Does anyone successfully manage twins and their horse?

[Jane H]

I just wondered, because I am expecting twins in September (no kids currently), and I have no idea whatsoever how I will manage to fit any horsey time in...

My horrible suspicion is that under the pressure of job/twins the thing that will get squeezed is horse...

My husband is non horsey, but fantastic in every other way and will def try to help, but I just wondered if anyone knows anybody that has been in this situation??

Thanks!

Jane H

 

[custard]

My sister had twins and her husband was an arshole when they arrived, he actually stopped at home to watch the FA cup final when she came out of hospital and my mum had to take her home!

Anyway, I think if your husband is prepared to comit to a couple of housr a day (shouldnt kill him) having sole charge of the kids it should give you enough time.

 

[juliebrewer]

Congratulations how lovely. If you have a helpfull husband it will go a long way. It means you'll have 'me' time which you'll need and your figure with come back quicker. Good babies sleep alot so for the first 18mths you can do the horses when they are due for there sleep and keep a close eye on them whilst they are asleep in the car/pram. Get a baby walkie talkie so you can hear them while you do your chores. Just be extra organised and you'll be fine. Dont forget you wont go full term with twins so make sure someone will look after them for the first week at least after you've had them (if naturel birth). If you have Cesser then you need to take 3 months off to heal.... good luck..

 

[Rosiefell]

Firstly,congratulations!
I have four children

,the "middle" two are twins. I am fortunate that my husband is very domesticated and puts up with me disappearing occasionally on various equine "missions"!
That said you may have to accept that there will be less time for the horse,but then that time becomes even more precious. I am proof it can be done,I currently have four horses but they all live out and if I do any competing it's only at local level. My mare has had a lot of time off,but I feel it hasn't done her any harm (she's 11 now) and she is the sort you can pick up and put down.

 

[henryhorn]

Well I did but with lots of help!
The biggest advicei s that the first five weeks you will be very very tired so arrange for the horse to be looked after by someone else if at all possible.
My pair fed every two hours and took an hour to feed. (yes for 24 hours so you don't get a lot of sleep)
I expressed milk with a machine for three weeks then bottle fed them because I was running a busy riding school and had to work.
You will find one will happily wait to be fed whilst the other won't.. So don't panic about both screaming at once. Also they settle better because they are never alone.
I would say accept any offers of help you get, don't try to be houseproud etc and once you get them into a routine it's ok..
Horsy people make cracking parents because they are well used to looking for signs of ill health and are well used to feeding one end, mopping up the results the other!
I ended up having another two and a half years later and that was hard, three under three years of age plus several businesses was hard work.
Mine are now all adults but I hav some good pics of me looking totally wiped out with two babies at 4am..!
pm me any questions, I managed ok, and I'm no superwoman believe me.

 

[Happytohack]

Congratulations. I am sure you will be fine. Babies are like horses - they like a routine. And all that fresh air up at the yard will make them sleep like - well like babies

Seriously though, don't expect to be superwoman, lots of people will offer to help, so make sure you let them. Your horse won't mind having a bit of time off and your husband sounds a poppit

 

[Jane H]

Crikey!

You sound like superwoman to me!!

Thanks for letting me know there is hope! I had to move him to a cheaper place as I am not currently riding (too much pressure not to from... well everyone really!) and I was heartbroken at the time, but actually its been the best thing I could have done because I can do DIY when I want but there are two other girls that can cover it when I need full, which is absolutely brilliant.

Still a little bit in denial about even being pregnant let alone with two (I am 37!) - desperately hoping NOT to have little princesses who want to waer pink sparkly shoes and not wellies...!

Thanks again

Jane