does anyone got ridiculous seperation anxiety when leaving their ned?

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A silly post really, just hoping I'm not the only pathetic one! :(

Have come to liverpool for the weekend for a friends birthday and last night (admittedly I was a bit squiffy) I felt on the verge of tears because I missed my Bails, and now I've woken up (no longer drunk) and feel anxious because its cold today and I'm not there to determine if he needs a warmer rug on or go up early and see if the water's frozen etc.

Its driving me crazy and I feel so pathetic! Last time I left him for a few days he got choke and I've always felt awful about not being there for him.

My mum is looking after him so I'm sure he'll be fine but I just can't stop worrying!

Anyone else ever get like this when they have to go away for a few days? Feel like a right weirdo!!!
 
Yep, me. I keep mine at home so with them 24/7 really. We went away for a long weekend and I must have texted my friend who was looking after them about 100 times and get all panicky if she didn't answer straight away. I'm very sad!
 
Yes i'm so bad it has ruined holidays. We tend not to go for more than a week and only every other year. Planned an awesome honeymoon for 2-3 weeks which may kill me. Thing is my horses are generally very well behaved for whoever looks after them and they enjoy their time off ridden work!
 
Yep me too. I hate leaving my dog and my horses :( I do worry although I know they are all in good hands its just not the same as doing it myself.

I am in fact taking the dog with us on my next holiday, I wonder if I could squeeze the horses in the car too :)
 
I do too :( I'd been getting loads better but then pony injured himself when we were away this time so I'm sure ill be in super paranoid mode next time ;) I've also got to get my head around sending my boy away for 12 weeks, even though I can pop down and see him he'll be 2.5hrs away so not exactly down the road either :(
 
I've learnt to enjoy the time away from them and to allow them a break. Facebook and whatsapp are brilliant, get pics and updates of them and I can chill out !
 
Yes - I'm the same, I very rarely leave them, and even then, not for longer than 1 night... I stress all the time I'm away about them :-(

I think its worse because they're older now too..
 
I do. I hate it when i go on holiday, which i do every year for the sake of the kids and the OH. 4 years ago i went away for 2 weeks and my eldest horse had to be pts on the first day of my holiday through having colic and a twisted gut :(. I now dread every holiday which is now only ever for 1 week.
 
I didn't suffer too badly until I came back from holiday this summer. I was faced with a very poorly pony which didn't help but I knew the yard had done their best so that was ok. However it was once she was better they've informed me that from the day after i left she refused to eat any feed and was depressed! Now the girls are sensible but even they think she was missing me. This has me torn, what do I do when I go away again if she will only eat if I'm there? She was never attached to me until after our accident a couple of years ago when I was so broken I couldn't see her for 6 months. Now she's attaches to me like glue. I'm trying to get friends to fees her with me then odd days without me but she refuses to eat until I'm back.
 
I often go away for work for a couple of days at a time so I have to deal with it but I really miss my boy. I didn't see him for 4 days this week beacuase of work.

When I've gone away for 2 or 3 weeks I usually cry when I leave him and my kitties. But then once I'm away I'm ok as they are in good hands but I always look forward to coming home.
 
I do! I really don't like leaving my boy. The first time I did I got a phone call saying the RSPCA had visited the yard as they'd had concerns regarding my horse, who was apparently neglected! The inspector was more than happy, he had a thick rug on, big bed, lots of hay and food! Turned out it was my ex boyfriend who called them :(
 
Not so fussed about leaving Ned, he's got CCTV over his field and YO can see him all the time, even though he's not mine yet, she'd let me know if something went wrong!

I do worry about the dog though. She went on hols with my parents and had a stroke. I'm so paranoid about leaving her, or her leaving me!!
 
Yup! Sometimes, especially on a weekend and much to my OH's annoyance ( even though he's horsey) I'll go back to the yard just for horsey cuddles cos I miss them! :o
 
yes just back from being a way for a few days and really missed them. OH would like us to go away again in a couple of weeks but i feel guilty leaving them again so soon although they were/will be in good hands. think i worry more about them at this time of year than in spring/summer.
 
I know how you feel, I too can't help but worry if someone else is seeing to my boy for me! I've had him over 12 years now and could only trust very few people to look after him if I couldn't be there. I was away for the weekend recently and insisted that the OH phoned each morning and evening just to let me know everything was ok, but he did even better than that, he sent me photos by text! I seem to worry a little worse at the mo, as he lost his field mate a few weeks ago, still has a couple of shetlands for company, but I can't help it.

As long as you've got people that you can really trust to help when needed, everything will be ok. I've learnt over the years that things like choke and colic can happen at any time to any horse, wether you're there or not!
 
Yep had Leo 5 months and if I don't go up every day I actually miss him, it's feels weird and I don't like it! Lol! :) I've only left him for a max of 2 days when I've been away for the weekend but I didn't like leaving him and not being around to make sure he's ok!
 
Mine are at home with me and when we go away on holiday we only go an hour and half drive away so that I can get home quickly should I need to. We take our dogs with us and I wish I could take my horses too. We were away a few years back and my loan horse that had gone back to his owner while we were on holiday had to be PTS while I was away, I was devestated he was a horse in a million and I don't think there will ever be another like him. His owner decided not to tell me until I got back off holiday not to spoil it for me, now I worry incase that happens again but I have made it very clear to everyone that I do not want it kept from me again I would rather know.
 
I have to go away for several weeks at a time as my husband lives and works overseas. As soon as I land I start to miss the horses which gets worse the longer Im away. I have even been known to get someone to take laptop down to the stables so I can see and talk to the horses on Skype.

As soon as I am home again, I start to miss hubby and spend every night talking to him on Skype. Dont know how id cope without it. But Im in a lose lose situation anyway
 
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