Does your OH/partner like your horse?

My OH comes to the yard every day, he mucks out my 2yo for me and entertains my 3yo when im mucking him out. He went from never having done anything with horses to mucking out straw beds, putting on a headcollar, he put on a bridle the other day too bless him. He prefers my 2yo and has decided he'll be crash test dummy next year. Ha!
When i met him there wasn't a hope in hell id get on a motorbike, 4 months on and i'll happily go wherever on the back. Its nice to be able to share our hobbies i think :)
 
He understands what my horse means to me, but I don’t expect him to ‘like’ him, he comes to the yard every now and then but he finds watching schooling very boring, he will go on the odd hack with us and this will probably increase now we have the dog, but I don’t see why he has to enjoy it, I don’t really enjoy watching his sports but have relented and said I might watch him play cricket when it’s sunny! :D

ETA: OH helped scoop a poo of the yard last week, his first ever poo removal in 4 years! (Mind you on the same day I asked him to hold my horses reins whilst I nipped off to get something and came back to find him holding onto the breast plate!)
 
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Yes, I think he likes them more than I do! He is always willing to help out when he can, goes up and does them by himself quite often and actually enjoys poo-picking!

He is not too keen on riding though, so wants to have Blossom broken to harness when we can afford it.

Although the horses are more for me, it is a shared interest of ours and it is lovely to be able to share it with him.
 
I'm very fortunate with my OH, he's really supportive and loves the ponies...he even won't let me sell my horse who is a little quirky and he rode him when I broke my leg to keep him going!

However my mum is very odd:
She was always horsey and always tells loads of horse stories from when she was younger, but whenever she visits and I ask her to watch me ride she just looks bored, or goes off for a smoke! I even have to ask her to put knocked poles up, I really expected her to know to do it without being asked.
Sister thinks that sadly she is jealous. She behaves very like your OH on his phone during your lesson. I find it a bit frustrating. She also wouldn't look after the ponies so we could go on holiday so they had to go to livery, even though she was off work and not doing anything else.
 
BoolavogueDC said:
Well considering mine bought my mare for us - I say us, but he has no designs on riding her but he loves being around horses. He bought more or less everything for her that I didn't have already and is constantly telling me "I'm off to see those three" (my mare and our two companions) I'd say he loves them just as much as me :)
He'd always come to watch me compete if I ever did, but doesn't come to watch me ride - although I can always rely on his help with stable duties, he'll even go up to do her himself when she was on livery.
He's pretty perfect :)
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Oh you lucky, lucky thing! He's wonderful!!

Mine loves my girl and I'm sure he would do a lot more practical things for her like he used to, but sadly he suffers with MS, so just can't. He did buy her for me though, bought her fitted saddle and is always there with his wallet if I'm broke and she needs anything.;)

He sends me out to ride when I'm in a bad mood, so I'll come home smiling and wishes that he had bought a horse for me years ago!:D
 
Well I sold the only horse my OH liked and enjoyed riding! He's never quite forgiven me! He doesn't mind my current horse but would never ride him, he had one go on him last year for literally 15 seconds and then he got off very quickly - my current horse is a very sensitive TB type though so totally doesn't suit him, he can ride but is a bit flappy and heavy with his bum so more suited to my last horse (a slower reacting WB). My OH has been to events with me to help if I need him, but my mum comes most of the time so he's not required ;) He generally wouldnt choose to come or bother helping with the horses but I dont really mind. I like that we have seperate hobbies, I cant do with couples who do every single thing together! My OH's main gripe about horses is simply the cost of them!
 
My OH was horsey when I met him, and now we have 3 between us :D

He didn't want me to buy my little ex racer last summer, not that he didn't like him, but thought he was too old and had raced too much. Horse is such a sweetie that it didn't take long for them to bond, now he loves him as much as the other 2 ;)
 
Mine does, although I don't really think he takes in that he's a scruffy native pony.

Every horse we see that's any shade of brown regardless of if it's a native type or a 17hh tb he will say 'that horse looks like Alfie'

Bless :-)
 
OH wasn't horsey at all - didn't really like my 2 big chaps but would lead the wooly grey one in from the field but not jerry, he did take lots of photos of him though and bought me a big canvas picture of jerry :)
Since getting the other 2 he is much more involved - he loves the little yearling, I see the cuddles etc lol will go and get her from the field and make me lead the welshie lol - he even helps muck out! Fills haynets
 
No he doesn’t like him, he doesn’t trust and won’t have anything to do with him, he think’s it’s possessed by the devil!

