SonnysHumanSlave
Well-Known Member
I'd like him just to push a wheelbarrow once in a while.... But.... I'm happy for him to just pay my livery and horse bills lol.
Do you want your partner to like hoses?
- Thread starter Vindicated
- Start date
Dizzydusty
Well-Known Member
My OH was non horsey when I met him....now he is an assistant BSJA coursebuilder, has kitted out the living in my lorry, brings in, feeds, changes rugs, mucks out, fills haynets, grooms, in fact everything but ride....hes 6'4 and I have a 15.2 cob, so just a little big for him, however he is desperate to learn! I have been told if I could clone him I would make a fortune lol.
We both work full time, and don't live together, so if he didn't get involved with my horse, I probably wouldn't see much of him. He is also a great groom at shows, and a dab hand at putting up the ramp, will call dressage and has been offered bacon rolls to do it for other people without callers and doesn't think twice about mucking in to put jumps away. I love it....and him
We both work full time, and don't live together, so if he didn't get involved with my horse, I probably wouldn't see much of him. He is also a great groom at shows, and a dab hand at putting up the ramp, will call dressage and has been offered bacon rolls to do it for other people without callers and doesn't think twice about mucking in to put jumps away. I love it....and him
blitznbobs
Well-Known Member
Husband has cars I have horses... Would like him to be into horses if I'm honest but he isn't and it doesn't matter...
orionstar
Well-Known Member
My oh will put fences up until the cows come home but I gave up getting him to like the horse the day I aksed him to take Affy to the field as i had my other mare to take and she managed to get her back legs caught on a hosepipe i didnt know was there, then spin oh half round 360 degrees (hose pipe was now wrapped around his legs), then she took off taking him off his feet and down the drive - hose pipe still around his ankles. It was horrible at the time but now I can laugh about it. He Cant!
WelshTilly
Well-Known Member
Ditto mines also into motorsport spending his weekends at racetracks me with the horse i like my time away although i try to go to some of his events and support him if i can .... if he wanted to get into horses i wouldnt stop him however he has made it clear he isnt interested and seeing as he wont even come up the yard i think im safe for the forseeable future!!
Whoopit
Well-Known Member
Mine boyfriend isn't into horses - his knowledge extends as far as knowing they like carrots. It keeps our time seperate so we're not living in each others pockets and that's the way I like it
now_loves_mares
Well-Known Member
My OH and I have been together for 11 years. He had never been near a horse when we met (though I believe was familiar with hoses 
). Since then, he took 3 riding lesson and announced he can now ride 
. Between then and 3 years ago he had very very little involvement, and just wondered where I went to all the time. However now we keep the horses at home, and frankly it's imperative he has some knowledge. He likes them enough, but the more he sees of them the more he thinks I'm nuts, he just doesn't understand why I'd be such a slave.
He now knows how to do headcollars and rugs; that stable doors must always be bolted, that you can't smoke near the stables, that gates must be securely shut. He knows not to feed the dry sugar beet, and how to make their feeds up. He knows how to do the ramps or partitions on the trailer. He helps me move the haylage. He knows the words laminitis and colic, learnt how to recognise colic in my recently PTS mare, can tie up haynets and tie quick release knots (sort of
).
All this is essential because every so often I have to rely on him to help. If I was at a yard, he'd probably come and pat them once a year, and that would be fine for me. I have no desire to see him take up riding. He's into biking (mountain biking and road cycling) and I have very generously allowed him to use one of "my" stables for his bikes
). Since then, he took 3 riding lesson and announced he can now ride . Between then and 3 years ago he had very very little involvement, and just wondered where I went to all the time. However now we keep the horses at home, and frankly it's imperative he has some knowledge. He likes them enough, but the more he sees of them the more he thinks I'm nuts, he just doesn't understand why I'd be such a slave.He now knows how to do headcollars and rugs; that stable doors must always be bolted, that you can't smoke near the stables, that gates must be securely shut. He knows not to feed the dry sugar beet, and how to make their feeds up. He knows how to do the ramps or partitions on the trailer. He helps me move the haylage. He knows the words laminitis and colic, learnt how to recognise colic in my recently PTS mare, can tie up haynets and tie quick release knots (sort of
).All this is essential because every so often I have to rely on him to help. If I was at a yard, he'd probably come and pat them once a year, and that would be fine for me. I have no desire to see him take up riding. He's into biking (mountain biking and road cycling) and I have very generously allowed him to use one of "my" stables for his bikes
Honey08
Waffled a lot!
I love that my husband is horsey. I don't quite understand why people don't want their OHs to be involved in the biggest thing in their life.
My husband had ridden ten years before we met (he and his BF thought it would be a way to pick up girls!!). He then married wife no1 who didn't ride, and stopped. They got divorced, and a few years later he met me, and had a go on my horse (who has hated him from day 1!). She ran off with him. He kept trying! We moved her to my parents, and got another little mare for company (12h, but 17h of attitude) who also bossed him around. By this time he was looking after them while I was away on trips. We later got engaged. He bought me a lovley ring, I bought him a lovely ISH (dumb gelding who is as affectionate as the mares were grumpy!). He rides really well, and his son started too, and is now doing really well. Hubby doesn't compete, but always comes to events with me, and shows with his son. He is not a public person, but is the best groom!!
I don't know how you get away with being so dirty and smelly if your OH isn't horsey!
