Do you bite your tongue with some posters?

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I try to be kind and if I feel I can't be, I don't reply at all, but there are a few owners on here I could cheerfully take to task, such as some with young horses and others who regularly ask advice from everyone about a problem, get loads of really useful advice then do the complete opposite!
Do you do what I do, shake my head and decide it's none of my business, or are you tempted to tell them what prats they are at times
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I prefer to see someone telling it how it is. I think it's great just how honest you are with people Tia. So many do bite their tongues when something needs to be said!
 
Maybe some people could do with a good "Offending"

It all depends on how they are able to handle it.

I would prefer someone gave it to me straight than not at all.
 
Aww thank you.
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I think it's only because I'm not on here as much as I used to be.....and I tend to be more interested in what's going on in real life as opposed to people's problems on HHO. I don't tend to have many problems in real life and sometimes I don't feel like getting involved with problems of others on here - I guess I am becoming selfish in my old age. I'll say my lot and if people don't take advice or disagree then I think "oh well".....that's a common phrase up in my part of the country.
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Lots of people don't like people like me though
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, not that it bothers me of course - I just say what I believe, hopefully using a bit of tact, however if they irritated me then sorry but tact goes right out of the window!
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hum.. i tell it how it is.. if you being a complete and utter muppet i'll tell you.. and if you don't agree with stuff i do and say.. fair enough thats oppinion.
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I don't know. I'd like to think if people thought I was doing somehing obviously wrong they'd point it out, be it in private or on the board.
Do you mean people who disagree with the advice or those who don't acknowledge it? Or the ones who keep posting about this and that having been told not to do it sort of thing?
 
I do bite my tongue.

I think though there are some long standing members on here who are able to speak their mind.

I think though as I'm still quite new, that people would be more inclined to "hound me outa town" if I did speak too bluntly.

I do however think that tact is the key as Tia said, but if someone then chooses to not take the hint the gloves can come off!!
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I think I am notoriously blunt.

I do, however, only comment when I am sure of my ground. I will answer anything horse/tack/riding related, anything regarding stolen horses or similar.

I am more cautious on soapbox and am aware that my opinions can vary quite wildly from those held by others.

If I really am at odds with a poster, I will only respond if I feel that real harm may be done by not pointing out potential problems or pitfalls, in other cases I have become very good at simply not reading them (took me a while to learn to do this though)
 
I suppose I have learnt that we are all different and we all have different views. Sometimes I get passionate about something I believe is right but also know how easy it is to get it "wrong". What is right on a monday can be so wrong on a Tuesday "so to speak" so tend to let it lie. If I am given advice I don't agree with I say a polite thank you and ignore it! Only human after all!!! xxxxxxxxxxxx
 
It's a difficult one. There are certain members on here that I would happily debate a topic with as they know their stuff and I will readily listen to their advice as well. I used to be a lot more involved in posts particularly in the veterinary forum but I am concious now of how b*tchy it has become on here and I can no longer be bothered with having to defend myself on certain topics. I don't get involved with the 'bandwagon' posts where people set off on a rant about someone's horse/riding and loads of other people agree (whether they really agree or know what they are talking about or not). Rather than bite my tongue I am just more selective about what I reply to.
 
I do tend to bite my tongue. Unless I feel particularly passionately about an issue. I think this is mainly because I am newish and I don't feel that confident about speaking my mind on here at present.
Wherever you have a collection of people you will have differing views and also differing ways of expressing those views. It is quite interesting to observe.
When it comes to giving advice: I agree it is a little annoying to invest effort in trying to help someone only for them to ignore it, but I would just think oh well, they asked for my opinion, I gave it to them and it's their choice (and possibly their loss) if they choose to differ. That's just people I guess. I see this every day at the livery yard with certain individuals!!
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Certainly the strength of this forum is that in addition to the wealth of indisputable knowledge, there are so many different approaches and so many different viewpoints. HH -- you are always tactful and kind (wonderful traits in an online community) and Tia, your honesty is often a needed breath of fresh air too.
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"biting your tongue" is such a gift. It is something that you have to practice and I am only a novice. However, I promise to try and listen and if I don't like what I am hearing then I must try to be more understanding, it's a heavy weight to carry when you suffer no fools and sometimes its easier to agree.
 
QR - I reckon far too many people on here say things just to 'look nice' or 'kiss arse' so to speak...i do try and say things like they are but are times when i do bite my tongue instead of facing a hounding lol...

Its the gallery which really gets me - right im gonna get shot down here, prepare myself lol - but some people do post pictures which are how shall i put it 'not that great' and they could do with some useful advice...but instead people choose to post comments like 'looking great' etc, hmm many of these i tend to differ with..sorry just my opinion, thats if you understand what im trying to say lol...
 
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Yep im the same, i try to go with the idea that if i cant say anything nice then dont say anything at all. But just sometimes that is so so hard!
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I try to be tactful...but it's not in my nature..but I do genuinely try to help...
My last job in an equine college (no specifics there) has made me very bossy!
The other factor is that you shouldn't worry about things you can't control...and people's opinions fall into that category.
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All the time. In fact I do wonder sometimes how some people on here have not killed their horses, and horses are reasonably hard to break.

I don't open a lot of posts as I know I will have to bite my tongue.
 
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