Although he’s not horsey I will give him credit because in the past he always used to help out, come to the shows with me and at times even ride out with me, he’s pretty clued up about horses (although he won't show it and to look at him you wouldn't think it) as he’s leant a lot over the years and every so often comes out with something and I think eh :eek: but he will not give them the time of day now, he’ll pet the mare and say hello to her but won’t go near our Macker. :rolleyes:

We do try to spend time together over the weekend every so often, Sunday afternoons otherwise I’d just spend all my time at the yard, so yes sometimes he can get a bit jealous but he does have a point, so have to respect that and try to balance it out to keep him sweet while still being committed to the horses etc.

I do think it's important to put time aside for your OH's.
 
OH wasn't horsey at all - didn't really like my 2 big chaps but would lead the wooly grey one in from the field but not jerry, he did take lots of photos of him though and bought me a big canvas picture of jerry :)
Since getting the other 2 he is much more involved - he loves the little yearling, I see the cuddles etc lol will go and get her from the field and make me lead the welshie lol - he even helps muck out! Fills haynets etc - when he's staying for the weekend and I have a long shift he will do them both himself! Really surprised me tbh as he's a proper townie :p
 
My OH loves Dolly!!! And she LOVES him and his apples, and polos and the revels I caught him sharing with her last night!!!

Daughter goes into stable, Dolly's ears go forwards she looks happy and has a quick nuzzle. I walk into stable - I get a quick ears forwards, then straight back with a "don't think you're going to make me do anything" look. OH walks to door of stable, Dolly rushes straight over, happy face, practically foaming at the mouth! They LOVE each other!!

He comes to 99% of daughters lessons, shows, cleans tack, is currently renovating the horsebox we've just bought and generally is massively involved in daughters (and mine now, I suppose!) hobby!!

He's just telephoned me really excited and giddy because of a cool saddle we've just seen on the internet!! He talked daughter out of pelham and into snaffle recently.

He's the best! :D

And he's massively allergic - off the scale it's that bad! He has to have two injections at the hospital every 4 weeks to keep him out of hospital (almost anaphalactic shocked a few times) together with lots of steriods, inhalers and tablets. And still he loves her!!

He dreams one day he'll build up a resistance and it won't be a problem anymore. :o

I love him, and daughter and Dolly!! :D

(sorry! bleh!!!!) :o
 
He was terrified of them when I met him having been jumped over by one of his mum's shire horses when he was a little boy :p so when I went to buy a little youngster he fell in love with another one from the herd and we bought two coloured boys. He doesn't look after him as much as I do but the youngster behaves better for him!
Now I'm training mine up and his is doing a bit more growing up and I purchased a mare last year, she is the complete opposite of his laid-back youngster, she's a typical welsh mare and can be stressy and flighty so he doesn't go near her unless he's chucking a haynet up or giving her some water! I don't really blame him, she's had loads of bad experiences of men so doesn't like them!
 
No, I doubt if he could even remember my horse's name:mad:
Certainly he only ever refers to "the horse".

Does cheese me off a bit as I make sure I support him in his various sporting activities, and listen to the reports at the end of it.

Hey ho!:rolleyes::(
 
Mine is more than happy to give me the odd morning off and will go feed them (his offer, I never ask) or he'll just come up and help, he's offered to come help exercise them (all fairly easy polo / polocrosse ponies). If I was ever short of cash and they needed something he'd help me out. He's not that interested in watching me compete as that ivolves a long trip and camping in a field being bored most of the day but he's coming to the final day of nationals as thats my birthday, he has no option with that one :D
He also has his own hobbies (shooting) and we never get after each other about how long we spend doing our thing. He's just perfect really :D
 
My partner is just great. When we first met, I was in between horses and was working all the hours God sends and was pretty miserable. We moved to the Midlands, and horses came back into my life.
He knows that horses make me happy, so he is happy.

He comes out walking with me sometimes on a hack. My old pony is quite slow at times, so he always manages to out run her when we canter! But we have a laugh, and he loves my horses as much as I do.

