Do you ever feel alone?

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Because I do. I feel sick when I think of school, but know how important it is. I often cry about school, because I hate it - and do you know why? People there don't even know what 'Eventing' is
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I appreciate the fact that my parents would rather I go to state school, them with their lefty consciences, but sometimes I wish I could go to school with my Pony Club friends. Thing is, I ride at least 12 hrs a week, more if I'm competing, and I love it. I live and breathe it. So when my friend ask me to find a weekend where I'm not competing so I can go and shop in Primark with them, I make up excuses, because, well I'd rather be riding...

I'm not complaining, but just wanted to share feelings with people who actually understand, and have a huge commitment to the same sport as me. I love riding, and could ride all day, but often my friends get Narky with me because I rave on about riding, and ODEs, and ponies all the time, rather than make-up, and Gucci. Sometimes people call me spoilt too..

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I’m a lot older then you but I was exactly the same at school (not Eventing but with my pony), I was never in to the whole fashion/ make-up thing, still not now. None of my friends were horsey.
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I know it is difficult but it sounds like you have good friends outside of school, so that's good and of course you have HHO.
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So you will just have to get all your horsey chat and gossip when you aren’t at school I’m afraid.
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School is such a small part of your life, you would have left before you know it anyway!
 
Im the same - at work all day I cant talk about horses - nobody would know what Im talking about and probably wouldnt care either. So I just make the most of it outside work and gossip about horses to my horsey friends as much as I can in the evenings and weekends
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I am very imilar to you, but lickily I have a couple of good friends at my school who also event. We are 'aggies' 'sloanes' 'rich' 'spoilt' 'toffs' and every other name under the sun related. Don't worry about it, it is just because they are jelous (most of the time anyway). I was walking through town just the other day and passed someone in the year below and they shouled 'dirty aggie' and then spat. It is often two very different worlds.
 
Thanks guys.
I really want to be a vet, too, so I have to make the grades, which is a real poo. I have some science GCSEs coming up (modules) so am revising half an hour a day. Argh.
I also told my friend from school I was out today, doing horse things, which was a lie (I was at home went on a hack early morning, and then poo-picked with our quad all day) and now I feeol really bad, but I know I would've felt worse had it been a horsey friend.

I'm such a cow, but I guess I can live with that, lol.
 
You aren't alone...I once went into 6th form wearing a "joules" top and people asked my why I was wearing my name on a top... (even though spelling isn't the same...!)

They didn't have a clue!

Horses are much better friends, Im having a cr@p evening realising this but horses will always be better friends
 
I have all my GCSEs in the next couple of months too. I have 2 horses to ride and all that stuff so know your problems. It is tricky but you can find a happy medium - ontop of that I juggle partying and a boyfriend so it can be done.... but it is VERY tiring
 
I know how you feel a bit. When I was at school there were always the people that thought I was just the mad horsey one! I was always talking about horses, drawing horses ect.

I was lucky enough though to have one or two close friends who I got into riding! Im sure in the whole of your year there must be someone who likes horses! Perhaps bring them home and show them your horse and you never know you could get a new friend.

Now im older I like having my horsey friends and my non-horsey friends. I went to Hartpury college to do my degree and nearly all the girls there are horsey and some of them are my bestest friends! My non-horsey friends still ask after my horse ect but I can see their eyes glaze over after 30 seconds and they dont often understand why I have to leave early to look after my horse ect. On the other hand its sometimes nice to be with non-horsey people and be the going out me or the business me
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My non-horsey friends still ask after my horse ect but I can see their eyes glaze over after 30 seconds

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This is what happens all the time for me, and it's really annoying!
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I know they try, but it does make me laugh to myself sometimes!

I did have one girl over, once, Bethan, and she's fairly nice and straightforward, and she does showing, with a big shire, and sometimes goes to the big shows, but I think she finds me annoying, when I tell her how I do at competitions etc. I fe\ar that sometimes I gloat.

Oh dear, now it all comes out. Lets hope no one from my school's online...
 
Im in the same situation.. . .

I am one of a big group of girls at school and one of my very close friends rides and we have lovely chats etc. . . .but my best mate will sometime walk away if i ever talk about horses etc. . . .so know i dont talk about it much at school. . . and i then dont talk about it at home as family not horsey. . .

so i find myself ringing up a very good friend sometimes and just venting everything to her. . .she doesnt mind and it means i dont feel so alone and that i know there is someone there. . .

I Have all my GCSE's coming up in the next couple of months and i also have a horse to get competition fit and county rugby to train for. . . so it will be hard. .

But i think having a horse enables you to have a bit of you time which i think you really do need. . . .I see my friends at school and on fri/sat evening otherwise i want to be on my own. . .or with flint. . .
 
I'm the same, my best friends are the horsey ones, mostly at different schools, I hardly see my school mates out of school but tbh I wouldn't have it any other way. I'd rather be out eventing or riding than shopping anyday!
 
I live and breathe animals (and now doing veterinary!). Gradually I found people who also did, but I did the non horsey things too, at your age, make time for your friends (if they are asking you to make time, and you aren't, why should they be interested in what your doing?)
It's good to talk about other things and you need to expand your conversation past riding
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(although if you get with another rider ..welll...our maths teacher knew a lot more about horses by the end of the year!)
 
