Does your other half take any interest in your equine hobby??

my boyfriend isnt into horses WHATSOEVER. In fact the only competition hes ever come to watch he turned up late and made his way to the xc crossing the path of the last fence on the course with me shouting 'get out of the way!'

we do occasionally come up against it with regards to money (but doesnt everyone in every walk of life not just those involved with horses) and I think he has accepted the fact that if I didnt have horses I would a) be miserable as sin and b) would more than likely turn into a clothes/shoes/hair/spa/nails kind of girl with nothing else to do (ok fair enough I do enjoy these things very occasionally as a treat)

I think its good for us to have 'our own thing' to do and to be perfectly honest I couldnt think of anything worse than having a bloke who was with me and the neds morning, noon and night - its my 'me' time!
 
My OH isn't horsey in the slightest, he'd probably never been near a horse properly before he met me. But he does a bit now. He came to watch me ride a few times and quite enjoyed grooming and leading the horse about and then decided he wanted a go himself. He's ridden 3 times now, I'm hoping to take him to a riding centre for a hack for his birthday at the end of march. He came to a show with me once but seemed a little bored! He sounds willing enough in the future to help out with horses I have which is good, and he enjoys talking to them. I'm hoping I'll either teach him to ride better or get him to have proper lessons eventually so he can ride with me.
 
My OH isn't horsey at all - he's a cat person. However his extent of being involved is as follows:

Hear that pony daughter loved is up for sale - need an answer within 24 hours - he just looks at me and sighs - 'How much' and gets cheque book out

Daughter gets into competing - longingly looks at lorry advert - he again sighs, gets out chequebook and says ' How much'

Daughter joins Pony Club - each year camp comes around - again sighs, gets out chequebook and says 'How much'

Daugher grows - falls for very expensive horse - OH sighs - gets chequebook and sighs - 'How much'


Vet bill for annual vaccination arrives - husband rants 'HOW MUCH?!?!?!'

Ah well - can't win them all

Bless him
 
i havnt read all the replies to your post ..i will later...i just want to say that i am married to a man who has an active dislike to any animals that dont make money.......i had a dog when we were courting and he "pretended" to like her....when we got married and moved in together things were fine till i had a baby....suddenly he didnt want the dog in the house as it might effect the baby..so he said)..i was week after having the baby and put the dog out...she disapeared a week later and it was 6 years before he "allowed " me to have another dog....
anyway, i now have 6 horses two dogs and a bunch of rescue chickens...why not/!!! we have ten acres and i am a GROWN UP...but i am still not allowed my two rescue dogs in the house and every day i put up with chunnering over the "cost" of the animals....and how much time is spend with the horses ,..my kids now spend all their time outside with me and the animals, while he sits in the house watching telly,,,,,

if i had my time over again i would have made sure i was with a man with the same passions as me...i am a riding instructor and am passionate about my horses and animals....my life would be so much better if he accepted that.........................
 
Are you sure the cat hasn't got a home somewhere and someone isn't looking for it? If you haven't already perhaps you need to ask around, check at local cats home/vets to see if any one is missing one, some one out that could be quite upset that pussy has gone missing.

On the hubby front sounds like he's just having a little boy strop. Ignore it, he will get over it. Relationships are a two way thing and give and take and respect etc is needed on both sides, but I'm sure you must know this .. you married him!

Luckily for me although I don't consider my OH really horsey he is a bit of a softy with animals and totally loves my two horses, comes up to the yard to see them whenever he can, likes to be the one to get them in from the field and feed them and can even be relied on to do the odd weekend of mucking out ... though that does usually involve me having to be nice to him for about a week which can be a challenge!
 
You need to talk it over with him. If you cannot do that you need to consider your future with him. They do not improve over time. If you want to have kids you will find it gets even tougher with an OH like that.
 
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