Do you see anything wrong with this?

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When I was talking to riding school owner about having lessons on my horse. She said why dont you get someone on him for you, I said no as I dont like other people on my horse. She asked why and I just said I dont see the point for other people to school him for me, As at the end of the day he goes how I like and having another rider on him will just ruin things,

I do understand that some riders will benefit him, but I dont think Im a good rider, I can do what I need and I dont see the people who she suggested as beneficial to either parties. Also I havent hit a rut yet so dont need the help of someone on my horse, And I would rather have lessons to overcome the problem than someone else on him.

She took the funnies with that and said why dont you like others getting on you horse, I said I dont know I just dont, It may be jealousy I dont know but I dont like it, Does anyone see anything wrong with this?

She just couldnt see my point of view. And it made me feel like I was an idiot being fussy. Thoughts please xxx
 
Well for one, what is the point in getting someone else to havel lessons on your horse? Fair enough if he had a problem or you were scared of him, which you are not, you have a lovely partnership with Ben, so why should anyone else ride him?

There are certain people I am happy to let ride my horses anytime, a couple of people I will let ride now and again if Im there, but I wont let just anyone on them, I can count on my hand the number of people 'allowed' to ride them at all.
 
I don't have any problems with competent riders riding any of my horses. Useless riders can only go on some of my older horses though....no way would I let them ride my well trained young ones.

I personally never see the point in putting a super-duper rider on a horse where the owner is perfectly happy with its going. I can't see that it achieves anything whatsoever.

This is one of the reasons I am so picky about which horses I will take for training - there is no point in me training the horse way beyond the capabilities of the rider.
 
Nothing wrong with it at all - he is your horse, and who rides him is up to you. Personally I let pretty much anyone who I rate as a rider on my horses, always have. I like my trainer jumping up if I am having a prob with something or if we are getting in a rut, but it is for no more than 5 mins and I am legged straight back up and made to get on with it!
 
I think some times there is a benefit to both horse and rider if a more established person gets on the said horse and helps to educate him and show the rider what exercises to do etc, sometimes it's useful for a rider to have that visual, but this should be part of your lesson not instead of it.

However, if you're not having any problems and want a lesson to further your own progression then tell her to bog off!

Although do take a step back and try and see why she would have suggested some one else gets on your horse, was she, in your opinion being sincere or wanting some one to show off on you horse?
 
It depends what you are trying to acheive - it is very hard to teach a rider and a horse the same thing at the same time - I have often put clients on a school horse so they can get the feel and technique of something, say, jumping a drop fence, or flying changes, then have someone who knows what they are doing take the horse over the fence (etc) so they get a good feel, the correct technique etc. Then once both parties have got the basics, you can pair them back up again. It doesn't work for everyone, but it works very well for some. Ultimately tho, you need to be happy, so if you want to do this via lessons, I don't know why the owners has a problem.
 
That is my point, I cant see it at all, I dont rate myself as a pro But he does as I ask and works nicely for me. Im not scared or anything so cant see why they would suggest this, I let my friend ride him once but I am enjoying doing all the work so would rather people not get on him.x
 
Also, it could be a $$$ thing - have an instructor ride your horse, plus you having lessons on a school horse instead of your own could add up to more $$$ for them?
 
Its great having professionals your horse every now and again, but I know exactly what you mean, as a particularly awkward horse of mine went to a professional for about a month for some schooling, and when she came back she was worse than ever for me to ride. She might have been better schooled/mannered/whatever but at the end of the day, it was my horse, and as she wouldnt go well for me it was a a bit rubbish really. So stick to your guns!
 
I do agree it can be beneficial, he is reasonably well schooled, I think she wanted someone to get on him to show off, I dont know to be honest.We arent planning on doing grand prix dressage or anything. Just local shows and things. She just made me feel a bit silly as I would like to do it on him, I just dont like the way the people she was implying to ride my horse ride. I just feel like im being a bit too fussy but I asked for me to have lessons on him not someone else school him.
 
Remember he's your horse and you be as fussy as you like, if you don't like the way the suggested rider rides then just do as you've done, and say no.

If the instructor made you feel that awkward, I would be thinking about changing instructors!
 
Hey Vicky, I'm with you on this one, although I am fairly happy to let most competent riders have a go on one of mine - she's picky enough about riders herself! IMO it is beneficial if someone is nervous about some aspect of a horses behaviour, but in your case I can't see it would serve a purpose - keep him for yourself
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Ooh hey havent spoke in ages how are you? I would let competent riders on him but the people around here are nervy, Im making myself sound really big headed but Im not honestly. And I wouldnt see any point of putting him through that when I ride him fine as it is anyway.xx
 
Just about everybody hops on mine as they need to get used to carrying all sorts of riders in the show ring. However, if that wasn't the case, then I probably wouldn't particularly encourage people to ride them unless I was having a problem (or, as is the current situation, I live 160 mile round trip from the yard).
 
while I could not ride, my friend had a lesson on mine and to be hoest i found it really good, nice to see him ridden and see what his problems are and what makes me ride the way I do

Might be worth doing once, good to see them move under saddle from a different view.
 
See I understand If I lived that far from the yard but I am perfectly able to be able to get to the yard everyday, Also I am not going to be doing any shows like you do, I know I was going to do search for a star but thats out the window I will only do riding club shows and hunter trials. But I would happily let someone get on and show me how something is done, but I am not having any issues with anything so I dont see why she suggested this.
 
I am funny about people riding my horse... the only other rider who gets on him is my instructor so she can see how he is coming on or can tell what I mean if I say he is doing something I think is odd. She will get on him at the start of the lesson every 6 weeks or so....I also ask her to ride him if I am away for any length of time, as she can see where he has progressed and she knows what we are working on.....
 
I don't understand what she's getting at one bit! If you've, out loud, wondered about whether to have lessons yourself on your horse why is she even suggesting someone else having lessons on your horse? Sounds bizzare unless I've read it wrong! I'm assuming that you wanted lessons on your horse to identify what to work on next and to further your partnership together. The issue of whether you mind someone riding your horse or not shouldn't have even come up.
 
Know where you are coming from - I'm very possessive about my horses and it can be difficult watching someone else ride (tho' mostly I watch the horse rather than the rider!).

However I do feel it is useful to get someone else on board every now and then. If nothing else I think it benefits their balance & way of going to have to cope with a different rider - when the same person rides the same horse for years on end you can both get into bad habits. But I might be completely wrong about this !
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We was talking about lessons with me on ben, And she said how about getting someone else on him to school him for me but I was saying well I dont see the point, And she said I think we need to understand why you think this way?? Does it matter hes my horse.
 
No, you should just do what you want with him and it is no business of hers whether you want only you to ride him or not. I'm just surprised she even brought it up when you were asking about lessons for yourself. Don't know why she needs to understand anything.
 
Thats what I thought, Didnt see the need for her to say it at all. I dont think I need to justify why I dont want other people to ride my horse. That is it end of, fair enough If I asked for someone to but I havent so No need for it to be said.

I was just annoyed as It made me look a fool as I dont want other people riding my horse. I think it stems from the fact that my old mare was of the riding school and I hated seeing half the riders on her as they didnt have a care in the world as its not their horse. She was by no means an easy horse though as most riding school horses are good, she wasnt lol bless her. x
 
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