Do your partners help pay for the horses?

Good god no!! :eek: :eek: the mere mention of horses brings him up in a rash!! I don't expect him to as the horse is mine, he has no interest in him, but then again he wouldn't expect me to pay for his motorbike or accessories for it. As long as we put money in the joint account which covers house bills, han food and dog food, anything left over is our own "pocket money" we have no kids, it has worked for the last 9 years :( :( :(
 
No, he doesn't pay towards them and I don't expect him to, however when we have been at the shop buying a bag of feed he has sometimes paid for that. He doesn't object to me having them and likes to get involved now and again, so I don't ask more than that.
 
He pay for half the household bills. I used to do the big shops as well but I have really cut back on that and try and spend as much as he does (about £20-£30 pw from what I can gather)

I guess it's just that half the household bills represents a lot less of his income than mine, and he could help but instead he'd rather I failed and that me and my daughter got out of horses all together. Of course bear in mind you're only hearing my "side" of things, it's a complex situation.
 
I guess mine does ...I work as a Teaching Assistant for children with special needs so my salary is rubbish! He is the main breadwinner by a long way.
Also we have 2 horses and one is our daughters pony so I like to think that I cover my horses bills and he pays for hers. He doesn't complain, he knows we are both happy and loves coming to watch our daughter compete. We only buy what we need and rent cheap grazing and do it all ourselves before and after work and school so no big livery bills. He has just given me the go ahead to view another pony for our daughter at the weekend as she's needing the next size up, so I guess he could soon be paying for 2 lol! I know I am lucky he is very supportive.
 
No my OH and i would not pay towards his expensive hobby....my ex husband didn't either so i am used to it :)

However my OH does offer to get his hands dirty often and never complains how much time or money i spend on them :)
 
When the mare I had on loan had to be pts my OH saw how upset I was and offered to help pay towards a new horse in the end he lent me the money and I paid him back. He did then fork out £700 for a saddle and I haven't got round to paying him back yet but I will one day.

He also lets me send him a wish list from rideaway to give him christmas ideas :-)
 
skint1 said:
Nope, and he wouldn't under any circumstances, as I have recently discovered, and he easily could, He'd rather I didn't have any, and he'll probably get his way eventually.
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Mine 2 whines on about my 2 boys...'u spend too much time at the yard, how much did that cost? HOW MUCH is the vet bill this month?!what's wrong with him now?' lol...he has made it clear he wouldn't care if I didn't have any and would prefer if I didn't as it would mean I could actually save for a mortgage:rolleyes: He was horrified when I set about my mission on buying a little 3.5 ton box but came and checked it for me at the viewing and understood it was what I wanted and that I would be prepared to sell it at an instant if I got into financial difficulty. The majority of people at my yard have husbands that pay. One is a full time mum so understandable but there are a couple whose partners hand out the money every month despite them having full time jobs themselves! lucky people!
 
Joint account. Joint money. He never comments on what the horses cost to keep, which with four at livery is the size of many a mortgage (I think I'm the one that whittles most lol). He also mucks out, brings in/turns out, poo picks (including cycling 12 mile round trip to the last yard to do it), holds for farrier/dentist/vet, as well as works (luckily from home for our own company) and manages all the household stuff. I work away/have long commutes, so we've learnt to balance everything. He's not at all horse orientated, though likes to see me n D1 compete, and does take carrots up to the neds and gives them cuddles. The horses make me n D1 happy, so he's happy. He knows that if he developed a strong interest in something, we'd give him equal support :D
 
We both have jobs ( his much better than mine ) but with that cones the joint account so everything goes in and comes out regardless of what it's for...all our animals get what they need , not just the horses , but dogs , cats , poultry etc...he was pretty miffed when i had to pay £98 to the vets for initial injections for the two kittens , but what can you do , if you want to do anything as a hobby in life , it usually costs a fourtune. My OH is into mountain biking , has two bikes , one of which costs over £2k :eek:, so i rest my case.:)
 
Mine doesn't pay anything towards the horses and I would never expect/want him to.

Obviously if I was in dire straits and needed help with a vet bill or something he would help then but otherwise they are my horses and my responsibility and I am fine with that :)
 
I don't work since having our little boy so my husband pays for all my horse stuff. He knows it's something I 'need' almost and I feel very fortunate. He is so lovely he even pays for nursery three sessions a week so I can ride during the day.
 
