field, lunge my mare, catch yard owners mare, bring them both back in, get my mare ready for turnout, then turn them both back out! I have a sharer but she isn't confident enough to catch them both either, so my mare is only getting ridden once a week, when the yard owner can ride out too!!
Also, the yard is being sold for housing, my family has been trying to buy it for as long as I can remember, as a family we have been Used this land for three generations... I can't even go over there without crying at the thought it's going to be a housing estate, despite all the offers we have put in over the years!
But o have my first child on the way, not having to travel to the yard would be so so beneficial!! I have another yard to go to (my old Yard actually) child friendly/dog friendly, as flexiable as I need it to be, my mare can live out all year around, have our own routine, no one on the yard cares how I take care of her as long as it's not abuse, reasonably good hacking (all long hacks, no 'round the block') can however ride in a choice of fields whenever I like, potential to be slightly bitchy, but everyone would remain civil if that makes sense,.. But I would have to drive there (only 10-15 mins)
They have a stable available for me now and I can't decide whether to cut and run from this place, or wait until baby is born before upheaving everything...
Any advice welcome! It feels good to get that out!!