He will poo pick, help me bring the horses in and maybe give one of them a curry comb over,and will come out to shows when Ive saved up enough money to buy a trailer. I think it's just an excuse to drive a big wagon!

My old boyfriend was the opposite, he resented my horse. When he came to the yard he would stand inside the horse's stable staring through the grill at me sulking. I guess it's not everyones cup of tea, and I was only with him for 18 months. I finished with him when I found my current partner of 13 years!!!.
 
She tries to like my horse, but he makes it difficult. He had bitten her on a boob, tried to knock her over several times and as soon as she turns up he pulls the "Come and have a go if you think you're hard enough" face. Its a heirarchy thing. He is fine when she rides him.
 
My OH gets on very well with my horse, and the plan is that he'll "inherit" him in about ten years so they can gallop around and jump things together once OH is up to scratch and horsy is bored of going round in circles :D

OP - don't take it to heart. It's possible he's just not that keen on riding, and if you're not keen, with the best will in the world it's a bit dull watching lessons! My OH kitesurfs; I used to spend lots of time standing on beaches watching (booooring) and doing some kiting myself, but quite honestly it's just not my cup of tea so it tailed off. It's nothing to do with my OH or jealousy or anything else, I just don't enjoy his hobby enough to share it with him - maybe that's all it is? :)
 
OH grew up with horses, he used to ride my mums old mare until she was retired and since then has only been on my other boy a few times. He doesn't like my older horse as he worries about me on him, as he's a bit of a nutter and wants me to sell him.
And after years of begging for a new coloured pony he finally agreed to let me have one, only because he fell in love with it himself though! lol
 
OH doesn't generally have very much to do with my horse, but he doesn't dislike him and has been known to help me out with hay/livery bills as required :) He visits him on Christmas Day annually to give him a carrot
 
scrunchie said:
He did....until she broke his nose! :D
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Ooops :eek::D

Me and OH have been together since we were 16 (we are 30 & 31 now). I did manage to get him to ride a few times back at the start, he was very good too, perhaps it was down to him being a motorcyclist I don't know.
But he has no real interest bless him. I did get him on Seren as I brought her in from the field a few years ago, just gave him a leg up to get on :D.
I always say i want him to ride and he says he wants me to ride on his motorbike with him, neither happen :D
 
My hubby is fab. He rode before I met him, and I decided that he was a keeper when he stood in a draughty indoor arena on the top of a Yorkshire hill on a friday night, watching me show jump when we had only been together a month.

My horse has always detested him, and he is the only person she has bitten - and she will regularly go for his hair at every chance. If he kisses me while in her stable she goes to bite him. She is not affectionate with me - obviously doesn't do PDAs!

When we got engaged I bought him a lovely big soft gelding that will cuddle you all day, and I've caught him cuddling him quite often. He used to be scared of my mare, but is great at ignoring her and getting on with the job now!

I'm cabin crew, so often away, and he does all the horses - at one point we had four, now down to a civilised two. When I event he does all the driving and helps loads. He is a mechanic, and can get studs in a keen horse pre-jumping in record time! His son rides too, so we do a lot of standing around at pc too. Lately he rides less as we are doing up a house and he is doing a lot of that. His son ride his horse too now as he is getting very tall.

I couldn't be without a man who wasn't interested/shared my huge hobby. I used to have DIYs and one had to hide everything she'd bought/done, and get home for 5pm or her hubby would sulk - couldn't be bothered - but then he paid for everything!
 
I dont honestly know! He doesnt dislike both of them, he doesnt resent the time that I spend with them, and he's absolutely fine for me to spend all day at the yard, or take Mini TX out competing. He never minds if Mini TX is competing away either. However, he does dislike the money they cost, and grumbles about it sometimes. I do get annoyed about it, particularly as I am the major wage earner in the family, earning 4 times as much as him, and pay for pretty much everything, including my horses, while he gets all the income from our investment properties and I pay the mortgages on them (grhhhhhh).
 
my OH had been well trained :D
he will give jerry a good groom and pick out his feet and he knows how to lunge.
sadly he's too heavy for jerry (he's a big guy at around 18st) so he doesn't ride but he'll take him for a walk and let him have some grass or turn him out for me :)

he calls the horse a 'donkey' but I think he likes him, really..
jerry seems to like him - he knows OH always has treats :rolleyes:
 
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