Do you tell your partner the truth?

FfionWinnie said:
I don't have anyone to lie to but wouldn't even if I did.

Anyway we only have a few.


Each

/of each colour

/at home

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See, that's my method. If they look the same it doesn't really count ;)
 
He doesn't ask, but works in the horse industry anyway, so has a pretty good idea.
I earn my own money, he would never ask me to justify how I spend it and that works the same in reverse.
 
I work full time, I Pay my own way including ALL my own horsey gear. I don't ask what he spends on his razors and golf gear and he doesn't ask about my horsey gear. The only winge he had was about saddles, I go though a few, I now just don't mention them, oh yeah I didn't mention the horsebox either. When it comes time health and vets he insists that all our boys he the very best treatment and even once paid a nasty vet bill out the joint account. Somehow it also manages to buy me horse gear as presents, he always manages to find excellent stuff, really cheap!! He als insists I wear proper safety gear and brought me my first BP.
 
MY OH knows exactly how much I spend because I'm always moaning I have no money because of it! I'm very lucky as well in that I even managed to convince him to buy half of the landrover and half of a new dressage saddle (used the excuse it would help with him learning to ride :D). He can't complain anyway, he spends a good amount on shooting!

My parents on the other hand I do keep in the dark a bit about how much I spend on the horse as I know they would moan a bit... They didn't know I'd bought a landrover and trailer for about 18months... Or that I had two saddles...
 
Mine knows how much they cost & appreciates it is my own money so will spend how I wish! He does the same! We can afford to live and put food on the table for ourselves so we are good! He also bought my a silver set of freejumps for my bday. He knows the score! Haha
 
Yes, OH knows exactly what it all costs - another joint account here! Any big purchases are discussed but otherwise he doesn't ask/isn't bothered.

The really important thing is, is that he knows full well where he is in the pecking order of my affections :D :D :D

I do 100% fully support his hobbies and passions, too - two way street. Mine just happens to be more costly, generally... but motorbikes and archery gear can be just as eye-wateringly expensive! :O
 
Mine doesn't ask, so he doesn't know. Occasionally he'll raise his eyebrows if something gets mentioned.

He's aware I'm having a school done, and that it not cheap, but its my money and as long as I don't need a sub, then its fine by him.

Although, many years ago he asked why there was an extra horse in the field. I pointed out that it was the foal, that was now 3yrs old!! :)
 
This is not just an issue in the horse world, I have been a racing cyclist for 28 years, and have 14 bikes. I used to buy bikes that were roughly the same colour, and my wife never really clocked when they were 'upgraded', then when my bike rack in the garage was full I broke the ones I used less down for parts, to give me space for some more.

I did take some time building up to tell her I had bought a pair of pedals that cost £1300.

Its impossible to have too many bikes, the correct number to own is n-1, where n is the number of bikes you own before you face divorce. (always stay one bike below the magic number of n!)

The rule is as long as I don't owe her money and we can do what we want as a family, she is not overly concerned at what I spend my cash on. Although she is happier now as a significant proportion has been directed away from bikes to my daughters pony and its upkeep!
 
I've got two warmbloods, now on part livery. Both have regular bodywork, lessons, and are registered with BD. One is semi retired. I have regular lessons, compete, and do clinics. I also run a lorry.

Part of my arrangement for moving off DIY was that I'd move to drier land, with more winter turnout, and safer hacking, and that I'd be less stressed with both on good part livery, and have more time for husband.

Husband is helping with part livery costs, on the understanding, we do a proper annual and monthly budget, and keep a full record of all of my expenditure, to better understand where I spend money, and to make sure what I spend is affordable and working for what I want to achieve with it.

It has been interesting, and a good discipline.

I am managing to make my money go further and plan better, and still do the things I want.
 
Mine knows, he doesn't care really as it isn't his money.

He adores my mare, he comes and helps me with her, catches her in for me etc. (Never been near a horse in his life til he met me) and she adores him.

BUT we do have that line of, yes it is MY hobby so MY money goes onto it. I can have as many horses as I want providing I can afford them and our own joint bills, which I think is fair - he doesn't ask me to pay for his hobbies.
 
OldNag said:
See, that's my method. If they look the same it doesn't really count ;)
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That's how I feel and also we are having so much fun with all of them I don't really care what anyone thinks.

Jenni_ said:
That is amazing!!!!
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Thanks. I've got to admit that isn't even all the Palominos 🙊 but the two on the right are both older gents with so much to teach my daughter, big one is on loan, little one was less than meat money including most of his tack and rugs. He is a BS pony who just fell into the wrong situations numerous times (very fast and sharp). I didn't go looking for either of them, my palomino magnet drew them here!
 
I'm the main breadwinner and have been for awhile, but I still fess up a ballpark figure every now and then. Hubby is never interested in specifics though :D he seems to have accepted that we have a huge horse shaped sinkhole in our budget.
 
Mine is slightly more likely to hide the truth from me regarding our horses...seeing as we own 13 between us! We're very honest though about what we both pay for our horses because sometimes we need to split it down the middle, sometimes he pays for things and I'll pay for the next thing etc. It's a joint enterprise and I wouldn't have it any other way!
 
Mine saw what I was like without a horse way back in 1991 when I had 5 years off with a neck injury. He actually plotted with my mum to get me another.

Since then we have moved and keep horses at home, and he has been fully immersed, so knows the price of everything. Happily he is someone who likes to do everything right, and in fact is more spend-free than I am!

Now Jay is off work (mild wobblers) it is him and mum again who are pressing for another ride-able one to be added. He wants me to spend more than I think is sensible, and is also planning on a new saddle!

Apparently I have been grumpy with no horse to ride, have lessons on and compete.

I do earn my share as in equal pay, and at first I paid for it all where horse expenses was concerned, but now they are at home he sees them as family pets and so pays for more and more. He is the one who financed the small box.
 
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Mine knows how much they cost as he used to work close to the feed store so I'd often ask him to pick up a bag of this or that. I get occasional token grumbles but when I approached the idea of selling them due to my health he refused to even consider it. They have helped me to work towards getting out of the house and are part of my recovery so they're going no-where.
When I don't have money for them, he will pass his my way and is paying for my lessons just now.
He does however refuse to let me buy any more headcollars - the ponies only have about 4 each.
 
I always tell the truth. I'm spending my own money and I'm a grown woman, if I want more horses or pricey shoes or whatever, what of it? I think if I was spending his money, I'd be even more scrupulous about full disclosure tbh!?
 
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