Wow, some people are very lucky indeed (including me compared to some others!) ;):)
We both work full time, although my hubby earns more than I do. We have a young daughter and a big mortgage so it's a case of needs must I suppose :(. I would be able to work part time IF I was prepared to sell Bailey but my hubby would never ask me to do that and I know that unless we were in danger of losing the house or couldn't pay for things for our daughter he would fight tooth & nail for me to be able to keep Bailey.
He's resigned to the fact that we'll probably end up with another soon enough as our daughter appears to be obsessed with them already (especially Hovis but that's another post!) I don't think he'll complain one bit about paying for anything to do with a pony for her, especially if he sees how much she loves it! She just needs to show him to baby blues and he'll give her anything she asks for...a typical Daddy with his little girl I guess :)
 
Absolutely not. They are mine, I wanted them, I pay for them.

I don't pay for his hobbies, so he shouldn't pay for mine. After 25yrs thats not going to change!

Neither does he help me with them as he is totally not interested. About a month ago I was away for the night and could not get anyone to turn them out in the morning for me, so I had to ask him. Bless him, he did do it, but it took him an hour and a half to turn 9 of them out, and when I got home he complained non stop about the mud!
 
No mine doesn;t and I don't want or expect him to. I earn considerably more than him. We pay equal amounts into a joint account for mortgage and bills, and then the rest of our money is seperate. I buy all the food, and often things such as heating oil etc, and pay for the horses myself.

All I ask is that he doesn;t complain how much I spend on them, and he never does. Equally, I don;t complain that he has road bike, a motocross bike, a mountain bike and a road racing push bike...

I would never want to be in a position where I relied on someone else to pay for the horses.
 
My OH is totally non-horsey but bought me my first horse as a suprise (was already riding her)

Although he doesnt often come to the yard he helps out with fencing etc when needed - loves driving round on ride-on mower !!!! bless

He doesnt pay anything towards the horses and I pay the extra on the mortgage to cover what it cost to buy the land etc. However, he has suprised me with a brand new ifor 505 and has just paid to upgrade our 4x4 (which only I use) so he is a little star ! He earns more than me but we split the household bills down the middle and his only hobby is the motorbike which isnt a big expenses in comparison to the nags.

Like most OH's I think he is ok with it all as it makes me so happy (and deep down he knows if I have the horses I wont want kids haha) - he pretends not to be interested but then I overhear him relaying little stories about things that have happened with the nags !
 
We share our finances so yes.

He is the soft touch who buys Hovis treats and lickits.

He rides Hovis for me when hes being naughty or my knee is killing me, clips him for me, injects him if it ever needs doing, sometimes holds him for the farrier if i can't be there.

He drives me all over in the lorry, found me a cheap bedding source and drives me to load the lorry up, over the last few weeks has injected another horse on our yard because the owner was a bit scared and last weekend spent the day putting up clear plastic in my friends horses stable to try to lessen his wind sucking.

Not to mention over the last year stood in a lot of cold fields all day supporting me with Hovis book. He even cooked everyone breakfast on the lorry at several of the shows.

He has his moments but on the whole he is rather fab!
 
No, he doesn't pay anything towards my horse and I don't think he should. I wouldnt fund his football. We both work full time and he does earn more than me however I make sure I earn enough to cover all my bills, half the mortgage etc and my horse. I would hate to rely on someone else to pay for me and if I did I'd be in a mess if we split up! However, he is always willing to lend me money when I need it.
 
Nope and I wouldn't expect (want!) him to. :D

We both work - I earn considerably more. We both have our own bank accounts which our salaries go into and then we each pay a percentage of our salaries into a joint account.

The joint account pays for everything joint - mortgage, bills, food, cats, dog, days/evenings out, family presents, holidays etc. Anything left at the end of the month goes into a joint savings account.

Our sole accounts we can spend and run as we like (including buying each other Christmas/birthday presents etc).

I have my horse, he has his golf. That said we bought a Jeep from the joint account as I needed a towing car, but then we also bought a Prius from the joint account as he needed a run around for his golf clubs! :p
 
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