Do you hide the cost of keeping your horse from your partner or family?

[Mare Stare]

Following on from the thread about horse costs, do you hide how much money you actually spend on your horse from your significant other?

I'm as guilty as hell!

I tend to avoid talking about money as much as possible or reduce the amount I have spent by at least 25%. Vet bills get stuffed in the drawer before he sees them and paid in secret. Feed and wormers are bought when he is not with me... lol! the list is endless!

What he doesn't know won't hurt him!!

 

[PaddyMonty]

OH is also horsey so no point. We just accept that all spare (and some of the not spare) money will be spent on the horses.

 

[Keimanp]

I don't hide the costs, I'm not vocal about them though there is no need. The horses are paid for out of my disposable income after all the bills are paid, it is one of my hobbies and what I enjoy doing.

 

[Janah]

Never. We are a partnership.

 

[flying solo]

I love my partner so muchbi don't tell him! He would have a heart attack if he knew I spend roughly £600 a month on two good do-ers who live out! But to be honest he goes to the football every weekend and spends about £200 by the time he gets taxi's, trains, his actual ticket to the game, bets at the bookies, drinks and food all day so we're probably about even. We don't lie about our spending we both just don't mention it ;-)

 

[Mare Stare]

I love my partner so muchbi don't tell him! He would have a heart attack if he knew I spend roughly £600 a month on two good do-ers who live out! But to be honest he goes to the football every weekend and spends about £200 by the time he gets taxi's, trains, his actual ticket to the game, bets at the bookies, drinks and food all day so we're probably about even. We don't lie about our spending we both just don't mention it ;-)

Exactly. My hubby goes to the pub, goes out with his mates, spends money on his car etc. I don't ask him how much he spends.

 

[traceyann]

Oh yes need to know basis he has no need to know

 

[millitiger]

I don't hide it but it doesn't come up tbh as I pay for it all myself.

I think it would only matter if you aren't pulling your weight with your share of normal bills, holidays etc and the other person isn't aware what you spend on the horses.

 

[giddyupalfie]

No I don't, but sometimes I wish I did!

 

[shadowboy]

Hmm I don't tell about the rugs etc but he knows the livery costs as he wants one himself!

 

[Super_Kat]

Never. I love him dearly and would never hide anything. If I've ever been short he's always straight in there to help me out whether it's for the horses or my general living (plus I pay all accomadation costs so he has no excuse to moan at me anyway )

 

[Fun Foals]

No, as he orders the hay/straw for me, he know the farmer (i pay), plus he loves the horses as much as i do. Also he works at a stud as a stallion handler, so knows costs and pretty handy at helping anytime.

 

[Black_Horse_White]

My OH knows how much I earn and most of it goes on my horse. He moans occasionally but I just nod and agree

 

[Archangel]

No, because I work very hard in a responsible and often stressful job
Also his one horse costs more than my 3
I do have an elderly pony that costs the earth, but he pre dates the OH, in fact he nearly pre dates the Ark, so anyone questioning what he costs me is told to Foxtrot Oscar

 

[stencilface]

Nope, its all my money I spend on it, so nothing to do with him really - not that I am extravagant. But then my OH is into mountain bikes, so much so he bought a bike on ebay in Edinburgh, so on sat night we drove up there so he could spend £1k on a bike

I don't mind - its his money, he also goes on a biking holiday every year - I don't go on a horsey one, although this year I am tempted!

 

[debsg]

I work to pay for mine, but OH doesn't know exactly how much I earn or how much they cost me
I have two now but did have four. OH thought I was looking after two horses belonging to a friend, I never let on that they were actually mine! (I know, that's awful, but they were taken on in an emergency and later gifted to me. OH would've gone ape***** if he'd known) Anyway, I later found lovely forever homes for them, all's well that ends well

 

[mrsk29]

Ive no need, My hubby doesn't care what I spend, he says as long as I'm happy, he's not horsey at all but he gets very protective of him when it comes to it Lol

 

[HarlequinSeren]

Nope, OH knows all the costs he knows the farmer I buy haylage from and fetches my bales for me, he goes on the runs to pick up bags of feed (at the same time as getting feed for his chickens and pigs I might add ), and he knows all vets bills etc (took my money down to pay the last one for me this weekend in fact!)
He knows it all, but he loves my boy as much as I do so I'm sure he thinks he's worth it

 

[FionaM12]

My money situation is mine alone these days, so the costs are my business.

