Do you ever feel guilty how much time you spend with horsey instead of OH?

Op if one of his main complaints is stuff not getting done around the house, then could you afford a cleaner for a few hours a week?

In answer to your question, not really, I had a horse when I met him so he knows the score, however competition weekends I sometimes do as will often have to work the sat, then after work clean bath cob then up at crack of dawn and out all day Sunday! Don't do too many of those though as too tiring and would feel guilty if too often! :-)
 
I have a handy set up of a field just round the corner and it really helps with this. My OH quite likes to come down and feed or just check in the evening and if I an riding he will hold horse while I get on then potter off home, if I was on livery I think it would be really different and it is nice for him to be as involved as he wants. He also gets plenty of time to catch up on computer games etc and have man time! Our house can get in a state but we accept that is our equal responsibility. The only thing is I don't like him getting home from work and us not eating together, so that can be a pain and he will always wait for me unless I'm going to be all night in which case he'll have yet another frozen pizza, then I feel bad!
 
If you can't beat them, join them!

This is my husbands philosophy! I am very lucky S my yard is very social and most nights, in addition to all us horsey gals, there is usually the odd boyfriend/OH/husband there too. They all se to realise that in order to see their respective women, the yard is the place to be and consequently they have all chummed up and spend many a happy evening sat on the grass bankings with a bottle of beer! We also bring dogs up to the yard so they are walked I'm the field and sometimes we have 'dog club' where we put them
In the school and they all tear around like mad things! The blokes love this as it saves then having to dig walk and they also see their partners!

It is difficult for non-horsey folk to understand that horses are a lifestyle choice- not a hobby you can take up and put down when you feel like it.

If I were you I would definitely encourage him to come with you... Give him some jobs do he feels useful (could he walk the dog with you as you hack out?)
 
No I don't but my ex is now installed with a nice young lady who has no hobbies, is completely enthralled by him and does all his ironing and has his dinner on the table when he gets home :D
 
Nope! I'm lucky in that he has his own hobbies and we don't have children to consider. We don't eat dinner together as we get home at different times. My Mum thinks its a ridiculous set up but it works very well for us!
 
nope i don't feel guilty about OH but i do fee a bit guilty about the kids, they have many a late night (get home about 7.30/8pm) and i feel mean about that but i know they have fun at the yard. my OH is hands on with the horses which does help and it's the one place we don't argue. in all the time we've been together we've never once argued about horses! :D
 
Nope!! I had horses long before him and he knows his place :D

In any case, he dives with friends and fishes with his son.. Doesn't care much for horses and I don't care for his things..
 
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