Before my last one day event I was at uni the day before and one of my friends asked if i was going 'plodding' or racing!!!!!

Most of my school friends didnt have horses and non of my course (obv the equestrian club people do
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) uni friends know anything about horses and I do sometimes wonder what they do with all there spare time!!!! I know when I didnt go home and see my horse at weekends last year I was bored silly!
 
Yea, people ask me if I have a race at the weekend, and I eventually give up explaining and say 'Yep'

I know I should appreciate my school mates, and sometimes I do (if they invite me to a birthday bash or something, I feel obliged to) but They're not really very nice to e often, and do things like that to

A. get drunk (at 13/14. Puh-leez)
B. get presents (they tell me so)

and sometimes I think
'Why shoudl I like tthem, if I've got other bezzies elsewhere?'

I'm horrible. Bleurgh.
 
i hate school because i hate un physical work and i have friend who event! school is just a DREADFUL place and i am sorry to all the African children who want to go to school but it is awful. i hate every moment of it and cry at least weekly because of having to go...yes i am still 5 at heart! but i have no option my parents will practically dis own me if i leave without an A level and they drive me to events so i cant have that! and because horses rule my world i do ABSOLUTELY no work at home so do crap at school. so ummm i dont see the point of me going to school but hey ho...thank you to your post for letting me relieve myself of some anger...feel free to ignore this...hummmm
 
I had a mix of horsy and non horsy friends at school, and TBH I found it more stressful trying to keep everyone happy, as the horsy conversations got v technical and the non horsy friends got bored/pissed off.

I was happier in junior school, where my friends at school were all non horsy, I got my horsy fix at the yard at weekends.

At uni I was a total loner, as had horse on DIY livery, and missed a LOT (95%) of the socializing because I had to head for home and feed neddies. I didn't even have HHO then to talk to, and livery yard was v small and private. I must have been a total weirdo.

You obviously have family support, and some friends at PC (??), so not all bad.

Fiona
 
Lots of sense on here tbh! Everyone (well ok some people) have a hobby/sport they love and try to share it, just a shame ridings so complicated, people never relli get it! But if they try, that shows they're interested and to be fair, we horse bores CAN go on (and on and on and on...)There are lots of fascinating things to talk about as well as horses...
Myself, I had loads of utterly unhorsey friends and whilst at school/6th form i did miss lots of shopping trips etc they didn't mind becuase they were my friends and knew it mattered to me...and I'd always make the effort to go when I could (ie evenings!) Now I'm at uni they get it even less but I actually love having a non horsey/normal side to me (as exhibited in my uni wardrobe, not a shaving in sight) but I still event etc at weekends etc and its lovely - ok, I'm always knackered from work, horses, competing, partying but I wouldn't have it any other way!
 
I know how you feel!!

I am heading to uni, this sept. hopefully, and i know that there is at least one person there who "does" horses
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BUT he is a showjumper
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eugh!
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and he leaves uni on a thurs, flies to sunshine tour, and competes and then comes home on the sunday night
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Thats how i like it
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lol

At school, i socialise with my friends but it does get kinda limited - they are out clubbing every sat night, and im sorry, when i come home from an event
A) I stink
B) I'm tired
C) All i want is a chinese and to watch britains got talent!
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plus the fact that my friends want me to take them ice skating (only one that can drive in my group
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) on sundays, but past few sundays ive had B test exam, lessons etc.

Try explaining to your friends that you cant go out as you have a horsey exam in the morning!
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luckily my friends have now got to a stage when they accept it - since they have had to - only took them 7 years lol!

There was one teacher at school who called me "horse-girl"
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great, thanks sir, just what nickname i needed
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My friends dont understand why i go swimming before school - i tell them i dont have enough time after but they dont understand
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so chin up, only 3/4 more years to go
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Ha ha - I think you'll find a lot of people are the same as you, whatever their age.

My Eventing horsey is injured so I've scrapped all my competition plans for the season.

In reality I should now have loads of spare time to visit all my non-horsey friends and family.

But, somehow I can't bring myself to organise any of that..... because I'd rather be down at the field weeding, painting jumps and cleaning tack!!!

All my colleagues at work ask me whether I'm doing any gymkhanas?

Like you with your 'races' I've given up saying that I'm about 25yrs too old for gymkhanas!
 
Tell me about it. I have one horsey friend. but her horses are more of a side order to her athletics now so we never talk about them at shool anymore. My non horsey friends pretend to care and nod and agree when i talk about how amazing my horse is. There is one guy who is into horses but i feel silly talking to him about them cos hes my best friend, and people say im flirting with him, which im not! Drives me CRAZY!
You are not alone in this matter trust me (:
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I really disliked school too, I acctually went hunting the morning of one of my A Level exams. I told Dad I had to go, or I would kill someone sitting in the common room waiting. I got called allsorts for having a pony, but she kept me sane.

I have got non horsey friends who do take an interest, but I do have to take an interest in what they do too. I try not to spend hours on the yard one day a week and spend the time with them instead - one day off each week doesn't kill the ponies.

Thankfully my OH is horsey and knows just how much they mean to me, which makes life easier.
 
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