My husband had ridden ten years before we met (he and his BF thought it would be a way to pick up girls!!). He then married wife no1 who didn't ride, and stopped. They got divorced, and a few years later he met me, and had a go on my horse (who has hated him from day 1!). She ran off with him. He kept trying! We moved her to my parents, and got another little mare for company (12h, but 17h of attitude) who also bossed him around. By this time he was looking after them while I was away on trips. We later got engaged. He bought me a lovley ring, I bought him a lovely ISH (dumb gelding who is as affectionate as the mares were grumpy!). He rides really well, and his son started too, and is now doing really well. Hubby doesn't compete, but always comes to events with me, and shows with his son. He is not a public person, but is the best groom!!
I don't know how you get away with being so dirty and smelly if your OH isn't horsey!
bumblelion
Well-Known Member
My partner loves my horses and since having them at home has learnt to do basic things such as filling and hanging nets, skipping out although I don't think he'd ever get into them as he knows what hard work it is!! He has his cars, football and golf!!!
scatty_mare
Well-Known Member
Toffee44
Well-Known Member
Well I come home smelling of horse p**s and s**t or smelling of hospital as he calls it when at work.
He comes home smelling of cow s**t, horse s**t and if its bad day pig s**t
and we have three big dogs in the house (who I regulary defrost tripe for)
MAN I LOVE INCENSE STICKS AND FREBREZE
BlueCakes
Well-Known Member
I never cared whether my OH was horsey as it was my hobby. If they didn't like it then they would have to go. Luckilly my OH loves my horse and will trot him round occasionally or walk him off. He has dreams of showjumping but he's a little far from that yet having only cantered on the lunge XD. I think its more important to have an OH that respects your hobby rather than having to be a part of it. X
dibbin
Well-Known Member
I've managed to persuade mine to take up riding - the trade off was that I have to learn to ski It's mainly because he has dreams of going on a ranching holiday, and I pointed out he'd get more out of it if he learned to ride first.
He's enjoying it so far (he's had 4 lessons and I've taken him out on my sister's horse twice), and has bought his own hat and boots, it's so cute! Only problem is he's got hayfever and appears to be allergic to hay dust/shavings - a very convenient mucking out allergy ...
It's mainly because he has dreams of going on a ranching holiday, and I pointed out he'd get more out of it if he learned to ride first.He's enjoying it so far (he's had 4 lessons and I've taken him out on my sister's horse twice), and has bought his own hat and boots, it's so cute! Only problem is he's got hayfever and appears to be allergic to hay dust/shavings - a very convenient mucking out allergy ...
Pachamama
Well-Known Member
My OH is horsey and he actually covets my horse. He has got very good taste, it has to be said. It wouldn't bother me if an OH didn't like my horse as long as he didn't interfere.
domane
Well-Known Member
My husband is a very placid, animal-lover anyway and although he had never been near horses until he met me, he's very good with them and because of his calm nature, they seem to naturally radiate to him. He'd ridden a couple of times but was always happy to help with grooming, mucking out, lifting heavy stuff etc... happy to be around them but not got the "passion" like I have. However, this year, we acquired Clydie X, Jack and suddenly OH's interest has stepped up a gear. He's now having lessons, hacking out and I think Jack will ultimately become his horse!
Oh... and he likes hoses too... he's a gardener by profession!
Oh... and he likes hoses too... he's a gardener by profession!
jeeve
Well-Known Member
I can't say it's something I've ever considered. I mean, hoses are really useful for filling water buckets and I use one for bathing the horse sometimes and I don't exactly dislike them, but I don't think my partner liking them would be essential....
... oh you mean horses!
This camel likes hoses
AndiK
Well-Known Member
OH = Fishing
Me = Horses
Both = Beagles
Works fine Mainly because OH's fishing costs as much as my horse
Me = Horses
Both = Beagles
Works fine
Mainly because OH's fishing costs as much as my horse
Last edited:
jeeve
Well-Known Member
all I can say is be careful what you wish for.
My OH was a bit interested but did lose interest, because, he (a) had other pre existing interests and limited time, and (b) realised how much time and money they consumed, so while we did spend some of our courtship and the first 6 -12 months of married life doing horsey things together, he is lucky if he sees my horses in excess of half a dozen times a year.
He does count them when he comes out, and he does notice if there is an extra one in the paddock. That and scanning his credit card bill for any horse related items, is about the extent of his interest. He did suggest today that he thought we had 3 extras and what was I going to do about it, but I am deaf.
My OH was a bit interested but did lose interest, because, he (a) had other pre existing interests and limited time, and (b) realised how much time and money they consumed, so while we did spend some of our courtship and the first 6 -12 months of married life doing horsey things together, he is lucky if he sees my horses in excess of half a dozen times a year.
He does count them when he comes out, and he does notice if there is an extra one in the paddock. That and scanning his credit card bill for any horse related items, is about the extent of his interest. He did suggest today that he thought we had 3 extras and what was I going to do about it, but I am deaf.
planete
Well-Known Member
I definitely do not want my other half to be even slightly interested in horses. When we manage to spend time together I like getting away from the horses and doing something different. I am also far too opinionated and impatient to have a novice rider/handler around my feet!
Ibblebibble
Well-Known Member
it was my hubby who encouraged me to get back into riding and eventually get my own horse he was very fond of her and did hack her out occasionally, when we lost her i think it kind of ruined it for him, he's been on my big girl once and that was only because i called him a big girl for being scared of her lol
He used to help out with field maintenance but now he works outdoors for a living doing gardening and stuff he's not so keen
he was very fond of her and did hack her out occasionally, when we lost her i think it kind of ruined it for him, he's been on my big girl once and that was only because i called him a big girl for being scared of her lolHe used to help out with field maintenance but now he works outdoors for a living doing gardening and stuff he's not so keen