However, I keep the fact I even own a horse from my entire family except my daughter! My mother and sister would worry (because of my past health) and disapprove as I'm on a low income. My brother probably wouldn't but he might forget it's a secret and tell our mum. She's 83 and I've given her enough to worry about in my life already.

My family think horse-owning's fine when you're a teenager but quite inappropriate for a woman of my advanced years!

They think I'm old enough to know better!! Haha!

 

[Kat]

We share the horse so he knows what she costs! He's as soft as anything with her, wouldn't deny her a thing

 

[Fairytale]

I hide the cost from myself!!!! Daren't even begin to keep a record of how much my Boys cost me

F

 

[skint1]

I did hide the costs but then I got into some debt (not really because of the horses but obviously that didn't help) which I had to tell my partner about, so he kindly (but reluctantly) offered to lend me the money to pay the debt and so it is only right that he has a say in my finances. He worked through my finances to tell me how much I should pay him each month to service the debt and as part of that he now knows how much the horses cost. He was horrified at the farrier bill, he didn't realise horses had the farrier so frequently.

Luckily, my daughter now pays everything for her horse Basil so my accounts look better. I pay for the mare Bella but she is barefoot, living out as much as possible, min insurance, min feed, very cheap (all in about £100 pcm) but this isn't an easy thing to justify to someone who has paid your debts, has no interest in horses and who is generally horrified by unnecessary expenditure. I am trying to find her a suitable home asap.

 

[Bertolie]

No I dont tell my OH what my horse costs me but he's not stupid when it comes to livery, cost of hay and farrier etc. so would have a pretty good idea. He doesn't know that I help my daughter to pay for hers (she pays his livery and farrier and I pay for anything else) and if I buy rugs etc then they are always at least half price

 

[Moggy in Manolos]

No I do not hide the true cost of keeping my neds, past and present from family or OH

 

[Brandy]

I don;t hide the costs from him but I don't advertise them either!! I pay for the horses myself, out of my money, after the mortgage, council tax all bills etc have been paid, and I contribute more to the household bills than he does (as I earn more) so i don;t see it as an issue.

I am sure he would be shocked though. He knows how much the livery is, how much per bag feed is etc but I doubt he realises ow much they eat and I no for sure he hasn;t added it all up!

 

[OldNag]

Oh yes need to know basis he has no need to know

I agree!

 

[TALKINGCLOCK]

I hide the cost from myself!!!! Daren't even begin to keep a record of how much my Boys cost me

F

Agree entirely. It is important to operate in a state of complete delusion. Don't ever add it up either, especially over any length of time, way too depressing! You didn't want that second house anyway, or those holidays, or that flash car. PAH to them!

 

[Shadow-01]

Well I don't shout about how much it costs, but OH knows that it's not cheap!

He sees me buying things like new rugs, tack etc (none of which I REALLY need!) but just says it's my money so spend it on what I like, although he can't see the attraction!

As long as we pay all the bills etc and save a bit, what is left is ours to enjoy. His motor bike hobby isn't cheap either, but I don't interfere with that (in fact, I quite like that I'd have a good come back if he ever did moan about horse costs!)

The only time he does moan is when he's forced to accompany me to the yard! A very rare occurance!!

 

[TALKINGCLOCK]

Well I don't shout about how much it costs, but OH knows that it's not cheap!

He sees me buying things like new rugs, tack etc (none of which I REALLY need!) but just says it's my money so spend it on what I like, although he can't see the attraction!

As long as we pay all the bills etc and save a bit, what is left is ours to enjoy. His motor bike hobby isn't cheap either, but I don't interfere with that (in fact, I quite like that I'd have a good come back if he ever did moan about horse costs!)

The only time he does moan is when he's forced to accompany me to the yard! A very rare occurance!!

Motor bikes are merely "steel horses" anyway so that works well. I have a very supportive fiancee so long as she does not have to get involved. In fairness though that is nothing to do with cost but is because she is very petite and my mare is a big bully and something of a daddy's girl.

 

[C&C]

Dont hide anything from my OH. We both have expensive hobbies....whatever he wants for his hobby he gets and vice versa. If its a big purchase then we'l discuss it and just make sure we can afford it